Help me to find love. I need sugestions.  

cherir3 56F
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10/24/2005 8:55 pm

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Help me to find love. I need sugestions.


My time here in AdultFriendFinder has not been very exciting. After being 17 years with the same man and now alone for the first time in my life, I realize that I feel more like a widowed than divorced. It seems that I divorced all man kind. Where are the nice, real, honest men?
Most have issues, addictions, are taken already or married that want a mistress. They are not happy with what they have a home. I chat with some members here to find out that they don't want friends. I might be in the wrong site. When I joined I though, well I give it try. It seems that here they are more blunt and get to the point quicly. No games of BS.
I was wrong.
Still a lot of BS and pretending to be someone else, that is sad. Everyone is afraid of rejection, I know , I've been there even here. If I don't sleep with someone from here after the 2-3 chats, they vanish!. I bet you that those man are still very alone and only have sex casualties. But they are empty. Why is so hard to find someone to love? Is that the way it is now? Nobody wants a relationship. I am maybe old fashion, but I believe in real love. Now I see:
one night stand, two night stand, friend with benefits, screw and damp, bootie call, once a month screw, even some friends of mine on their early 20's early 30's are on the quest for sex. No attachment what so ever. But still they are all alone and depressed even suicidal. I don't want to end up like them, hell no. I am very positive but sometimes I feel like I don't belong anywere. I don't even know what is dating now days. I need some feedback. The bar scene is useless most men my age are alcoholic or something else messed up on their head. What should I do, where should I go. When I refer to 'my friend' , I mean co-workers. The ones that once you are done with the shift and leave, nobody knows you. Is hard to find real friends in this country,(or here in San Diego), the ones that you will do anything for.
Give me some sugestions of what to do , or should I just sit and wait .............I will end up with hemorroids........smile. I do have a sence of humor you know. That is one of the things that keeps me going.

rm_Diesel_1959 58M

12/28/2005 4:14 pm

Hi CHerir3!
I have taken the opportunity to read your blog and I would like to respond to it. My name is Greg and I have emailed you but you did not respond. If you read my profile you know that I am very interested in a long-term relationship. I am 46yo and have been married and divorced. I know exactly what I want and I am willing to do without until I finally find what I am looking for or she finds me. You are correct that many people out there are playing games and all they want is sex. I will be very honest with you. I want sex too! But!!!!!! The difference is I want it with one person that I can spend my time with and grow with. Not just with what is in between my legs but with my heart, mind, and soul. Remember, sex if fine, but if you have not established a friendship or some sort of strong emotional bond with the other person then the sex is meanignless. It also does not last forever. There should always be that spark or that twinkle in the eye of the person you're with that tells you that they want you. Not just sexually, but in every way. You should be able to lay down with that person completely naked and sleep without having sex. But feeling warm, needed, and wanted. We really should talk and possibly get together for coffee, lunch, or maybe even dinner. The one thing I do not have the time for is games. I do not do one night stands either. Please keep in mind what I have said and "keep the faith". You will find what you are looing for. Just do not lower your standards. Stay true to who you are and what you want.


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