ccninja 42M
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4/6/2005 12:05 pm

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Yesterday I talked about being more outgoing with people as I went on about my day.

One of the most common misconceptions in dating is that the best places to meet people are bars. However most of us have contact with a lot more people during our mundane, daily activities. Surveys have been done that show the best places to meet women are just everyday places like the grocery store, library, gym, etc.

Bars are actually pretty low on the list. Most women are there to have fun and are not very receptive to flirting due to all the drunks hitting on them. If they are there to meet a man, you'd better look like Tom Cruise if you want to take on home because they have their pick of plenty of guys.

So the gym and the grocery store are the best places. The problem is how many people actually chat with each other at the gym or the grocery store? I know I don't do it very often. If I do chat with a woman, I never know how to make a move to get a phone number as I would in a bar.

But the truth is if you don't take the time to meet people at these ordinary places, you're missing opportunities. How often do you really go out to bars and the usual places for meeting people, once or twice a week?

I kept track of all the opportunites I missed to socialize with people yesterday. I'll list them tomorrow and what I'll try to do differenty next time.

omahafella 60M

4/6/2005 10:25 pm

The answer is, "you will not live forever nor will you learn the 'secret'". So, be forward and bold. You are young, I am experienced - been there. Take the bull by the horns. You will absolutely worry about being embarrased - you will be, guaranteed. But, deal with it. It is not your nature to be forward, but you have to be, no choice.

ccninja 42M

4/7/2005 4:43 pm

Thanks for the advice. I'm not sure if it's really not my nature to be forward though. It's just something I'm not in the habit of doing. Age and experience definitely helps though.

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