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cinnerella 47F
59 posts
7/16/2005 10:46 pm

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I know i

Ok, this is my first bloggin experience and well, its also kindof a rant. I have been reading alot in the groups and alot of profiles lately about 'No strings attatched' relationships,if you will. In one thread someone aptly reffered to this drive by fuck, LOL! In theory a NSA relationship is ideal for most people. You get to have fun without having to deal with emotions or any of the drama. Excuse me for pointing out the obvious, but aren't our emotions the very thing that make us human? Everyone has feelings and i really dont want you sticking your dingy in me if you dont like me or dont care how i might feel.I pretty much have it spelled out in my profile that i want to get to know someone before i will have sex with them, and that i am looking for a FRIEND with benefits,but 90% of the emails i get are from guys with a NSA statement in their profile. I feel it is pretty much impossible to have a sexual relationship without having some strings/feelings involved. what do you think? Am i wrong? Is it a woman thing?

dp010 44M
1 post
7/16/2005 11:41 pm

No, you're not wrong with how you feel. I agree with you, and am a guy. Imagine that, sex with emotions - who would've thought it was possible for a guy? Of course it is. Don't worry. Stay true to your integrity and hold out for someone who you know is right for only you.

Take care.

rm_PornDeucer 54M
7 posts
7/16/2005 11:43 pm

Your so right and yes it is a woman thing! Men have always needed just an excuse, while women need a reason. It's just that simple. This is a mans fantasy site. AdultFriendFinder sells gold and silver memberships to millions of guys (generally married) that are looking for that NSA excuse. It's just a fantasy game that makes AdultFriendFinder lots of money. Not that there's anything wrong with that. Hey, I'm just being realistic here. IF you're looking for something deeper that just getting a "dingy" stuck into you, then I suggest looking someplace else. Maybe the local grocery store or library.

cinnerella 47F

7/17/2005 12:58 am

PornDeucer,I didnt say i was looking to fall madly in love with someone, i'd just like to know that they guy with the dingy might possibly treat my as a person with feelings rather than just a place to put that dingy. I'm not looking for a one night stand, therefore i am more selective, and i have the right to be. It just irks me that some men dont take the time to read profiles before emailing. Like i said in my earlier post, 90% of those men could have saved themselves the time and not wasted mine responding to my ad when it clearly states i'm looking for a friend. I dont think i need to look elsewhere, i think some of the guys need to actually read the profiles before emailing for a pice of ass.

bloater999 54M

7/17/2005 8:00 am

I think you can't divorce emotions; these strings always get ya, and you have to be aware of it, manage it, and enjoy it.

Sextastical1 42M
1 post
7/22/2005 1:07 pm

Cin', I agree with you in the fact that I have had feelings for everyone I've been with(even after years and years). I fell that most guys wouldn't admit or show it, and that's a shame to repress the raw feeling of the act that makes it so great. You have to connect with the partner your with otherwise you're just satisfying a need not an urge. If a man can't feel anything then he might as well masturbate, because he's getting the same enjoyment regardless. If that's how some men are then they are in an awful sexually unfufilled place. When you can connect with your partner your main concern is her satisfaction and that's what'll drive the experience for both higher still. You might say it's the difference in a "fuck" and having "sex".

easyblackjack 62M

8/13/2005 2:29 pm

I agree Cinnerella! Ive tryed the nsa route. It dosnt work for me. Sex is so much better when there are some feelings involved. It dosnt have to be Love nessarily, but the stronger the feelings, I think the better the sex. I do believe however that close friends can have sex and keep it friendly, but it would take a very strong friendship and very open minded people to pull it off for any length of time. But hey, Im a guy, and im willing to try anything once! LOL

stevenbigcock10 57M
26 posts
10/20/2005 8:44 pm

well ill tell ya what cinnerella,
dont feel bad and im pritty sure life in general will pick up you just half to give it time,
and at your age you have plenty of it.
i mean if i had a good looking woman as yourself,
i would at lest make the effert to please you and pay more attention to you.im very sure theres a realy good guy out there for you,
you just half to keep looking........man im starting to sound like dr phills,....but im beaing realy serius, if you ever want to chat just look me up on here i have AdultFriendFinder messenger or you can chat with me
have a nice night sexy

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