Commitment Issues?  

clevergirl4U 58F
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4/6/2006 10:41 am

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4/7/2006 4:45 pm

Commitment Issues?

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I have serious commitment issues. That I have remained single and unattached for the past ten years is a testament to that fact. The only lifetime commitments I have been able to make are to myself, my son, and my dogs. Even best friends have come and gone.


But my inability to commit manifests itself in many SMALL ways. I am continually evolving as a person. What I say and believe in THIS year, may have NO relevance NEXT year. For this reason:


My Blog has no title

My car has no bumper sticker

AND

My body has no tatooes


What have you made a lifetime commitment to? Do you have a tatoo or bumper sticker that will still be relevant five years from now?



DIVISION77 39M  
8321 posts
4/6/2006 11:40 am

I've made a commitment to be true to myself, and that's all.

I also have been lifting for years, it's one constant in my life as well.

I'm very specific in what I like in a woman, so most women would never work for me. I'm not "user friendly" so to speak. I'm more picky about a woman's intelligence/personality than her physical characteristics. I only have a couple provisions, and the rest is workable. I also have no tatts, piercings.

I have no "committment issues". I just haven't met a woman yet who I'd be willing to give myself to. Once I do, I'd have no qualms about staying faithful and living with her.

You having a child significantly changes things in terms of any potential relationship. Even if you were to find a man who fits your criteria for committment, he might be averse to taking on a child. That's been the case with me, I won't date a woman with children. Too much of a distraction.

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


liquid_light 43M

4/6/2006 12:41 pm

I have only one bumper sticker. It's homemade, and it says "PEACE" in those big block black and white letters you post on mailboxes. That will always be relevant


clevergirl4U 58F

4/6/2006 1:47 pm

    Quoting DIVISION77:
    I've made a commitment to be true to myself, and that's all.

    I also have been lifting for years, it's one constant in my life as well.

    I'm very specific in what I like in a woman, so most women would never work for me. I'm not "user friendly" so to speak. I'm more picky about a woman's intelligence/personality than her physical characteristics. I only have a couple provisions, and the rest is workable. I also have no tatts, piercings.

    I have no "committment issues". I just haven't met a woman yet who I'd be willing to give myself to. Once I do, I'd have no qualms about staying faithful and living with her.

    You having a child significantly changes things in terms of any potential relationship. Even if you were to find a man who fits your criteria for committment, he might be averse to taking on a child. That's been the case with me, I won't date a woman with children. Too much of a distraction.

    DIV
I understand completely...I haven't met many men that I would allow around my son, so that sword cuts both ways

Good luck in your search


clevergirl4U 58F

4/6/2006 1:51 pm

    Quoting liquid_light:
    I have only one bumper sticker. It's homemade, and it says "PEACE" in those big block black and white letters you post on mailboxes. That will always be relevant
You're right! Hard to imagine I would look at a "PEACE" bumper sticker one day, slap my forehead, and mutter "GOOD GOD, what WAS I thinking!?" Good one...


clevergirl4U 58F

4/6/2006 2:44 pm

    Quoting rm_valleyrat4:
    I've only two committments. One to my kids and another to not eating meat. It's been 23 years and what a New Years resolution gone awry!

    No on the bumper sticker or tattoo.
hmm...had no idea you were vegetarian...


rm_4wolfsr 57M

4/6/2006 5:42 pm

Seems to me the issue has less to do with committment rather more to do with identification of what is important to you.

As for me, certainly my kids would top the list of committments. Before I lost my dogs, I was committed to them (and they they to me). Now that I think about it, the list of things I am committed to is quite extensive. Let's see: a die hard Florida State Seminole fan (alumni); a die hard Green Bay Packer fan (from Wisconsin); using Shimano reels; getting sunburned at least once before the first of April; great kissing; not smoking; exercising at least an hour a day; finding a better way; the power of good over evil...............


clevergirl4U 58F

4/7/2006 8:39 am

    Quoting rm_valleyrat4:
    Not a veggie. That kind of denotes some healthy balanced diet. I'm the first to grab a pizza, burrito or Reese's peanut butter cup.

    I just don't eat meat, poultry or seafood. It's worked for me I'm sure it always will. Just don't bet on me not holding up a New Year's resolution...........
I won't! That IS pretty amazing resolve

When I had scare with the big "C" last year, I changed out all of the food in the house...little to no meat, but we do eat fish and seafood.
Mostly fruits, vegetables, nuts, unrefined carbs, bottled water. I grow a variety of sprouts. But every once in awhile, whenever either of us craves something decadent, we go out for pizza and icecream ...my thinking is that if MOST of what we eat is good, we'll be fine


clevergirl4U 58F

4/7/2006 8:40 am

    Quoting rm_4wolfsr:
    Seems to me the issue has less to do with committment rather more to do with identification of what is important to you.

    As for me, certainly my kids would top the list of committments. Before I lost my dogs, I was committed to them (and they they to me). Now that I think about it, the list of things I am committed to is quite extensive. Let's see: a die hard Florida State Seminole fan (alumni); a die hard Green Bay Packer fan (from Wisconsin); using Shimano reels; getting sunburned at least once before the first of April; great kissing; not smoking; exercising at least an hour a day; finding a better way; the power of good over evil...............
"finding a better way"...I think I could join up for that


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