Be my friend  

cindyzway 54F
26 posts
7/16/2006 2:32 pm
Be my friend

I am new at this and would like to know what is the best way to meet the most people? I am trapped in a stagnant marriage and want to spice my life up. Thank you in advance for your advice.

Seducing_Phantom 46M

7/16/2006 5:01 pm

The fact that you are trapped in a stagnant marriage is what will drive most men away from you, even in this site. Yes, they will still send you dozens of emails a day, but as soon as things get serious these men will either not show up or vanish. It is just the sort of trouble that nobody wants, but I wish you luck just the same.


tjinsoutheastpa1 53M
499 posts
7/16/2006 7:27 pm

Same boat with same problems here....we've got that in common as well as golf. YIPEE....
Check out my blog and message me if your interested in chatting more.

Greekgirl4u06 39F

7/16/2006 8:16 pm

i agree with phantom, you will find TONS of phoneys up here, but do as mz huny says, keep up with your blogs, visit a chat room once in a while and pics are good as well....good luck girl....

wannameet2nite 52M
1 post
7/16/2006 8:54 pm


Please let me when you find out. So far it has been an enormous expenditure of time for litle in return. Maybe we can discuss over 9 nine holes at Falls Road or somewhere local? I am very sympathetic to your situation.

MarcoPolo197676 39M
541 posts
7/16/2006 10:33 pm

Reach out and blog someone

iam2blueeyes 57M

7/17/2006 5:12 am

Hi Cindy,
I agree with Phantom as far as the fakes and phonies and when the time comes to meet or get more serious, guys will vanish. It's all about the chase with some of them. I have had the same experience with women as well, so it's not one sided. Some good ideas from the other responders to your blog. Just be yourself and when you least expect it, someone will get your fancy. Have you tried those other sites? Match, Yahoo! Hope you find what you are looking for.

denonvillier6 52M

7/17/2006 10:19 am

Hey Cindy, I discovered golf a couple of months ago and now I am hooked; if you are looking for a casual golf partner, I will gladly meet you some time.

Phineas2005 48M
854 posts
7/17/2006 11:06 am

Lets be friends!

<========= btw, not fake, a real person

P.S. That little white ball hates me.....

rm_1fitforlife 56F
5 posts
7/17/2006 12:04 pm

Hey Cindy,
Too many people decide they want to play, play for a while, then want to be married again, it just does not work that way. Once the world knows one has cheated, one is a laughing joke. Have you considered an open marriage? Many people have them and find that it strenghens their relationship. Also why are you in your marriage and what were you looking for with your past lover? Finally make sure condoms are worn. Hepatitis C and HIV may not show up for up to a year after you have come in contact with them. Spice up your life is good when it is done so in an intelligent way. You said you are treated like a child, well older men tend to do that. They also seem to have problems getting along with women their own age. Just look in the chat room at the number of men trying to find a woman half their age or the number of women looking for a sugardaddy. Have fun, be cautious and good luck.

ILuvlLife 50M

7/17/2006 12:32 pm

Hi Cindy.

I agree with phantom, however, it is possible to meet the right discreet match and keep it alive for many years. With that though, there still will come a time when both parties have to make a choice. That can be hurtful and cause some trouble, but I will say, that it can be one hell of a fun ride in the process.....

Live your life, don't let it live you, and smile often!

PS: I play golf

gentle69 56M
1 post
7/17/2006 1:01 pm

Sometimes it is better to be true to yourself than pretend to be something or someone you are not. Beleive in yourself to demand more and go after it since you already know you are not happy.

rm_opus11252 54M
2 posts
7/17/2006 1:13 pm

Cindy-I would have to say that the best way to meet the type of guy you seek is be patient. I would say you are receiving about 150-200 messages a day. Set some type of criteria that is a MUST and you can eliminate most right off the bat.
I wish you well in your search and if interested I sent you message. I enjoy golf, fine or casual dining and good conversation.

2 posts
7/17/2006 3:51 pm

hello cindy,i for one know exactly where you are coming from,but you are the only one who will know what or who can make you happy,and that is really what it is all about,your happiness,yes a discreet relationship may not be the perfect solution,but sometimes you really have to do what you have to.i like many men on here are looking for that temporary fix as you are,and it can be found but forewarned it takes alot of patience,but it is out there so dont give up,keep searching im sure the man your looking for will pop up when you least expect it,i cant say that i do much with golf or that im even close enuf to have regular meetings with you but i can say if you ever on the eastern shore of maryland please drop me aline would love to but a beautiful a drink and provide some good conversation,good luck with your quest

rm_brettxy 55M
4 posts
7/17/2006 10:25 pm

Dear Cindy,

I just sent you an email, but since you are probably being inundated I thought I'd leave a little light reading on your blog. Having read your profile I do get where you are coming from.

There are definately a lot of people out there who are fakers, time wasters, idiots and damn fools. There are also a lot of really nice folks too. I just went to a little AdultFriendFinder gathering in Frederick on Saturday afternoon/evening for a few hours. (It was just drinks .. no hanky panky). My point being that there are real people here who can and will be your friend.

It is hard to find a lover. Its probably frought with challenges .. but then you've had a long extramarital relationship yourself so I am preaching to the choir. But eventually many people find someone to connect with on AdultFriendFinder. Just use common sense and dont give anyone a credit card !!!(LO NOTE: I haven't done it myself yet (finding a lover .. not giving out a credit card) .. but I keep trying.

Seems to me you will probably find a golfing buddy here if thats what you want. But speaking selfishly I hope you will consider droping me a note. I really do need some golf lessons .. and more.


EvilEvilKitten1 61F

7/18/2006 12:39 pm

Here's the real scoop, Cindy. Be upfront about precisely what you want and what qualities you desire in your men. Then meet as many as you can in a public place where there are lots of people about. Listen to your gut about them. Set up second, more intimate, meetings as you desire. Keep and discard men as you wish. You rule here. Go out to meet and greets and form a posse' of girlfriends. Mingle and talk to people. Your being married is not a problem. You can also join your local swing group as a 'single' woman or with a male partner as a couple. I know whereof I speak - unlike some in here.


rm_Handler21740 69M

7/18/2006 1:26 pm

I can understand how you feel. For a long time I was in the same boat(guys also get trapped to). It seems to me that you can find happeness and if the right guy comes along you will. Enjoy your time and make the most of it. But be safe in your search and enjoy the good times life can bring to you

rm_free4you31 45M
9 posts
7/19/2006 5:23 pm

I just think that you are just looking to spice your love life up, but I think that if you are comfortable with it, you should ask him, if not, beware what you ask for!
All the best,

thebossrules3 45M

7/27/2006 4:49 am

Don't let Phatom scare you off! Also it is true that as in the "real world" there are alot of phonies here and people who waste each others time. Hang in there and you will find what you are looking for (who know's it could be me!). Drop me a line if you'd like to chat more.

rm_free4you31 45M
9 posts
7/31/2006 5:18 pm

So are saying that you are trapped in a marriage with a much older man, and that he treats you like a child?,
But are you ready to have an affair with a younger person that will treat you like a lady and do all that he can do to please you, and risk losing the older him?
Or do you just want some fun on the side?
All test best,

tattooedSonny 48M
1 post
8/11/2006 12:26 am

wish i knew

SpursWaverTryst 57M
8 posts
8/11/2006 3:03 pm

Hey... The posters on the fakes and phonies on AdultFriendFinder and how slow the servers are on AdultFriendFinder are really understatements. There ALOT of people that are just interested in sending you to their favorite pay website or doing absolutely nothing.

As for the comment of you being married and in a dud relationship being a turnoff - I TOTALLY DISAGREE. Yeah, I'm sure that for some this is an indicator that the wife is the dud...I prefer to to M&G and findout if she's a dud, just a talker or someone that I could get interested in.

Warning - my golf game makes Gerald Ford look like Arnie Palmer... It's only seconded by my tennis game...I've had NASA send me more nasty letters about putting tennis balls in orbit...

All the best in your search...and yeah, if you have time for coffee some day, I'd be interested in buying you a cup.

rm_277027 54M

8/17/2006 9:15 am

Hi Cindy! I just sent you a message through your profile. I hope you will be able to get back to me soon. I've been looking for a golfing partner for a while now and haven't been able to come up with one. Talk to you soon.......I hope


rm_1fitforlife 56F
5 posts
9/5/2006 10:47 am

Be real. Be sincere. If you tell someone you going to meet them be there. If you say you are going to call, do it. It you ask someone to call you give them the right phone number. Be on time. Do not be arrogant and looking dependent in anyway. We are all in this for fun. You sound like you are on the wild side so you should get lots of hits. Best of luck to you.

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