What happened to people who......................  

carriebu 45M/40F
308 posts
4/24/2005 3:50 pm

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What happened to people who......................

wanted to have wonderful guilty free sex? We have been talking about this lately and come up with an coherent answer that doesn't include certain explectives that aren't allowed in these blogs. So We pose this ? to you folks out there with enough guts and common sense to please explain to us why? We aren't ignorant by any means and expect the same from others. Do most of you come on this site as a means of entertainment only at the expense of the members who are here to seek out a meaningful experience? To those that don't know or know but don't want to admit that you are insecure in your relationship; we simply state "eat shit!". to all others that are in the same place we are we empathize and you have our condolances. We posted a blog about 8 weeks ago asking where are the real couples we have surmissed that they are simply hiding because of all the bullshit that gets included with looking for those special people and moments. We understand life happens but it seems more and more that sites like these become more of an all talk and no show event with little if not zero return. It's very disappointing that adults can't act like adults and be mature. Any comments are welcome whether they are coherent responses that utilize intelligent, well thought out processes or just complete bullshit babble as most seem capable of.
Grinning from ear to ear
Michael and Carrie

lonely57401 57F

4/25/2005 7:40 pm

Carrie and Michael,
First of all it is a pleasure to tune in and see some very real passion and see a "real" couple out there having fun. Now to get to your comments/questions. I can only answer from what I have seen and experienced on here. I have run across some very insincere, insecure, indiscreet, inept people. I know that some are on here to just make others miserable. I have found more people on here to be unreal rather than real. It is definitely all talk here where I live versus action.

You keep it real and the good people will surface. I have faith and that is why I keep persisting in finding the right person to have my fun with!!


69goingdownonu 44M

4/26/2005 1:26 am

Well some of us are very real but do not meet your requirements. I am sorry that you have not found your perfect match. I would think couples would have better luck but I guess I am wrong again. If you are patient you might be one of the lucky ones.

I do know what you mean though. It seems as though most of the single women profiles on here are for some website or camsite. Very discouraging. Have a great day and best of luck to you both in your search for happiness.

ardiphne 46M

4/26/2005 2:07 am

I don't have enough time to developp, and my english is quite bad (that's why I need time to write ! , so I just want to say :


(and I'm here only since yesterday, but I used to be in an openmind couple and having fun with my ex-girlfriend was the same problem you describe...)

Maybe I'll be back with a dictionnary



tat2dmale69 48M

4/26/2005 10:18 am

I think that it all depends on what you are looking for. If it just an intense sexual encounter with someone that you enjoy talking to, and have gotten to know on-line. You should have no problems. That would be guilt free sex. If you get all bent out of shape if he/she doesn't want to continue talking everyday than that is something else.

It happened to me. I loved being with a couple, but the female half became insecure as to why we didn't meet up again. She was amazing! Life happened.

PrettyNbrownEyez 37F

4/26/2005 5:55 pm

never been with a couple before, sounds interesting...by the way good article!

TakesTeatsStood 50M
505 posts
4/26/2005 6:49 pm

I think some of the others did get your point. You guys are perfectly ok with each other, its great, and based on your previous post not every couple can say that

Some of the people commenting here are not couples (ok most of us aren't), so all we can do is add our two cents.

For me, as long as I was going into a situation with the understanding that this was all about fun and having a good time, I am sure I would have no problems (guilt free as you said). But, once again, I don't meet your wants/needs being A) too far away and A single male - lol. So all I can do is wish you well in your quest, I think you will find what you are looking for (actually you have from the sounds of it - its just a long-ass trip to meet the people!!).

I'll keep watching your exploits whenever I am lucky enough to catch you two on cam

TakesTeatsStood 50M
505 posts
4/26/2005 6:51 pm

apparently B ) (without the space) makes - excuse the apparent typo in my second to last paragraph - lol.

rm_maryandjay15 49M/48F
1 post
4/27/2005 3:23 am

Re: your recent post on where are all the couples who want to EXPERIENCE sex?

This is also something that we've thought about quite a bit. I'm afraid that what we've come up with is more of a philosophical answer than a satisfying one. This is really the dark underbelly of the internet -- and indeed of all existence in a technological age.

We occasionally sit around and muse about the people that we have contact with -- they'll sit around for hours at a time playing Madden football on playstation (or whatever the hell it's on) but are 5 feet 1 and 300 pounds because they never really play the real game. When we were kids, we'd sit around on Sunday and watch the football games, and when they were over, we'd go outside and actually play for three hours. But it seems that to lots of folks today, the new reality isn't comprised of what you actually do, it's made up of what you can direct or manipulate on some impersonal screen. "Skill" today has nothing to do with punting, passing, kicking, running, or tackling, it has to do with manipulating some faux fantasy world.

Why would people prefer playstation football to the real thing? There is no risk. You can't lose. If things go wrong, you stop the game and reset it till it turns out the way you want it. You can always be a winner in your playstation world.

We aren't talking about football here -- same thing goes for a woman who sits around watching TV romance rather than romancing hubby and for the dipsticks who spend $15 a month to be on AdultFriendFinder but weren't laid at all last year, and won't be this year. AdultFriendFinder is a big fantasy world that people can, to some extent, manipulate and feel safe -- it is to sex what playstation is to football: a safer, if merely one-dimensional, replacement.

We've experienced the same frustrations, but the problem surely isn't AdultFriendFinder (though there is an incomprehensible margin for improvement there), it's that people are one-dimensional fraidy-cats who use technology not as a means of expanding reality, but as a means of replacing it. It isn't unique to this website or even to sex, it is, as the song goes, a "Sympton of the Universe." That's what we think....

rm_dandth 47M/38F
173 posts
4/27/2005 4:40 pm

We've had decent success, although we've had a couple of set backs with two couples that were not honest about what they wanted or what they had experience with that caused problems. I suppose though that's where those cumbersome "relationships" come into play. If we haven't made friends with someone then we can't really judge what's right/wrong/left with them and how we will pan out in the sack. So, we tell people up front, we have to meet, we have to go out, we have to like hanging with you beyond 12 minutes at a local pizza joint, and then we will move on from there and bang your brains out.

Mike28692 47M
3 posts
5/7/2005 11:12 am

Right here! I'm open, confident and relish guilt free sexual explration. I recently posted the same question in my blog... no better luck w/ replies. People need to let go and enjoy life as the sexual beings we are!

rm_Thom20000 55M/51F
66 posts
5/14/2005 5:41 am

Diseases are of course taking there toll, but one needn't look too far, particularly at this site to find what you describe.


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