Why not you?  

complexlysimple 34M
894 posts
8/7/2006 8:20 pm

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Why not you?

Okay, here's a question/problem that comes up rather often for me ...

A woman thinks/assumes that there can't be something between us ... and I tend to wondering why.

So ladies why aren't we curled up together ..or at least planning on doing so?

Or have I just not been told yet? ...

Marriage or being involved with someone else I'll leave alone (though whether I should or not is a topic for another time)... anything else I'm curious about ...age? (really not big issue as far as I'm concerned)

distance? (doesn't have to be all the time ...long distance things can work)

knowledge of each other? ...(you may not know me all that well now ...but I wouldn't expect that you'll really know me if you spend a life time with me)...

I'm not making any promises here ....but I'd like to know what you think the problem is ... I know for me a problem with a woman tends to be more a problem with me and my perception of her than it really is about her..

So what's your excuse?

Etherealbreeze 54F

8/7/2006 9:03 pm

None what so ever? Do I need one? Just maybe, have you ever thought, that the problem may be her perception of you?
You, blah, blah, blah(pardon, but I'm excruciatingly blunt and honest...a fault I realize...).
However, trying to keep my focus, you purposely put every female through a mind game to see how much she can take, then conveniently hide behind and I quote: " ...my perception of her..".
Has it perchance occurred to you that, out of fear of rejection, you fail to perceive that you and only you are sabotaging, your 'curling up' with someone.
You'll pardon, of course, my perception of reality, being my own.


I am Roz , a rose that's ephemeral and rare. Yet always here! Hugz!

complexlysimple replies on 8/8/2006 4:08 pm:
actually I find that rather interesting ..though I'm not sure that saying I 'purposely put every female through a mind game' is entirely true ..I can't say that it isn't because I don't know for sure.

Most of the time I really don't pay that much attention to people unless they're talking to me specifically ...kind of the 'absentminded professor' mindset if you will ..perhaps done by choice, perhaps not

Though I do know that much of the time I start talking about my life, people tend to think it's ..surreal or something that they've seen on TV and didn't think could be real ..even being here on AdultFriendFinder and chatting with ..well, you for example can be taken as a bit of a surprise... which I just don't understand, because to me it's a rather simple concept ...we sit down we type, the information can be seen world wide, so why wouldn't it be likely to be chatting with some one a long physical distance away?

BaronessK 52F

8/8/2006 1:30 am

Because you are a male who analyzes things, and most women aren't used to that, on any level.

Because you haven't said yes to any of my 'nasty' emails thoughts?

You've probably had 'hints' or whatever from several women...but even though you analyze thing...some emotions/motives aren't that easily analyzed or else in taking the time to do so you miss that 'window'.

"Marriage or being involved with someone else" meaning marrying someone and/or the person you're involved with being married, or...?

We were discussing the 'age thing' tonight at work; I was talking to a mid-20's male, and asking him questions as to whether it was just my perception {it's not} that the males in your age group are not their fathers, nor are they a combination of them -- used to the 'new age' {technology, metrosexuality, etc.} yet at same time they still have things, ideas, etcetera, to explore. I shudder a bit to think what the next generation after will be like; most likely no drive to explore, to think, nor anything else, because the 20 somethings will have made things too 'easy' on their own offspring, basically. The 20's seem to either be 'old soul' types, far more mature than they have a 'right' to be given their limited number of days on this planet...or 'frat boys' who will never truly grow up! There seems to be no 'inbetween' ones in that general age group, which is interesting for so many reasons.

Distance is more a state of mind anyway; some can be in same room or whatever with their 'significant other'...and they are worlds apart.

Knowledge is definitely a state of mind, etcetera, along with perceptions and all. That is part of the ongoing exploration of the 'us' in any relationship along with the 'you' and 'me'.

How do you make your perceptions?

So what's my excuse for what?

complexlysimple replies on 8/8/2006 4:26 pm:

I think I'll take this in order...

women not used to that .. maybe they don't becasue women don't expect them to

thoughts? check email...

hints? ...I've realized that, and have more or less gotten over it if that 'window' is going to be so brief that I don't have time to realize it before it's closed it proabably wasn't worth my time to go through it ... and those 'hints' should be a little less subtle if they really want to be sent through.

marriage ..them involved

as for the age thing ...I thin that's a post in and of its self ...again

distance ..very true

everything else -

BaronessK 52F

8/9/2006 3:22 am

I make no excuses for being who and what and how I am...and wanting to see you naked and sweaty!

complexlysimple replies on 8/9/2006 3:55 pm:
careful ...that wish might come true..... though I'm not sure to call that bad or good...

BaronessK 52F

8/9/2006 7:09 pm

Well...bad...cuz I'd be nekky, too!

Re: your nekkiness...bring it on, big boy!

absolutelynormal 56F
6563 posts
8/12/2006 8:14 am

I think you know my answer to this one. Can't see myself curled up to someone who is the same age as my children. Don't get me wrong I think you're a gret guy and the problem lies in me, not you. There is also a vast distance physically between us. Plus, you're a YANKEE

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