On age discrimination  

cdnheat 55M/58F
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1/22/2006 5:29 am

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On age discrimination

I was chatting with someone this morning and she was quite upset at my attitude toward a younger partner.
She felt I was discriminating. Perhaps, from her, definitely younger point of view; I am.

There are reasons though; there should be a common frame of reference between two people who participate in intimate activities. There has to be some sort of "meeting of the minds" as well as a "meeting of the bodies." Its probably a female perspective - I can't speak for all men but the men I have spoken with, have mentioned that the best sex they have ever had has been with a partner with whom they had some sort of connection; a friendship, some sort of commonality. That isn't to say they didn't REALLY like those old one night stands but for intense sexual experiences, they seemed to mention encounters of a closer kind.

I don't want to feel like somebody's mother or older sister...that's not what I am looking for in relationship. Friendship first - a common bond; if something develops from there? WOO HOO and if it doesn't? Well, I have another friend with whom to chat, have coffee or just generally "hang" with.

Maybe that's the difference. When we hit a certain level of maturity - it isn't all about the sex experience we can accumulate. Its deeper than that and we are aware of possible ramifications if things go wrong...so we're a little more careful, a little more choosy. So if this defines discrimination? Well, slap me silly and call me discriminating...

sassybelle21 32F
13313 posts
1/22/2006 8:30 am

It's not discriminating. It's a personal preference with sensible reasonings I like older guys and my German lover is 18 years older than me. Things are going great between us because I am mature beyond my age and we're pretty much on the same wavelength

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