Teaching a new lover  

coastal_xtc 44M/44F
26 posts
5/3/2006 2:45 pm

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5/4/2006 3:47 pm

Teaching a new lover


I have a friend (for real... it's not me)who was with her boyfriend for 2 years and then finally broke up with him.

In the 2 years they lived together, he played daddy to her little girl, took care of all the bills, the groceries, the cooking, the cleaning, the cars, etc. She said he was a wonderful boyfriend, BUT he was lousy in bed and that is why she broke up with him.

How in the world can a person be with someone for 2 years and never once say "Here Honey, let's try this" or "I like it like this"?? It blew my mind when she told me that!

I've always thought it best to teach a partner how you like things, as well as learn how they like things. Sex should be a pleasure, not a duty!

And, another point... Now, he is a lousy lover and doesn't know it! When he gets into his next relationship, his new partner is going to get a nasty surprise.

Hopefully, she will be brave enough to teach him instead of running away!


up4anything01984 32F

5/3/2006 3:16 pm

I agree with you there, my last partner was a virgin so he didnt know anything really. In the end i taught him all i know and the sex was amazing, when we had sex that is. It might just be her that thinks he is a bad lover. another woman might think he is amazing its a personal thing. If she was not happy then she should have spoke up about it, if i was having bad sex then i would be the first erson that would mention it to my partner and i would hope he would do the same if the situation was reversed.


coastal_xtc 44M/44F
11 posts
5/4/2006 3:43 pm

I definately wouldn't wait 2 years to tell a lover that they were not so good!

What a waste of time... Think of the amazing sex they could have been having if she'd have just been willing to teach him!


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