Clita's Sexual Topics 101:  

clitalicious67 49F
2596 posts
4/9/2006 6:40 am

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5/8/2006 6:18 pm

Clita's Sexual Topics 101:

What is Erotolalia?

Erotolalia is the practice of talking dirty in bed -- and some of the nicest and most sexually satisfied couples do it during lovemaking. Even many couples who would never utter a four-letter obscenity in public talk dirty in bed. Why? Think of erotolalia as "aural" sex, another way to use your tongue to excite the passion of your partner. Women who enjoy erotolalia tend to call attention to their partner's penis, using vernacular terms to praise the size and potency of his member. They will also describe intercourse in raw terms, and express their desire for even more fervent lovemaking. Men, when talking dirty, tend to describe what they're about to do in graphic terms. As with all sex practices, it's best to determine if your partner enjoys it before making it a regular component of lovemaking. (taken from about.com)

So, thoughts anyone? Me I personally think talking during the act is HOT HOT HOT! However, I think you do need to consider your partner and if they are comfortable with this...

I think it builds the anticipation and is way to step out of your everday persona safely with awesome benefits!!!!!!

Clita



tamethytension 54M
2320 posts
4/9/2006 7:31 am

This very much varies person to person. I've not been all that comfortable with it, if only because I wonder whether I'm saying the right thing. I do employ animalistic sounds especially deep guttural tones that can reverberate through the body. In a most strange case, I was with a woman who got very excited from vulgar sounds rather than language. Specifically, mimicry of long drawn out saliva-laced snorting directed in her ear, an implicit threat that she could be doused at any moment, could bring her to orgasm while I lay inside her. Like I said, strange but it taught me to broaden my horizons as regards to my repertoire.

cheers

TTT


1cooldude63 54M

4/9/2006 8:40 am

I have not yet been with a woman that does not like to be talk to like that in bed.I love to talk dirty well making love.


softnwet03 44F
5 posts
4/9/2006 8:45 am

i agree with clitalicious, it is very hot!!!!!! i love when a man talks dirty to me while spanking me. aparently men love it to , when i talk dirty it always makes the man cum right away.


rm_CuummDrop 49F
2591 posts
4/9/2006 10:28 am

Hmmmmm... thinks back.... Yes i can remember some.. Ohhh never mind.. smirk

Now won't last forever, so use it wisely~c


expatbrit49 62M

4/9/2006 2:34 pm

agrees with all above, as long as it comes out natural and not like a script from a porn movie.

Thank You for Your Time and Attention


clitalicious67 49F

4/9/2006 6:56 pm

    Quoting rm_LQQKie4U:
    "Me I personally think talking during the act is HOT HOT HOT!"

    I agree, adds another dimension to the fun! This goes well at work too, if your close with a coworker that enjoys the bit of fun talk too...hehe..

    Have a nice Sunday....
You know nothing like a Sunday in bed with naughty pillow talk


clitalicious67 49F

4/9/2006 6:57 pm

    Quoting rm_LQQKie4U:
    "Me I personally think talking during the act is HOT HOT HOT!"

    I agree, adds another dimension to the fun! This goes well at work too, if your close with a coworker that enjoys the bit of fun talk too...hehe..

    Have a nice Sunday....
I agree you have to be at ease with that person to be able to open yourself up for that...and it cannot seem contrived either...your comments are interesting


clitalicious67 49F

4/9/2006 7:00 pm

    Quoting tamethytension:
    This very much varies person to person. I've not been all that comfortable with it, if only because I wonder whether I'm saying the right thing. I do employ animalistic sounds especially deep guttural tones that can reverberate through the body. In a most strange case, I was with a woman who got very excited from vulgar sounds rather than language. Specifically, mimicry of long drawn out saliva-laced snorting directed in her ear, an implicit threat that she could be doused at any moment, could bring her to orgasm while I lay inside her. Like I said, strange but it taught me to broaden my horizons as regards to my repertoire.

    cheers

    TTT
Very true...and your comments on the sounds is interesting!


clitalicious67 49F

4/9/2006 7:00 pm

    Quoting 1cooldude63:
    I have not yet been with a woman that does not like to be talk to like that in bed.I love to talk dirty well making love.
Gotta love it!


clitalicious67 49F

4/9/2006 7:01 pm

    Quoting softnwet03:
    i agree with clitalicious, it is very hot!!!!!! i love when a man talks dirty to me while spanking me. aparently men love it to , when i talk dirty it always makes the man cum right away.
I agree...I often will whisper a story in his ear...taking him through some sexual scenario step-by-step works every time!


clitalicious67 49F

4/9/2006 7:02 pm

    Quoting rm_silkditty:
    Good topic. I love it when it works, and it works best if it is natural and spontaneous.

    I had a boyfriend once who, out of his own insecurity, made fun of something I said to him during sex. It threw a wet blanket over everything, and I never talked dirty to him again. His loss.

    What I love just as much is eroticizing my lover with written word, so easy to do in this day of emails. Stoking the fires before the next date.
Yes I agree it doesn't need to be contrived or rehearsed...it works best when it just happens...sparks will fly!


clitalicious67 49F

4/9/2006 7:03 pm

    Quoting rm_CuummDrop:
    Hmmmmm... thinks back.... Yes i can remember some.. Ohhh never mind.. smirk
CD you just need to hush, m'am...


clitalicious67 49F

4/9/2006 7:04 pm

    Quoting expatbrit49:
    agrees with all above, as long as it comes out natural and not like a script from a porn movie.
So I guess the porn music playin' in the background would be out also...(giggling)


Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
4/9/2006 9:48 pm

I'm sorry to admit this...I'm so busy concentrating on making sure my partner is enjoying herself, the idea of talking doesn't even enter my mind.

Call it a shortcoming on my part...no pun intended.

NG61


clitalicious67 49F

4/10/2006 4:42 am

    Quoting rm_mzhunyhole:
    Exactly..one can never know what they might say..lets just say some men have even moved me to talk in tongues..ya know when ya get so frigging hot..ya don't even know what the hell you're saying yourself??Just a bunch of mmmmmm and oooo and aaahhh's and eeeeeee...OMG..Yesyesyes!!!...ya know what I'm saying?
Mz Huny I am with you on that...sometimes all I can get out is a OMG!!!!!!!!! LOL


clitalicious67 49F

4/10/2006 4:44 am

    Quoting Nightguy_1961:
    I'm sorry to admit this...I'm so busy concentrating on making sure my partner is enjoying herself, the idea of talking doesn't even enter my mind.

    Call it a shortcoming on my part...no pun intended.

    NG61
Nahhh I wouldn't consider it a short coming...everybody has their own thing...


pandoo5 60M
398 posts
4/10/2006 12:33 pm

It works and both ways, yes madam I do agree with you, I'll come back to read more if subject will be of mutual interest.


clitalicious67 49F

4/10/2006 1:16 pm

Pandoo so glad you dropped by and hope that I have more posts of interest for you in the future


rm_ENGBUCARO 38M
596 posts
4/23/2006 12:55 pm

The first thing you need to learn is if your partner is one of those persons that gets really offended if by mistake you cross the line with something you said cause that would automatically kill the mood and create some trouble.

Then if both of you enjoy dirty talk It gets pretty exciting cause not only you get aroused by it, you also get an anxiety buzz thinking what is she going to say next or what can I say next that would make her quiver. You start searching for what I like to call verbal triggers. I have a post on my blog about verbal triggers.


clitalicious67 49F

5/4/2006 3:33 am

    Quoting rm_ENGBUCARO:
    The first thing you need to learn is if your partner is one of those persons that gets really offended if by mistake you cross the line with something you said cause that would automatically kill the mood and create some trouble.

    Then if both of you enjoy dirty talk It gets pretty exciting cause not only you get aroused by it, you also get an anxiety buzz thinking what is she going to say next or what can I say next that would make her quiver. You start searching for what I like to call verbal triggers. I have a post on my blog about verbal triggers.
I agree no everyone is into the dirty chat....so it is best to establish the boundaries before any kind of sexual play.


JaniSux 44F

5/8/2006 7:55 am

Great post! TTT mentioned your post in his My personal take on Erotolalia (talking dirty) so I had to drop by and have a look. I also enjoy dirty talk, during sex, it is very hot to me and it is totally involuntary... which means that if necessary I can force myself to stop it if my partner is not enjoying my talk but in general, I've never had a single complaint and it is as natural to me as anything else I do during sex... like grabbing and squeezing my breasts, or massaging my clit while he slides in and out of my tight heat.

I enjoy having a man talk dirty to me, call me hot names (mind you not humiliating names but hot ones), talk about how hot I am, how tight my puss is, calling my name, how good I feel inside, how good I taste, all these things are a great turn on to me.

I was once with one man who was soooo quiet, he didn't say a damn thing! I knew he enjoyed it, but no words, no grunts, nothing.. and I live alone, we had the apt to ourselves. But with him I think it was a guilt issue, he supposedly didn't masturbate often either.. I like to know that a man is enjoying what I'm doing to him, even if its a low gutteral growl... wheeewwww! So hot!

Janie
*blush*


clitalicious67 49F

5/8/2006 6:18 pm

    Quoting JaniSux:
    Great post! TTT mentioned your post in his My personal take on Erotolalia (talking dirty) so I had to drop by and have a look. I also enjoy dirty talk, during sex, it is very hot to me and it is totally involuntary... which means that if necessary I can force myself to stop it if my partner is not enjoying my talk but in general, I've never had a single complaint and it is as natural to me as anything else I do during sex... like grabbing and squeezing my breasts, or massaging my clit while he slides in and out of my tight heat.

    I enjoy having a man talk dirty to me, call me hot names (mind you not humiliating names but hot ones), talk about how hot I am, how tight my puss is, calling my name, how good I feel inside, how good I taste, all these things are a great turn on to me.

    I was once with one man who was soooo quiet, he didn't say a damn thing! I knew he enjoyed it, but no words, no grunts, nothing.. and I live alone, we had the apt to ourselves. But with him I think it was a guilt issue, he supposedly didn't masturbate often either.. I like to know that a man is enjoying what I'm doing to him, even if its a low gutteral growl... wheeewwww! So hot!

    Janie
    *blush*
Janie thanks for dropping by. I agree it is hot when both partners are into it...I love to talk and be talked to but again I am with you nothing humiliating...I love to hear a man moan and know that what I am doing is putting him on the edge...very HOT!!!

Hugs

C~


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