Breaking the silence  

candy69sosweet 61F
10901 posts
11/11/2005 1:17 am
Breaking the silence

I have tried to remain quiet through all the turmoil that has been breeding here in my beloved Blogville. I have not taken sides, because there are no sides really. Everyone is trying, in vain, to defend those they call friend.

I am here to tell you that I call all the parties involved friend. Brother. Sister. Whatever loving term you chose.

What started out as a simple thoughtless expression made out of anger for his child, turned into a whirlwind of emotions, blown about and scattered across the top of our mountain and deep into the valleys of our corner of ~this friendly site~.

As I look around this is almost 4AM and I have been up all night for the second in a row...I see too many of my loved ones packing up and leaving. Dismantling their blogs and turning off their profiles. There is such an air of despair, it is disheartening.

Yes, some things were said that shouldn't have been said. Some unintentional, some maliciously. All, when taken out of contex, are hurtful. Remember words can cut deeper and leave worse scars than any knife ever could.

This post is written to ask all parties to please come back and talk. Not throw angry words at each other. Not make accusations at each other. But to say, "I'm sorry". Trav has already done that. More than once. I deeply respect a man who can do this, especially in front of thousands of nameless people. TiT, you are a special man, who I have come to adore. You have a huge heart which shows in your posts, especially when you talk about your children. You care.

Blondie had accepted his apology and was ready to move on. I applaud her for her dignity and her fierce maternal protectiveness toward her son and all the children out in the world who are 'special'. Blondie, you may be the sweetest lady I have ever 'met'. You stood by me in my hours of deepest despair, supported me through my darkest days, and for that I can never thank you enough. I am proud to call you friend, for you are the true meaning of the word.

What happened next is truly a shame, and I am not going to go into the details here. There are enough blogs out there where you can find out what happened. All I know is now it seems everyone is running for cover, as if there's a nuclear bomb on the way, and you gotta get out before it hits.

Well folks, it has already hit. The fallout is, hopefully, just about over. I pray that when the dust settles, everyone will return. And I mean everyone. Not just Blondie and TiT. But TDA1 and saintlianna. DT and 5er. Jez and KJ. Can we all sit at a round table, like King Arthur and his royal knights, and talk this out? Kiss and make up? We cannot allow a few words tear our hearts and family apart.

When I left here last June, and stayed away for two months, I was so lonely and depressed. It took a while to realize why. It was because I needed to be here with my friends. To laugh and cry with. To banter with and yes, to fight with at times. Just like a 'real' family.

So come on people. Can't we all just put this mess behind us and try to live together with the love and friendship that we have all come to enjoy?


Kisses & Hugs,

~Friendship is a gift given from the heart and treasured forever~

wildfirecoyote 59M
22 posts
11/28/2005 2:54 am

I am just reading this blog for the first time, but I agree with Candy wholeheartedly. I am new to blogging and have only had one for a few days, but it seems to me that blogging is about having fun and maybe sharing some intimate thoughts with people you don't know. I have traveled a lot and have found that it is often easier to open up to strangers than to someone you know, because you don't have to worry about losing the respect of a stranger. But fun seems to be the main point of blogging to me and we all need more of that. Blogging is a good opportunity to make yourself feel better by making someone else feel better and entertaining others. As much crap as everyone has to deal with in the world, it is great to have a place to go and discuss the intimate aspects of life openly and to have fun doing it. Of course, there will always be shitheads bringing everyone else down or abusing the system for their own twisted purposes, but that is life. If it brings us down, we don't have to participate or read it and certainly don't have to stir up a mess by commenting. I believe John Lennon is supposed to have once said that the ultimate censorship is the flick of the dial.

Let's just have fun and forget those who would rather live in their own personal hells.

lookbutdonttouc9 38F

11/17/2005 12:21 pm

Just passing bye

keithcancook 60M
17865 posts
11/13/2005 10:47 pm

You ought to love it since you are the mayor sexyfitwoman!

All I can say is that my experience here has shown that bloggers come, and bloggers go. While it pains me to see my friends leave, the blogs always continue. And so must I...

TopFisher 63M

11/13/2005 4:58 am

Very good Candy,

I've really nothing more to add. Perfection has not equal. You have perfected this subject!

Thank You


spinmedown 49M
3626 posts
11/12/2005 6:29 pm

Sweet sentiments and so very true, Candy.

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde

rm_luke69iner 48M
3275 posts
11/11/2005 3:26 pm

I had decided to avoid taking sides and just wish everyone well hoping at least some of them would come back.

I have decided to take sides in this and speak up.

I'm taking Candy's side and I'm hoping everyone can just put this mess behind us and try to live together with the love and friendship that we have all come to enjoy.


S'io credesse che mia risposta fosse
A persona che mai tornasse al mondo,
Questa fiamma staria senza piu scosse.
Ma perciocche giammai di questo fondo
Non torno vivo alcun, s'i'odo il vero,
Senza tema d'infamia ti rispondo

slidein2meplz 62F
1994 posts
11/11/2005 7:03 am

Well put Candy. I agree completely.

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~

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