sexy married men!  

chantilly20002 47F
152 posts
8/2/2005 3:48 pm

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sexy married men!

Damn ladies what can you do when you run into a damn fine sexy man...who is everything you could possibly dream of but he's married and happily? You can feel unlucky or feel so dammned depressed...but lie ...i feel...happy!
yes...HAPPY...for that woman who was fortunate enough and lucky enough to hang on to that wonderful creature...u know some of us have a good man and act so STUPID!...Yes i said STUPID...that we loose him damn near the same day...ive been there Lord knows thats the truth and im living to regret it...but hopefully ladies we can learn from our hugeeeee....mistakes...what have you regretted in the past that youve learned from or wished you had learned from?....come on talk to Chantilly i am all blogger hugsss to you guys we will listen to you also about some of the STUPID LADIES that you have ran into also...its a free country right????...take care fellow/fella bloggers...this is Chantilly...keeping it real!

sherclin 48M/47F
99 posts
8/2/2005 10:19 pm

Been there! Before hubby & i met there wear a couple unavailable men that made my heart jump, and i have made my share of bad decisions that pushed something good to the breaking point. We live and learn, and (hopefully) make better decisions with time.

Take care,

slowandeasy47 70M

8/3/2005 5:41 am

I am not a lady..but I do have some thoughts and maybe an opinion or two on the matter at hand.

It is always a mistake, no matter the nature of the relationship, for one person to desire to have/own or possess another. Anytime we think we can only be happy with a certain person is our life, is a certain sign we don't have much of an independent life. To place our "blue chips" on somebody else will always lead to some kind of disappointment. When all the smoke clears, that "must have" other, is only a human being with all the baggage that comes with the package.

We need to take the others for what they are and enjoy the moment. Enjoy the closeness, the passion, the intimacy and savor each moment.

There is an old Mexican love song "El Reloj" (The Watch) that implores the clock to stop it's travels and stay in this moment for ever.

When we try to cling to sombody we end up crushing them or ourselves every time.

Friends and lovers now..certainly. Friends and lover next week..hopefully. Friends and lovers forever..who knows but not likely.

We are like turtles..we carry our happyness or our lack thereof around with us. We don't find it long term in others.

As Dennis Miller say.."This is just my opinion and I could be wrong.

FriendlyTickler 45M

8/3/2005 11:13 am

Hi Chantilly,

You look very pretty in your new picture, I like what you've done with your hair. Looks like you were going out on a hot date! I hope it went well if you did.

As for the topic, based on my short lived experience, I have found that with my personality woman find it easy to take advantage or at least find themselves comfortable real fast with me. Becuase of this I have had a couple of doozies..... You see there are the guys that treat their woman like crap...and the woman complain but never leave and then there are the men who treat their woman like gold.....and the woman get very comfortable and learn to take, take and take (I know this isn't true of every woman, just in my short experience). Well I fall into the nice guy category. I was taught how to treat a woman with kindness, respect and love. Infact, when I look at a woman I see a delicate beautiful flower. So I am inspired to treat a woman as such. This vision of a woman isn't dampered unless she has an ugly character/personality.

Well, I found a woman who inspired me. I fell in love with her and was hopelessly lost in her. I would open doors, make her dinner, write her love notes, give her massages, take her to dinner, the movies, etc.. What ever I could do for her I did and I did it becuase I wanted to. These feelings were mutual for the first couple of years and didn't change until I began working and going to school full time. I had my own place with my own bills and was barely getting bye. She new this but had no problem expecting me to take her out to nice restraunts, buy her things, give her massages at 11opm at nite (while still having 2-3 hrs of home work and having to be back at work at 6am) and so on. I tried to explain that I needed her patience and in some cases her help. As things proceeded she slowly pulled away and began going out with other men (while we were engaged). She dissappeared for days at a time and eventually showed up with the engagement ring redone. Literally took the diamond out and put it into a different ring so that it didn't look like an engagement ring. That was basically the sign that we were finished. I was broken hearted, felt badly used and fell apart for a short while. It was a pathetic time in my life, but with it came experience and lessons that were more valuable then anyone could ever imagine. That relationship taught me more of what to look for and what not to look for in a woman.

A woman who is true to herself, has an unselfish heart and has the ability to love others besides herself is what I looked for when I finally got back in the game. It's funny though, other things become more tolerable and less important when you finally realize what is really important in a relationship.

Ok, I'm done and I didn't intend to write a damn novel on your blog but what can I say, I think your real and you deserve a real answer. I think there's more to you then that pretty smile and that body also.

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chantilly20002 47F

8/4/2005 3:22 pm

THANK YOU SHERCLIN...for youre comment id like to see more of that...hugggs young lady...Chantilly

chantilly20002 47F

8/4/2005 3:23 pm

SlowandEasy you spark my curiosity....the mindset is as attractive as youre handsome face...thank you for commenting...keep it comming.....wink...Chantilly

chantilly20002 47F

8/4/2005 3:25 pm

FriendlyTickler...what can i say you are one of my favorites...u can write a novel on Chantilly's blog my guest....i hope alot of bloggers catch this one...thanks...Chantilly

rich33_lonely 44F

8/13/2005 1:56 pm

friendlytickler I know exactly what you mean I was invole with someone who I give all to emotionally, financiallly, materiallly and as you rightfully said advantage was taken of, but all is wel with me now, would like to meet you, and chantilly married men especially those who are happily married I wish them well and hope the same for us some day...peace

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