The 'other' ...or 'ANother'  

complexlysimple 34M
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8/2/2006 5:06 pm

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The 'other' ...or 'ANother'


I'm starting to think (maybe even believe) that I should forget about finding a 'tradional' relationship of one man and one woman...

It just seems that the word 'too' is used often to describe me ...as in too romantic, too much, too fast, etc. etc.....

also there is the fact that a conversation I've had before a woman said she felt a need to be needed ...to which my smartass reply was if that was the case I could find a need for her 40+ hours a week... overtime not optional

.... and I could too ... another 5 or 6 hands might come in ....handy ...

Then of course there is that minor detail of me being 'overwhelming' .... if you think I can be bad here, you should try being around me physically ...where you'd have to deal with knowing I've got the mind I do -which may show in my eyes ..with the occasional mischevious sparkle - along with my entire body ...which can be rather overwhelming it's self (more than once I've had someone be a bit shocked when they see me ...had a comedian refer to me as Godzilla

Realize I'm not trying to hurt anyone ...I'm just trying to find someone(s) to spend time with and be close to....

So I guess what I want to hear is everyones thoughts on this either here or through email... especially since I read/hear quite a few women who don't want to be the 'other' woman ... I guess I'm just not sure that 'other' might not be 'another' when it comes to me ..hell, for all I know one woman would appreciate the assistance of another woman.... I really dunno

BaronessK 52F

8/3/2006 6:52 am

I don't think that you could/would want to 'handle' having to have the mentality of sharing that much with so many people {more than one significant other}. As I said the previous post, I don't believe you are 'overwhelming', just that {like everyone} your unique differences makes it where someone has to get 'used' to you...just the way you are, and therefore be able to take you as you as you mean to be taken. She is out there.


complexlysimple replies on 8/3/2006 5:18 pm:
Don't think I could 'handle' it?!?!? ... ...I think I may have to acquaint you to some of my other ideas on people and reality..... as for not being overwhelming ..are you recanting on A fear of a fear ...or are you suggesting that my ideas and me are different things

...yup, I realize I might just be being a pest..but it's an interesting thought to ponder....

rm_danigirl1905 30F
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8/3/2006 9:56 am

I agree with baronessk. I also believe that you shouldn't give up and that she is out there...!


complexlysimple replies on 8/3/2006 5:24 pm:
...maybe... then again for all I really know 'she' could just as easily be 'you'....

BaronessK 52F

8/4/2006 3:49 am

I meant in a moral sense...that you truly want that commitment, in full, to another person {and that you only 'accept' the addition of anyone else in that 2-person partnership because you do not think that you will find the one that will be enough for you, that will be strong enough and love you enough for your unique self}.

I was not recounting...more, hmmmm, debating what I mean versus what you mean by 'overwhelming'...because that can be anyone at any time depending on the other people they're around and the situation itself.

I believe that your 'ideas' are very much the same as 'you'...it's more that there is more to you than what you post/say, so some of the 'theory of ComplexlySimple' must be assumed {and I do not believe that I could be wrong about your strong moral base and so forth}.


complexlysimple replies on 8/4/2006 3:35 pm:
hmmm morals... that I understand though my 'morals' can be tweaked if I need them to be ... like most people's ...ex) lying is bad ..unless it a small one ... so what's a small one ...

and I gues how should define 'one woman' would be the question here.. like I noted in one of you're posts I grew up around 'bitches' and have basically learned how to 'handle' (for lack of a better word at the moment) the worse parts ..and for me unless I'm out of it fending off arguements from multiple directions is ..nothing really - especially when I'm fully awake and alert...

BaronessK 52F

8/5/2006 12:46 am

As sleepy as a lion lounging in the sun is the picture I got flashed when you said that...!

P.S. Here, cubby kitty, cubby, kitty!


complexlysimple replies on 8/5/2006 6:41 am:
lions huh ..I generally think a bear waking from hibernation ... maybe me and my ego raising bears above lions .. lions are small, funny, furry little critters when compared to a big bear like a polar bear or a kodiak ... actually just looked lions have a longer body but have about 1/3 to 1/2 the bulk of bear ...

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