Could You?  

clevergirl4U 58F
1461 posts
7/28/2006 1:12 pm

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Could You?

As some of you know, I am dealing with a serious illness, which I plan on fully over-coming.

I am reading everything I can get my hands on about health and healing. Some writers and doctors suggest that many diseases come from living an imbalanced life. They also suggest that healing requires a healthy PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL, and SPIRITUAL life in balance.

An idea I came across kind of made me catch my breath.

In order to heal and be healthy and whole, one must make every act a loving act, and forgive EVERYONE for EVERYTHING.

Whew......a pretty tall order...EVERYONE for EVERYTHING? EVERY ACT a loving act?

Could you?


clevergirl4U 58F

7/28/2006 1:27 pm

And keep in mind I am the single mom of a sometimes surly teen


buddhamike 106M
7006 posts
7/28/2006 1:41 pm

It's part of the Buddhist way. It isn't easy at first, then once you get the hang of it it's so very easy you wouldn't believe it. And, yes it affects your health.


ZZ_Todd 59M

7/28/2006 1:48 pm

I try to... I was raised on the "Golden Rule" and those times when I find myself not trying so hard to be tolerant, all I have to do is look at my Mom's picture (my best friend who passed several years ago) and it's as though she's right there saying: "Tsk, tsk... the 'Golden Rule'... remember?"


clevergirl4U 58F

7/28/2006 3:43 pm

    Quoting humboldthonni:
    I think we only have to love and forgive ourselves first. Everything else falls into place. Blessings my friend
....which, I think, is the hardest thing of all...to forgive oneself totally and completely...I think that's what took my breath away....that very idea.

And as I have moved through the past few days, and have a moment to think before reacting, I've seen how many of my acts are NOT in the spirit of love. I had no idea!


log55 59M
443 posts
7/28/2006 7:12 pm

The surly teen remark made me think. As i look back on my life, so many things that upset me then seem a part of a natural order now. Even the trials and tribulations of raising a teen will seem like a loving, cherished memories someday. Forgiveness comes easily when viewed through the lens of time. Forgive those who have wronged you and you have disarmed them...they no longer have power over you Ray

P.S. How is your son doing, now?


tenorsaxxman 66M

7/29/2006 5:20 am

I think you would find the study of Chinese Medicine of interest. The whole being is dealt with as you stated, Spiritual, Mind, Body. The call this the Chi or being of self. The non-impact martial art of Tai-Chi is about grounding oneself and centering with the earth for whole wellness. I did this some time ago as a course of overcoming migraines, totally debillitating (sp?); they have since greatly diminished. I also had acupuncture treatments, which helped tremendously. Maybe it's like voodoo and you have to believe for it to work; I don't know, but it does. Good luck.

Tenorsaxxman


kyplowboy22 61M

7/29/2006 5:54 am

Something to work on, I suppose. I don't think I could ever completely give in to it. Just contradicts my warrior-like nature. But I have become a lot more tolerant of others as I have aged a little. As well have forgiven some things from my youth that I never thought I would. But I will always remember the lessons they taught, just the same.

Feel better everyday, kid. Counting on you, now. Later

kpb


TheRealThing655 48F
9558 posts
7/29/2006 11:05 am

I hope you will be ok, Clevergirl. I worry about you.
Regarding your question, I think as I get older that life is too short to harbor anger and certain emotions that get us nowhere really.
I try to be nice to everyone, do good things when I can, and never be spiteful.
I suppose the only thing I could never forgive anyone for is if intentional harm was caused to either of my children. Unforgivable. Forever.
And I pray that never happens.


rm_marnisway 85F
5018 posts
7/29/2006 6:21 pm

...for me..it's a true that only truth will show you..

let it...all hang out. give it away... don't hold it in.

and "Belly Bliss" similar to...tenor's thoughts...and words.
an art that releases...to make room for what's intended.

hugs
n
smiles..s

x

Nothing is ever the same... when it comes to pleasures.

with a hint....the erotic senses will manifest into an abounding mess of flesh

the mind needs fulfillment of the body

if it feels good ...it is good

I've done it again...*S*


clevergirl4U 58F

7/30/2006 5:45 am

    Quoting buddhamike:
    It's part of the Buddhist way. It isn't easy at first, then once you get the hang of it it's so very easy you wouldn't believe it. And, yes it affects your health.
I had read Buddist thought in the past, but never really applied it to my PHYSICAL health until I faced a health crisis. It's been enlighening to get and "hear" this information. Thanks


clevergirl4U 58F

7/30/2006 5:48 am

    Quoting ZZ_Todd:
    I try to... I was raised on the "Golden Rule" and those times when I find myself not trying so hard to be tolerant, all I have to do is look at my Mom's picture (my best friend who passed several years ago) and it's as though she's right there saying: "Tsk, tsk... the 'Golden Rule'... remember?"
I agree...the "golden rule" is an excelent approach to living. I forget it more often than I would like though...when standing in lines, dealing with a rude sales clerk, or dishonest contractor.


clevergirl4U 58F

7/30/2006 5:58 am

    Quoting log55:
    The surly teen remark made me think. As i look back on my life, so many things that upset me then seem a part of a natural order now. Even the trials and tribulations of raising a teen will seem like a loving, cherished memories someday. Forgiveness comes easily when viewed through the lens of time. Forgive those who have wronged you and you have disarmed them...they no longer have power over you Ray

    P.S. How is your son doing, now?
He's doing better. Thanks for asking

He was up for the Colorado River Trip and an international soccer camp. Mostly he seems happy and engaged with life. He just got his license and it seems that every sign of mental illness just disappears when I toss him the car keys. He still has moments of depression, worry and anxiety and I can't figure out what triggers them.

I'm working on forgiving my parents. I haven't spoken to them for years and it is the one place I seem "stuck"....welll it took me 10 adult year to admit that I was angry and confront them. Unfortunately I don't HAVE 10 years to figure out how to forgive them


clevergirl4U 58F

7/30/2006 6:10 am

    Quoting tenorsaxxman:
    I think you would find the study of Chinese Medicine of interest. The whole being is dealt with as you stated, Spiritual, Mind, Body. The call this the Chi or being of self. The non-impact martial art of Tai-Chi is about grounding oneself and centering with the earth for whole wellness. I did this some time ago as a course of overcoming migraines, totally debillitating (sp?); they have since greatly diminished. I also had acupuncture treatments, which helped tremendously. Maybe it's like voodoo and you have to believe for it to work; I don't know, but it does. Good luck.
I seem to be heading toward the ancient Chinese healing and living practices. I'm reading a green pharmacy book and many of the herbs I'm now taking daily have been used for thousands of years and most come from China and the rest of east Asia.

I don't think it's voodoo, at all. In fact, I'm becoming quite the herbalist I studied Tai-Chi briefly maybe 15 years ago. Maybe I wasn't ready to "get it"? I'm thinking yoga for now. And I'll have to add "grounding" visualizations now. Thanks for the remoinder/advice


clevergirl4U 58F

7/30/2006 6:12 am

    Quoting rm_marnisway:
    ...for me..it's a true that only truth will show you..

    let it...all hang out. give it away... don't hold it in.

    and "Belly Bliss" similar to...tenor's thoughts...and words.
    an art that releases...to make room for what's intended.

    hugs
    n
    smiles..s
Ok...now if I google "belly bliss" will I find it?

Thanks for stopping by and for the advice


clevergirl4U 58F

7/30/2006 6:21 am

    Quoting kyplowboy22:
    Something to work on, I suppose. I don't think I could ever completely give in to it. Just contradicts my warrior-like nature. But I have become a lot more tolerant of others as I have aged a little. As well have forgiven some things from my youth that I never thought I would. But I will always remember the lessons they taught, just the same.

    Feel better everyday, kid. Counting on you, now. Later

    kpb
I understand exactly what you mean. But men get to be "warriors" and single women have to be "bitches" Apart from a brief marriage, I've been on my own for most of my life. And for the past ten years I have lived in the rural south. There are men here who just don't like working for a woman and it seems that the only way to get something done right is to be a bitch and insist. I am wondering how I'm going to do this "lovingly"...oh well, lots to work on...


clevergirl4U 58F

7/30/2006 6:29 am

    Quoting TheRealThing655:
    I hope you will be ok, Clevergirl. I worry about you.
    Regarding your question, I think as I get older that life is too short to harbor anger and certain emotions that get us nowhere really.
    I try to be nice to everyone, do good things when I can, and never be spiteful.
    I suppose the only thing I could never forgive anyone for is if intentional harm was caused to either of my children. Unforgivable. Forever.
    And I pray that never happens.
Please don't worry about me...I really AM going to come out of this a stonger, healthier, wiser person

I thought I was a nice person, too, until I started paying attention to my daily interactions. The first think to surprise me is that I am much too impatient and critical of my son. I'm also very loving and supportive. But I've bitten my tongue and re-phrased something in a more loving and supportive way more than once over the past few days. He is looking at me funny


keithcancook 60M
17793 posts
7/30/2006 8:20 pm

It seems perfectly logical to me. The mind must be clear for the body to hear...

Blog On!


clevergirl4U 58F

7/31/2006 7:05 am

    Quoting keithcancook:
    It seems perfectly logical to me. The mind must be clear for the body to hear...

    Blog On!
I like that enough to cross stitch it on a pillow Thanks!


rm_Lloydthomas 67M

7/31/2006 6:27 pm

I am a survivor of so many afflictions, mental, physical and spiritual. I have studied and practiced many esoteric ways, still do. I refer to myself as Nordic Heathen. I studied and practiced native Medicine for years. I studied and practice Taoist methods several years.
Serious illness is a crossroads. If I can be of assistance, let me know.


keithcancook 60M
17793 posts
7/31/2006 7:06 pm

    Quoting clevergirl4U:
    I like that enough to cross stitch it on a pillow Thanks!
If you do, would you consider e-mailing a pic of it to me?


keithcancook 60M
17793 posts
8/1/2006 12:52 am

Hmm, perhaps it would go better as:

When the mind clears, the body hears.


I dunno. What do you think? (hey, there's less needlework involved)


clevergirl4U 58F

8/1/2006 8:00 am

    Quoting rm_Lloydthomas:
    I am a survivor of so many afflictions, mental, physical and spiritual. I have studied and practiced many esoteric ways, still do. I refer to myself as Nordic Heathen. I studied and practiced native Medicine for years. I studied and practice Taoist methods several years.
    Serious illness is a crossroads. If I can be of assistance, let me know.
Thanks! I will probably email you in a few days. I'm in the middle of re-organizing and re-stocking my kitchen and it's slow going. Some days are better than others. But when I'm done I may have the "greenest" kitchen on the planet


clevergirl4U 58F

8/1/2006 8:03 am

    Quoting keithcancook:
    Hmm, perhaps it would go better as:

    When the mind clears, the body hears.


    I dunno. What do you think? (hey, there's less needlework involved)
I think you're right! And yes, I'll send you a pic when it's done


rm_Lloydthomas 67M

8/1/2006 8:16 am

very cool. I will be looking forward. Love to share my experience strength and hope. I also love to learn new things. Herbs are not new to me but I highly admire the wisewoman of herbs and magic.


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