The things that continue on...  

caligirl54 62F
15 posts
10/28/2005 11:06 pm

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The things that continue on...

Well, I have received your comments on my daughter.. enough said, I think...

But, by the by, I am here wondering... really wondering... what is going on...

Ah, I don't mean that in a bad way, just a trying to understand way...

By that I mean, please excuse me as I have had a glass of wine.. or two...

But I mean what is going on here? Why would a woman such as myself find it so difficult to meet a "good" man?

By "good" man, I mean, someome who is... hmmmm... let me let this flow...

Someone who is the strong to my strong...

Someone who is confident..

Someone who is into sex and passion and sensuality and also wants someone that they can ... dare I say this?.... talk to... who has a mind with the body...

I wonder about this.. I think sometimes that it is so easy yet so difficult...

For to be passionate, strong, sensual AND have the ability to carry on a conversation outside of the sex that you want seems to be almost to hard... that is so sad...

Ah, don't misunderstand me.. please don't...

I want to be with a man who is a.. dare I say this... a "manly" man... a strong man, one who knows what he wants...not all the time, that is okay... but still knows what he wants...

Knows how to be a man....in my view point that is someone who is smart, funny, sexy, sensual.. can laugh...doesn't let the past color his whole life from that point forward. We ALL have pain in some form or another...

But, but... one who is willing to try...

Look, I know who I am and what I am...simple and complex at the same time, as we all are.

I want to have the sun shine on my face, I want the bliss of having a GREAT cup of coffee, I want to see and feel my lover snuggling up against me in the morning for the first burst of lust... warm bodies, stroking hands..ah, you know what I mean...

Alas, I don't have that.. I want that... but I won't "settle" as no one should, I want all of it.. can we, at this point in our lives, still be willing to give all of ourselves and... most importantly, accept all of the others that we want/should/desire be involved with?

A question... so? Any answers out there??


rm_OmShantih 44M

10/29/2005 12:36 am

You seem to have a very eloquent manner about you. I believe that all you are feeling is what many men feel but do not want to admit to. I have wondered the same in my life. I prefer, despite the urge to want many sexual things, to have a stimulation that surpasses the act of mere sex. Without it, sex cannot be nearly as gratifying. Can you have it all? It is possible- but would require the right person who is beyond the norm to share it with. Actions and words are tell-tale signs of the bond that you are describing- and I believe that it is possible if you connect with the right person who shares the same feelings and thoughts as you!


caligirl54 62F

10/29/2005 2:54 am

Thank you honey for your response, (oh, sorry, if the "honey" offended you but that is the way that I am). What you said was pretty cool, I liked it...Actions and words....hmmm.. I am interested in that, the right person? How do you know that?? Not trying to be a fool or someone who just wants to fight, but someone who wants to know. It takes both sides to come to an agreement to agree..... if you just wanna fuck, well, there are lots of people out there who are just there for that..more, well... there you go... back at the beginning, I seem to be (please don't tell me I just sounded like Yoda there!)


janmecir 53M
158 posts
10/29/2005 5:27 am

Hi there
You wrote this post in a similar stream-of-consciousness style to mine....which i'm getting to prefer....because it feels spontaneous and conversational (look I'm doing it now!)...and has the flow of feeling in the here and now...here i am - right now - and i'm saying this to you...'this'.....this is for you....as i am...at this moment....(ok - a bottle of wine helps possibly!.....although i'm not drinking any....)

To respond to your post:

'To carry on a conversation outside of the sex'
Good sex is a conversation isn't it? The talk 2 bodies make with one another....flowing.....fluid......
And actually, the best ever sex for me is when thinking-talking-fucking all are happening together in 1 fluid continuum....
I love talk during sex; i love being made 'present'by words....eros being articulated by language.....To be able to physically 'fuck-with' my partner is often the easier part of the sharing going on.....but to 'talk-with' always creates and completes the experience for me, turns it into a 'being with' that makes it feel whole......

Is that making any sense? Probably not! I just made it up! I was 'thinking with' you for a minute.......!
Jan


rm_OmShantih 44M

10/29/2005 1:29 pm

Well, I agree with both of you, even if Yoda was a mentor. I guess it's just a matter of weeding out the personalities that are in tune with your own feelings- and that is difficult to do with words only, or even with the personality matrix that the site provides. In the haystack that is AdultFriendFinder, I'm certain there are bound to be at least a couple of needles!


caligirl54 62F

10/31/2005 9:57 pm

Ah, baby, good sex is a conversation in and of itself.. I guess, well, hell, I know what i was saying, it that I want to have just that..the flowing, the ease, does that make sense? It does to me...you see, I am the kinda person that.. well, you want and you don't.. why you ask?? Well, I am very sensual and sexual and in the moment, so that is good..but.. I wanna see your face, hold you in my hands and arms.. to feel the connection...great sex is awesome, I have seen it and felt it.. so much that the very act shaked my thighs the next day... I know from what I speak...

But, ah, there is the "but" I want that thing.. that thing that we all want... that is what I was talking about...believe me that I understand that the best is in the situation at the time.. but... well....


caligirl54 62F

10/31/2005 10:10 pm

Dear Akadafa?

I hope that I did that right...we do all bump in the night, thus my inquiry...look I understand that most, if not all, I'll be cautious when I say this, that on this site they are looking for a "quick" fuck.. no way around it... the women that respond quickly, I guess it is good for them as it is for the men.

I only know that if I don't.. .respond quickly that is.. I am written off...

I don't think that what men and women want is so far apart.. or maybe it is because I have been alone for a long time. Most men on this site, sorry to make a general statement but, I will from impart from my own experience, have been relatively recently divorced or parted from their former loves. They are hurt, wanting to get back, also wanting to have what they had before, that they didn't always understand/appreciate/accept/grasp/know that they fucking needed.

That closeness, that comfort, that sexual, sensual thing that they had.... so sometimes they come across as angry, hurt, just wanting to fuck everything in their sight...make every women that they come in connect with pay a price for something that they know nothing about - themselves nor the women they are involved with.

Confused?? Yes we ALL are... not just the men... we women do the same fucking thing.. all the time and sometimes in a worst way than you all do...

What I was saying, trying to say, was that, they are a lotta good ones out there, a lotta good ones - hell I am one!

So, what does anyone do at this point? Do they give up? Be more bitter/lonely/crazy then they were before??

Questions I have.. answers I have not...


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