In Rememberance of Randy...  

carebearluv2 42F
1267 posts
11/25/2005 8:10 pm

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In Rememberance of Randy...

A friend of mine died yesterday. On Thanksgiving of all days. Not a close friend but one I associated with on a weekly basis. He was our Cubmaster and he took his role with my son and the other boys to heart in everything he did. He was a true mentor, a good father and someone I am proud to have known. His name was Randy.

Randy loved Cub Scouting. It gave him the chance to guide our boys, let him show off his skills and livened his spirit. He was an avid camper, skilled craftsman and was always the first one to help you when you needed it. He would offer to help pitch a tent, share his food or give tips on camping in 20 degree weather. When our original Cubmaster jumped "ship", he took the reigns and sailed us. He motivated us, took care of us when we complained (which happened alot with so many women in the Troop) and still managed to make us smile or laugh. He called me "sweetheart", which at the time grated my nerves. I felt it was condescending. Looking back, I realize he never meant it to be so. It was simply his way of referring to me.

With his spirit came his guidance. Sometimes, he would come down on the boys in a way that made him seem harsh, doling out directions and keeping them in line. I didn't always agree with him. Looking back as I have in the last few days, I realize he never did it for any other reason but to guide them. To make them stronger and to give the ones without fathers, such as my son, some male direction. He wanted the boys to succeed, to grow and to become the best possible men they could be.

My last contact with Randy was last week. This is the memory that will follow me whenever I think of him. We were together at a Scout meeting. There he set in a stuffed chair, notebook on lap, his eyes dancing with excitement as he described the float he created for the upcoming Christmas parade. I remember thinking he looked so happy and I was glad he was a part of our Troop. Even in death, he still is. We will keep our Troop alive in his absence, because we know he would have wanted it. In fact, he will be buried in his leader uniform.

I ran into his wife today at a store, unexpected as we were both out of our little town. She was walking around in a daze, gathering last minute items for the kids to wear to his service. As I hugged her, I realized how delicate life is. Just a snap of the fingers and it can all be taken away. She is a single parent of three children now, with no job. In fact, I don't even think she has a driver's license. I fear for her as she struggles to provide for their children. Randy was only 44, way too young to die and way too young to leave his children.

As I write this, tears abound, not only for Randy but for the ones he left behind. I can only hope as he waits in heaven, that his children and wife will find peace here on Earth.

You will be missed Randy!

rm_titsandtires 51M/41F
3656 posts
11/25/2005 9:31 pm

that's a very nice tribute to him carebear. you've honored him well.

barbiebunny 36F
5597 posts
11/26/2005 12:57 am

(huggs carebear)
Beautiful xo

Its good to be...ME

carebearluv2 42F

11/28/2005 7:45 pm

Thanks Bunz, Tires and Jez. I will take hugs from you three any day!

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