"Just sex"  

brownshug_87 29F
18 posts
7/26/2006 4:46 pm

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8/3/2006 3:06 pm

"Just sex"

Someone told me this a while ago and i have been dwelling on it. i really still dont know what to think about sex. when i think about it a lot i want to do it but when im doing it, i wish i was doing something else. i like to think that it is something you do for different reasons, for enjoyment, show your love for someone, exploring your sexuality. exploring my sexuality is my reason, why i have sex. i guess my past feelings about sex still have an affect on me. im still trying to find out what it is all about, without getting my emotions involved in it too much, cause i just want to know how people have sex differently and try to make myself feel comfortable with having sex, cause im not yet.

2375 posts
7/26/2006 6:15 pm

When I was younger, I used sex to get to intimacy. Now that I'm more in tune with who I am, I have sex because I like it, need it, want it. It used to be about getting to know HIM, now it's about 2 or more people having healthy fun. Was that any help?

Djeeper1987 47M

7/26/2006 6:23 pm

All I can say is this. Take it one day at a time. Talk about it. Read about it. Learn Learn Learn.

Sex is not something to take lightly!

Carpe Diem

o2ez 59M

7/26/2006 7:05 pm

Interesting dilemma. I have an Uncle who once told me "If you have to think about it twice, Don't Do It!!" My Dad advised me to "To make decisions with my "mind" (logic) , not my "heart" (feelings). I share and explain this advise to people. but it sounds to me like you may need to do the opposite. Think about this: "Your body doesn't live in the past, why do you let your mind live there? What that means is...while you are thinking about ho to make sense of it all time is passing. I say get in the best shape you can and go for it. Sometimes pleasure you sense is the pleasure you gave and saw in someone else enjoying you and not necessarily what you felt or didn't. Try this sometime. "Fake" a smile to someone and when they smile back, your smile will be real too. You have one chance at enjoying your health, your youth and your time--Be Logical and Be careful and more than anything Be live. One day in your rocking chair years, your grand kids will sit on your lap and ask; "Grandma, what did you use to do when you were young ?" The LAST thing I want to say is "I worked hard, kept my nose to the grinding stone and took care of my responsibilities." Nope! Without going into detail, I'd build a world of possibilities for them and make the future adventurous. Regret sucks...but you can regret things you've done and have memories or you can regret thing you wish you would have done and have. choose nothing. Choose wisely

CloudLewisJesus 57M
7 posts
8/3/2006 6:26 am

You sound like you are feeling the social pressure of having to get sex to fit in! There is no hurry and you have to feel it before doing it! Don't think about it so much and everyday you will know when you want it and also enjoy it, take it day by day!

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