anniversaries and memories  

catkit13 66F
1257 posts
8/23/2006 11:31 pm

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anniversaries and memories


i don't think we'll ever be rid of the commemorations of katrina (one year ago, in a few days) and of the horrendous events of 9/11/01 - nor should we want to be. in one moment, four years apart, our country went through the worst of times . . . one man-made, one wrought by mother nature at her most furious.
the lessons learned, the lessons we should have learned, the lessons ignored - i hope that the powers-that-be take some time to think long and hard about these events
right now, i'm not thinking about these things, tho yes, i'm writing about them, but only as a prelude to the rest . . . to where my mind goes at this time every year
i was in love with a wonderful man, who had the horrible twin diseases of alcoholism and addiction - he was in and out of treatment, and i think the longest he was able to stay clean and sober during our eight years together was about 18 months. for labor day weekend, 2001, i flew to chicago for a high-school reunion (our 34th - don't ask) and, as i always did before a trip out of town, i made my man promise me that he wouldn't die while i was gone. as usual, he gave me his promise
but he couldn't keep the promise five years ago. he died, alone, of a massive heart attack - he was clean and sober, believe it or not, but the long-term abuse he heaped on his body finally caught up to him - and he died alone. how lonely, how frightened he must have been!
and, when i came home, and saw more than ten messages flashing on my answering machine, i knew before i listened to the first one, what the news was - and i cried, and yelled, and cried, and ranted - and all the while, helped make the plans for the memorial service, dealt with the personal property, talked to the medical examiner
i guess his death really didn't become real to me until days later -
and then, one morning, watching the today show, i saw a plane fly into one of the towers of the world trade center, and i cried
then, a few years later, i saw one of our most important cities almost disappear under flood waters no one seemed to expect, and i cried
i guess this is my season for grieving
and for crying

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/50F
9753 posts
8/24/2006 1:51 am

It is understandable.

Big hug sweetie Blogging always seems to help me alleviate my pain.

Purry {=}

Purry


puntachueca 105M

8/24/2006 6:32 am

Understand too very well.
Someone I had a very special relationship is in hospice with an inoperable brain tumor.

I see all the 9/11 stuff and the Katrina stuff lately and it just makes me mad.

Our government is so inept. It fails at its basic purpose which is to protect the health, safety, welfare, lives and property of the people.

I am having a major fuss with the feds right now about my project. They have wrapped themselves in a spider web of rules and bullshit and the result is only part of the problem is getting solved and the rest dumped on us...which is hugely unfair. Read the oin line version of the Nogales International friday and you'll see what I'm up against.

9/11 could have been prevented..

The destruction of New Orleans could have been prevented.

It is time to get the Republican swine out of office!!!!!


catkit13 66F

8/24/2006 7:20 am

    Quoting rm_PurryKitty2:
    It is understandable.

    Big hug sweetie Blogging always seems to help me alleviate my pain.

    Purry {=}
thanks for the hug, purry, and thanks for visiting - i'll return the favor. you're right, writing seems to help me work thru the pain - cat


AstirRelicLatah 64M
1993 posts
8/24/2006 8:11 am

I'm cryin with you..


rm_goddess1946 106F
13518 posts
8/25/2006 10:54 am

Sometimes the grieving never stops for what could have been
also. Having been married to an alcoholic, I understand this
one and my heart goes out to you. Tears can be very healing...
know that it is always darkest before the dawn...
Acknowledging love and sending you peace


Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


catkit13 66F

8/25/2006 7:00 pm

    Quoting rm_goddess1946:
    Sometimes the grieving never stops for what could have been
    also. Having been married to an alcoholic, I understand this
    one and my heart goes out to you. Tears can be very healing...
    know that it is always darkest before the dawn...
    Acknowledging love and sending you peace
thank you for your kindness - that, and the tears, are helping . . . wishing the best for you, too
cat


warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
8/26/2006 11:01 am

Such anniversaries are so sad. How the world changed after 9/11 has grieved me deeply. If London was faced with the same storm surge conditions katrina created (and it is possible, as the North Sea can really surge when the conditions are "right") there might well be frighteningly similar consequences. And your lost lover ..... so tragic..... my heart goes out to you.

But because these things sadden we must hope that we and others learn from them. Every now and again we need to cast our eye to the rearview mirror to know where we have been.

hugs {=}

warm xx


rm_AnOddGirl 57F
3469 posts
8/28/2006 8:57 am

Yup, I still cry over my city, just not everyday like I did 6 months ago, thank gawd.


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