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What Is A Fetish? ~ The Origin Of Fetish ~ What's Your Fetish? ~ Top Ten Fetishes ~
What Is A Fetish? ~ The Origin Of Fetish ~ What's Your Fetish? ~ Top Ten Fetishes ~
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what is a fetish? The Origin Of Fetish What's Your Fetish? Top Ten Fetishes
Some people aren't sure if they even have a fetish while others think that their fetishes are abnormal. So what is a fetish? If you have a fetish, you are obsessively fixated on either an object or a body part, or both.
You need that specific something for sexual gratification. When you masturbate, you have to either fantasize about that object or have that object with you. Even if you have sex with a partner, you still need to fantasize about that object or have it present.
For instance, if you're attracted to a brunette, that's one thing, but if you are unable to get aroused unless you're with a brunette, then you likely have a fetish.
The Origin Of Fetish
The word fetish originally meant "charm", and it originates from the 15th century Portuguese word feitico, which means false power, object or charm. For example, when the Portuguese explored West Africa and encountered native religions, they called whatever talisman (totems, carvings, beads) they revered, a fetish.
To the Portuguese in those days, the fetishists were those who worshipped the unusual. Later on, however, the implication of the word took on a whole different meaning.
First, a fetish involves the transfer of power from an original source onto a substitute. Second, a fetishist is someone who operates outside the circle of what is characteristically considered normal. Yeah right, what is normal nowadays?
What's Your Fetish?
There are many diverse kinds of fetishes, depending on the object being fetishized. Inanimate fetishes come in two varieties -- media and form.
In a media fetish, material is what is obsessed over. Media fetishes include rubber, leather, latex, and silk.
With a form fetish, it's the shape of the object that has great significance. Stiletto heels, knee-high boots and panties fall into this category.
Feet, hair, butts, breasts, and all that good stuff are also considered fetishes, but since these objects are human, they're called "animate" fetishes.
People can turn anything into a fetish. There are different degrees of fetishism: from mild to extreme. It's quite easy to tell whether your fetish is getting out of hand. Basically, if your fetish interferes with your relationship or your life, seek the help of a professional.
The following ten fetishes were comprised through a survey that was filled out by AskMen readers. There are plenty of others that have been omitted, which may be somewhat tamer or ten times wilder. Read on to see if someone else has the same fetishes that you do, and which ones ranked in the top ten.
Top Ten Fetishes
The list does not follow a specific order, therefore "feet" probably won't be number one!
Men and women both agreed that taut tummies make them somewhat crazy. But others said that they would never bed a potential partner if their tummies protruded or hung loosely.
Some guys weren't as picky and admitted that they liked it when a woman had a tight tummy, but with a teensy weensy little pot. One gentleman was very adamant about needing to umm... release himself on a woman's stomach or his experience simply wouldn't be pleasurable.
2. Body piercing
This one was quite popular with the younger crowd (18-35). Everything from tongues and nipples to eyebrows and penises was not only acceptable, but for a specific few, it was a prerequisite.
One guy told us that he loves tongue rings because after being pleasured by a girl who had one, he can't go back to the "ordinary." The feeling of the cool object rubbing against his penis while her hot mouth engulfed him "felt like heaven."
3. Leather, rubber, vinyl, latex
Men seem to love material; perhaps not the actual feel of it, but the rather pornographic quality it gives to a sexual encounter. Although men look to settle down with a sweet woman, most will forever have a fixation with that "bad girl" look.
"Watching a woman move around in anything tight and shiny is a tease in itself," says one gentleman who shall remain nameless. Another man told me that his girlfriend's entire wardrobe consists of latex and leather. Sounds like his girlfriend has a job on Wall Street if you ask me.
To my amazement, most women dominate and most guys submit. HELLO! A lot of women said they love to order their men around in bed like slaves and spank them, smack them, and even penetrate them with a strap-on.
Guys, on the other hand, enjoy submitting to women and being told what to do. I guess most of them are probably tired of performing all the time. Everything I mentioned that the women do -- well, the men enjoy having those things done to them. Welcome to the new millennium.
You knew this one was coming didn't you? Men enjoy licking, sucking, kissing, and biting women's feet almost exclusively. Some guys simply can't date a woman if she has ugly feet or toes.
Women, I was surprised to learn, love to suck on men's fingers and some can even orgasm off that alone. "There's something about pleasuring a man's finger as though it was a penis that gives me orgasmic pleasure," said one woman from Seattle.
It's the cliché of the late 80's: red lipstick and long, red-lacquered fingernails. Well, guess what? Some guys are still obsessed with that whole thing. They enjoy feeling a woman's nails running down their back or flicking their testicles gently with those sadistic-looking nails.
As well, they like kissing a woman and smudging her lipstick all over both their faces. Why? Because it gives them the feeling of having adulterated sex, i.e. sex with a prostitute.
7. Braids, ponytails, pigtails
Hair, it's no surprise, was a very big fetish among guys. Blonde, brunette, redhead, braided, long, short, thick, curly, straight... you name it, they thought of it. But braids, pigtails and ponytails caught my attention. I have two theories as to why some men can't have sex without pigtails.
First, they have a preference for younger women (to say the least) and because of the illusion that pigtails and ponytails emanate, the fetishists feel as though they are fulfilling their desires.
Second, when the hair is tied up in these various ways, it could resemble a whip, to a certain extent. "Women can whip me with their hair: the ultimate turn-on." said one man from Boston. I can definitely see the latter example as working.
Some women have a fetish involving no hair: bald men. They love rubbing a man's bald head whilst in a passionate embrace. Did you hear that Costanza? You're actually preferred by women.
Many variants of water were popular with both men and women. Many women declared that they enjoyed sex best when they could hear or be in running water. Whether it be rain, the shower or even an opened faucet -- so long as they heard water of some sort.
Although it's not exactly water, many women (and some men) absolutely obsess over thunder and lightning. "The powerful sound and the sudden flashes of light give my body a feeling of empowerment. My husband and I make plans to meet whenever we know that a storm is in effect," said a couple from Colorado.
9. Golden showers
I know this one doesn't sound very inviting, but it was a popular one. Some guys love to watch a woman urinate on them as a method of foreplay. Other guys find it necessary to relieve themselves on women before they can actually get down to business (no, not number 2).
Why?, you may ask yourself. Well, the reason for this also deals with submission. Being peed on is somewhat degrading and if you allow someone to do it to you, then you're submitting and if you do it to someone else, then they are succumbing to you.
A lot of guys admitted that they couldn't get off with their partner unless they were watching pornography or another couple in the act. Even if they witnessed two people having sex or caught some erotic movies on television accidentally (yeah, right) when not with their partner, they had to masturbate.
Only a minute amount of women admitted that they are voyeuristic to the point where they needed to see sex whilst engaging in it. Oddly enough, however, quite a few women like being watched. One woman from New Orleans wrote, "I make sure to open the blinds fully before I make love with my partner."
And there you have it ladies and gentlemen, ten common fetishes among the human species.
Tell me about your fetishes, and how long have you had them!!!
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