Life lessons..  

carebearluv2 41F
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2/6/2006 9:00 pm

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Life lessons..

Some lessons in life are unintentional. They fall into your lap like a good novel on a nice, summer day. They make you think and they make you want to learn more. I learned a lesson yesterday, or rather I was reminded of one I learned earlier. The lesson of selflessness.

To be selfless is not a natural born trait. Our human instinct is to protect what is ours and to revolve our thinking around ourselves. We teach children to share, to play nice and to have empathy because it is something that doesn't come naturally. Call it survival if you will.

As most of you know, I have been injured recently. You are also aware, if you have been reading my blog for awhile, that my father is recovering from a major stroke. A stroke that happened because of his own addictions. Nonetheless, regardless of the cause, no one should ever have to endure the task of
re-learning how to walk or talk.

Which is where my lesson comes in. Yesterday, I received a phone call from him. He was talking better, albeit still slurred. As he was talking to me, I noticed a change in his voice. It was one of hope, one of pride and one of resilence.

It was in this moment, when he was talking about his latest achievement, the tying of his shoes, that I was reminded how fragile life is. I realized that while I was self absorbed with my minor injury, he was learning to live again. He was learning to do a simple task that we take for granted every day and he was loving the lesson.

He took the time to ask me about my injury, while I took the time to turn the focus back on him and his progress. He went to a hockey game with his walker, the first thing he has done since it happened. He is riding the bus with the seniors and going on outings, which I find amusing considering his blonde hair and zest for life. He's really going to shake up that senior center!

Many of us use these blogs to vent our frustrations, heal our sadness and cure our loneliness. These blogs are our outlet and our solace. We develop friendships and find kindred spirits. But through all of this, we must not forget there are those learning to live again, those less fortunate than us and those truly experiencing pain, beyond the emotional kind. We must not lose our humility. That is the true life lesson.

(Yes, that is my Dad and no, that is not me. It is my stepsister).

dasher121 36M

2/7/2006 6:51 am

An important and complex lesson to be learned. Very happy to hear that everything with him is progressing forward. Thats what matters. And as much as it sucks to have to start over again, he now has something important to focus on, something that he is obviously taking pride in. And your interest in that, and care in him, shows. And Im sure that he is happy for all that you give.

This was a great post, thank you for sharing this news with us. Lessons to be learned, and an important reflection on life.

norprin5 55M

2/7/2006 4:31 pm

King Nor XVIII

carebearluv2 41F

2/7/2006 7:58 pm

Dash, thanks for the compliment on this post. Writing about him really helps me work through things. To hear a grown man remark about tying his shoes was an amazing gift that he wasn't even aware that he gave me.

carebearluv2 41F

2/7/2006 7:58 pm

Back atcha Nor!

(Princess Lips)

2/8/2006 12:12 am



carebearluv2 41F

2/8/2006 8:24 pm

thanks Red!

Jez, they are great. My Dad hasn't been the best one but mostly due to his addictions. He is always there if I need him though and that is the important thing.

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