Date : What You Should Know  

cajunpet 70M
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6/5/2005 5:17 am

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Date : What You Should Know


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Date : What You Should Know

When people think of , they might think of a stranger jumping out of a shadowy place and sexually attacking someone. But it's not only strangers who . Actually, many people who have been already knew the person who attacked them.

Growing up means developing friendships, going out on dates, and meeting new people. Getting to know others is an important and exciting part of life. Most friendships, acquaintances, and dates never lead to violence, of course. But, sadly, sometimes it happens. When forced sex occurs between two people who already know each other, it is known as date or acquaintance . Even if the two people know each other well, and even if they were intimate before, no one has the right to force a sexual act from another against his or her will. Girls and women are most often the victims of , but it can happen to guys, too.

Even though involves forced sex, is not about sex or passion. has nothing to do with love. is an act of aggression and violence.

Healthy relationships involve respect - including respect for the other person's feelings. If a date, friend, or boyfriend is pressuring a girl to be more intimate than she wants to be, that's not a healthy relationship. Sex is not something that one person owes to another. Someone who really cares will respect a girl's wishes and not apply force or pressure about sex.

The Involvement of Alcohol and Drugs

Alcohol use is involved in many date . Drinking can loosen people's inhibitions, dull common sense, and - for some - bring out sexually aggressive behavior. A teen using alcohol will find many situations when it becomes harder to use good judgment, to be cautious, or to protect herself.

A recent trend, especially on college campuses, has been the illegal use of the drug rohypnol, sometimes called the date drug. Also called roofies or the forget pill, this drug may be prescribed to help people sleep. When rohypnol and alcohol are mixed, however, the effects can be devastating.

Girls who have been given rohypnol and alcohol may report feeling paralyzed, having blurred vision, and temporarily experiencing memory impairment. They can black out and forget things that happen to them while they are in this state. Because rohypnol may be slipped into girls' beverages at a party or at other times without their knowledge, some experts suggest that girls should always handle their own beverages.

Protecting Yourself Against Date

The best defense against date is to try to prevent it whenever possible. A girl can help to protect herself from possible date by:

* Avoiding secluded places (even his room or hers) with someone until she knows him well and he has earned her trust.

* Not spending time alone with someone who makes her feel uneasy or uncomfortable. This means following her instincts and removing herself from situations that she doesn't feel good about.

* Staying sober. Many date involve drugs or alcohol, and sometimes a date might slip drugs like rohypnol or GHB (gamma-hydroxybutyrate) into a drink to make a person more vulnerable.

* Learning to say "no" in a definite way. Girls should say it clearly when they need to, and guys should understand that "no" means "no" - it is not an invitation to try to persuade someone to have sex.

* Taking self-defense courses. These can build confidence and teach valuable physical techniques a person can use to get away from an attacker.

And of course, even if a girl does use poor judgment, has a drink, gets herself into an uncomfortable situation, or doesn't yell "NO" loudly enough, a guy still never has the right to use force or coercion.

Getting Help

Unfortunately, even if someone takes every precaution, date can still happen. If a date or acquaintance does occur, the best thing to do is to get help and advice as soon as possible - from a parent, a doctor, a counselor, or another trusted, responsible adult. Local yellow pages have listing under Crisis Centers or Human Services, and hotlines are staffed with counselors trained to help.

[blog txrose4uNTX] posted in her blog "A time to be careful -- through a eyes"!! Jun 3, 2005 12:10 pm. Be sure to read it!! I has some very good information about .

It got me thinking about how many ladies, especially young teenager and college ladies are date , and how many were reported? That is why I created this post.

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cajunpet 70M
1185 posts
6/5/2005 5:24 am

This is a test to see if this comment will disappear,like halve of my comments are disappering in other member's blog comments.


rm_bella_ 47F
4030 posts
6/5/2005 11:43 am

Great post! Very educational. I will check out the health journey group..thanks.


cajunpet 70M
1185 posts
6/5/2005 4:11 pm

Thanks Bella, You are always welcome.

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