creepy?  

catastrophegirl 40F
975 posts
5/29/2006 7:20 pm

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6/2/2006 2:41 am

creepy?


so i met a guy who needs some stuff in the place he just moved in to. we hung out a couple days in a row just because of timing being that way. we've just barely met.
then yesterday i spent the day cleaning out a friend's garage and got some stuff out of the deal which happened to be stuff that was on the list of things this guy was looking for.

i text messaged him about me dropping the stuff off and then today i didn't have a response so i emailed him about it.:


"i am seeing talk of sickness. whether it is physical or mental, i hope you feel better soon.
i got a bunch of stuff that you might have an interest in from house/garage cleaning.

more hangers

some kitchen stuff (oh and i picked up a couple of things at goodwill on saturday before work too)

scented candles (votives, various fragrances)

a black bean bag chair

an unused humorous potholder

some mossy green colored upholstery fabric that if you like it, should be enough to cover those kitchen chairs

i work tomorrow evening and then i have tuesday off where i have to do car stuff during the day. but if you want any of that or just want to look at it, let me know and we can work out a time. also, there's my shop vac if you want to borrow it and i forgot that i have a hand held steam cleaner vacuum thing if you want to clean the dubious beige armchair with it "

innocuous enough, right? i thought so.

then i got this today:


"sure no problem, hey do me a favor and slow it down a bit. you are kinda freekin' me out here. i mean i want to meet new people but i am feeling like you aren't catching on to what I am saying. I don't even associate with my closest friends on a daily basis, let alone several times a day. no disrespect but i just want you to understand clearly that i am not interested in carrying this anything further than here. i dont want to be offensive but it was very weird and i dont feel comfortable with any of it. its just not where i'm at. i hope you understand.

no need to reply, just give it a minute. "

(i'm not even sure where the "here" he mentions is supposed to be?)

so i sent back:


"um, yeah, i was trying to tell you the other day that i thought it was really weird too. i told you before i'm trying to not invade your life or anything. friends would be good. i like having friends.
i do tend to talk too much though and i know it can annoy people.
no offense taken
sorry about making you feel uncomfortable

i just want to get this stuff i got for you out of my car though. can i drop it off outside your door? it just happened to be the way the timing worked out on someone giving me some stuff they were getting rid of. but you might have noticed i have a hell of a lot of stuff already and no space to store more "

apparently now I'M the creepy one! i think that's hilarious. but really, i'm having a bunch of stuff done with my car tomorrow and this week and i need to get this stuff out of my car. it's really embarassing to me to make mechanics work on my car when it's full of junk.
i think i'm just going to drop this shit off at his place (not the vacuum, that's a borrow it while i'm there kind of thing. i can't afford to have that disappear) and let it go


DIVISION77 39M  
8321 posts
5/29/2006 9:48 pm

Apparently you are giving the guy vibes such that he think you want something from him.

Not saying it's real or justified, but apparently to him it is.

On a side note:

Since reading your blog it's interesting how detached you are, even though you don't share your whole self here, it comes through anyway.

You are attractive, yet so cold and detached.

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


bulging_boy 49M

5/30/2006 3:11 pm

Am I right thinking that Mr Nakie on the roof with the G reaching dick is also Mr Don't freak me out?

If so, that's a damned shame. Not because you're not getting the fast O, tho feel free to dispute that fact... it may well be a shame!

But moreso, because it adds fuel to the fire that guys will bail once they've got what they wanted.


unioncountync69 47M

5/30/2006 4:02 pm

There are some people out there in the world that are far beyond helping, perhaps he is one. Then again he may truly be the odd one trying to spin a little reverse psychology in some bizarre psuedo Elvis way.


rm_verriberri 78F
1849 posts
5/31/2006 4:09 am

well.. I don't know you, but from a woman's perspective.. and one who's had close male friends all of my life.. anything that has to do with 'living spaces' and 'gifts' is a hot button. i.e. the vibe that 'you're moving in'.. or 'decorating' or even just ingratiating. It may not be your intent, but I have to say that your email to him felt like you were pushing or assuming a place in his intimate environment (especially the part about picking up things for him at the goodwill... I've had friends who were freaked by these things and they were happening with women whom they had established relationships with. If he's a bit of a loner anyway, it could have felt like you were steamrolling him. - sorry, that's just the way it appears from your text... I'm a bit of a loner myself, and unless I'm really really really into someone.. hearing from them multiple times in quick succession can make me feel like they're backing me into a corner. -v


DIVISION77 39M  
8321 posts
5/31/2006 10:44 am

    Quoting catastrophegirl:
    why would he think i wanted anything from him when i'm the one helping him find stuff?
    hehe... and the last thing i said to him in person was saturday morning: "well, if you want to hang out sometime you know how to reach me"
    yeah, i may come across as detached to most people. to my close friends i'm really not.
    and the blogs i post here are only about 1/3 of what i post in other places. i don't want to overwhelm any one group of people with how much babble i spew forth
It's not about being overwhelmed at all, but I'm left wondering, just where is the catastrophe with this girl?

I suppose I'm just openly wishing you'd open up more about yourself.

Anyone who likes Siouxsie and The Banshees has to have an edgier side to them.

We both know that's real.

I'll take the "babble" if it has some meaning mixed in.

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
5/31/2006 7:37 pm

You know, if someone acted like that with me, I would have to think of ways to creep him out, just to be a bitch. I say just throw the stuff up on Freecycle if he's going to be an asshole. Then, if he decides he wants it, tough.


rm_verriberri 78F
1849 posts
6/1/2006 3:20 am

    Quoting MissAnnThrope:
    You know, if someone acted like that with me, I would have to think of ways to creep him out, just to be a bitch. I say just throw the stuff up on Freecycle if he's going to be an asshole. Then, if he decides he wants it, tough.
lmao w/missanthrope... great perspective.

catastrophegirl - I'm sure you were probably behaving in good faith and in accord with how you had behaved previously - but this just seems to be an issue that men aren't rational about. What they'll say to get an 'in' is different from how they'll feel when they 'have you'.. it's really just the soundtrack in his head we're talking about... that doesn't necessarily sync with the actual facts. Great idea just movin' on. -v


ArtisticTwist75 41F
2505 posts
6/1/2006 2:04 pm

    Quoting MissAnnThrope:
    You know, if someone acted like that with me, I would have to think of ways to creep him out, just to be a bitch. I say just throw the stuff up on Freecycle if he's going to be an asshole. Then, if he decides he wants it, tough.
Sometimes I just wish I could be like MissAnn... but alas... I would respond with "niceness" just like you catastrophe... I would leave a neat pile on the stairwell. UGH... feels good to move on though... doesn't it.

Artistic


rm_CMeerkad 37M

6/2/2006 1:55 am

I caught similar recently. I said it was okay if I went along while someone shopped for groceries. This was apparently creepy.


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