Oral Sex?  

chuchotte2 50F
4002 posts
12/7/2005 6:43 pm

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7/12/2006 5:27 pm

Oral Sex?

Is it really considered sex?

Not according to the teenage boys out there. It seems to be the new fad, girls performing oral sex for their male friends, begining as soon as Junior High here and here's the best part.

The girls don't consider it sex.

Thoughts, ideas, opinions, anyone?

doit4joy 59M
645 posts
12/7/2005 7:29 pm

I have 8 year old daugter,
so you got my attention on this subject.
This is my personal thought...
Probably Oral Sex is not quite a sex for girls, since she doesn't use the genitals (sex organ) to please her friend (and probably most girls doesn't get excited on doing oral sex, they rather consider boys penis as some kind of toys, comparing small difference between each other. For girls, sexual intercourse is the real sex, which is usually occurs on the following step after oral sex. On the other hand, boys probably consider it as sex.

rm_luke69iner 48M
3275 posts
12/8/2005 5:53 pm

Some will consider it sex some won't. I think sex is when you are doing something to cum. Partners and what you do with things are just variations.

The key is what you mentioned about teaching kids and adults about STD's. Many people don't realize that herpetic cold sores can transmit genital herpes.

Some don't consider anal sex as sex either. Anal sex is one of the easiest ways to transmit HIV.

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rm_lovefool1961 55M

12/10/2005 5:52 pm

Well! in my view once you start touching anyone's genitals, its sex.

Don't you agree?

rm_lovefool1961 55M

12/11/2005 7:12 am

Its like chemistry, their young bodies are overflowing with hormones and they really do not know what it is. All they know it feels really good. For young girls they may need a little more stimulation to get aroused. But woman have a better ability to control their sexual desires. So for young girls giving a blow job is like sucking a finger, no real arousal.

rm_wetkitty1963 53F

12/12/2005 12:44 pm

I have to agree with lovefool. Remembering back when I started getting physical with the boys in my life. Giving them a handjob or blowjob was a way to keep them out of MY pants. There was no arousal whatsoever. If I had urges, I took care of them by myself. Back then, there were STD's that were cured with a simple needle, not like HIV today. Luckly, it was never an issue for me. The guys in my life were virgins and most of the time they were just shocked that I was willing to particiate -- clean up in aisle three -- I only started getting undressed for the boys I really had emotional feelings for. We were in long term relationships, able to discuss sex and took steps not to hurt one another phyically or emotionally.

Having a 14-year old I have been very open with her and explained that anything to do with "genital play" is a form of sex and that should she wish to participate, she will need to be responsible for any and all concequences. Intercourse, STD's, emotional hurt from being dumped after the fact, gossip, etc.

BTW - last year I served on a jury trial for a and murder case. The Canadian Law states that any kind of touching (even on a shoulder) against the will of someone to gain some type of "pleasure" by someone else is a form of sexual harrassement. This victim fought the and was not penetrated, but gave up her life for it. He was convicted of and murder and is spending the rest of his life in prison.

rm_Wwwunderlust 56M
2 posts
12/14/2005 8:11 am

of course its sex. WetKitty you were exactly right. Teenagers have to understand there are consequences for thier behaviors. Actually we all need to understand that!

Here is a twist. Teenagers don't consider oral sex as sex and I, a man married for 23 years find it to be the most intimate of sex acts. Seems to be the thing my wife can and does refuse to accept or perform. OK, so im a bit bitter about the subject...


thrillseeker992 59M

12/14/2005 9:14 pm

Oral sex is not sex. Sex is penetration. Yes, you can get STDs from 'oral sex', but that does not make it sex. Oral sex is an alteration and substitute for the real thing and has no function in natural procreation. You don't lose your virginity by having oral sex, you don't get pregnant, etc. It's something people do as foreplay or as a substitute, but it is not and will never be sex per se. That's my 2 cents.

RailBaron2 54M

12/17/2005 7:04 pm

Merry Christmas & Happy New year to you, If getting a blow job is not sex then why "Monica Gate" a few years ago? Or would a 16 year old boy
getting a Blow job from a 18 year old woman be called statutory ? not to repeat the previous posts on STD's. I can bet there are a few kids that have been caught in years past engaging in that kind of activity & the Parents would consider it sex.

AnonymousOne25 38M
14 posts
12/23/2005 1:16 am

By the law's definition it is a sexual act. You can look it up through the internet and look under the government's section pertaining to this. If you need help, say something and I'll find it no problem.


rm_goddess1946 106F
13518 posts
12/28/2005 8:19 am

of course oral is sex.

anything that MOVES SEXUAL ENERGY in the body or the
mind ..is sex.

then again, the president of our country had confusion
around this definition also...why wouldn't 5th graders
with the media attention that sex receives ???

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

RockPebble 69M
2484 posts
12/28/2005 8:23 am

The girls may not consider it sex because their genitals aren't involved and they all may not consider it sex because a former president told us it wasn't sex. It's a shame he wasn't an athlete then we could have called him a poor role model. Happy new year.

OttawaCpl04 34M/32F
4 posts
1/4/2006 7:27 pm

Yes it is sex, any form of touching that involves the genital area is a form of sex.

Things are happening earlier and earlier now, a cousin of our's who is in grade 8 has rumors floating around her school that she was caught giving head in the boys bathroom, this, when a girl in grade 6 was caught in there giving a blowjob to a boy in grade 7.....

To comment about wetkitty1963 and sexual harassment, this past summer we know a guy (that we used to work with) who was fired for sexual harassment when he walked a female co-worker to the lobby to wait for a ride to go to the hospital because she was having chest pains, he held her hand to help her walk and to let her know someone was there for her.

By all means, there is sexual harassment out there that isn't welcome, but something like that, where there is no sexual intent, numerous witnesses and a claiment that has a heart condition, come on, we've gone full circle where if you look at someone in a ceratain way it is sexual harassment....

rm_davejohnson9 56M
2 posts
1/9/2006 11:16 am

My first post ever! But I have to tell you the line I heard long ago and live by and which Bill Clinton conformed with his "I did not have sexual relations with that woman" comment. And the line is "Eatin' ain't cheatin'

So there's your answer. Dave

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