Please excuse the whining,..... I just have to clear the air  

broadluvs77 52F
73 posts
2/18/2006 5:39 am

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Please excuse the whining,..... I just have to clear the air

I've just had another of those mornings. Earlier this week I started talking to a guy who was pretty cute and by his e-mail, sounded like we had a little in common. So, I invited him to join my messenger list so we could chat a little and see if we might want to meet. Our conversation got a little weird almost from the start. He told me all about this 2 million dollar house and 100,00 dollar boat he had in Florida, and how he's dated models and strippers, etc. He kept asking me if I was making money from my profile and went on to say that it didn't matter if I was. He was just curious. Later on in the conversation he brought up money and paying for sex again (no, he didn't offer to pay. He was inferring that I wanted to be paid for sex.) Well, we talked on the phone later and he said he wanted to meet. I said okay even though there was something bothering me about the tone of the conversation. I asked him if he minded driving to a restaurant near my house, and he insisted that I drive to his house. I told him I was uncomfortable going to a stranger's house without at least meeting in a neutral place for a drink or something like that = just to see if we click. He informed me at that time that he wanted to fuck first, and if it was good, he'd take me out to dinner, and that if I didn't want to drive to his house that I should pay for a motel room half way between and meet him there. He wasn't going to 'pay' for sex.

First off, I didn't tell him that he should buy me a drink or dinner. I said meet at a neutral place. I am always prepared to go Dutch at the first meeting. I don't think it's necessarily fair to expect a man to pay for everything. I do expect to be treated with respect, and that business about if you're good, then I'm willing to pay for it got under my skin. It told me that he doesn't treat women seriously, nor does he really want a more meaningful relationship as he claims. Hell, it even shows that he doesn't have that much self-respect himself to talk like that to a stranger. It makes me think that he's not very careful about who he fucks and maybe he's been exposed to a lot of pretty nasty stuff, too.

Anyway, he IM'd me this morning and kept going on about wanting a more meaningful relationship, etc., and that he really wanted to meet me. I have such a 'sour taste in my mouth' about the conversation earlier this week, that I really don't think there's much of a way he could convince me that he is looking for something more meaningful than just a quick fuck as he claims. I finally put him on my ignore list so I wouldn't have to deal with his childishness.

tazzerman2000 58M
18960 posts
2/18/2006 6:24 am

Good for you! There are open, honest, nice guys out here. Unfortunatly, this guy isn't one of them. Actually, you let it go on much longer than I would have. Play safe sweetheart -tm

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HotSexyCupl 46M/42F

2/18/2006 6:37 am

Run! This guy is a jerk!!!!

angelofmercy5 58F
17881 posts
2/18/2006 7:50 am

[size5] RUN!


2/18/2006 8:32 am

If I meet a guy anywhere, i usually come prepared by bringing my own money to pay for myself, in case he is a cheapo and a jerk, cuse when i went out on a date one time in my 20's the guy i went out was even to cheap to pay for a McDonald's date ,i payed for my own dinner, lol mind you at that time the food there only costed less than 5 bucks compared to now, and i even spilled my soda by mistake , but by some miracle he actually paid for that one lol! He was the son of one of my co-workers, cheap, cheap, cheap!!!! Other times i would pay for both dinners, if out on the date! Then the guy usually felt overpowered by my generosity, that i never saw them againlol!

2943 posts
2/18/2006 9:03 am

Sounds like a big loser to me anyways....he wouldn't know how to treat a woman if it slapped him in the face...come to think of it.....that's NOT a bad idea!!!....hehe keep him on


rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
2/18/2006 9:08 am

oh sweetie, forget this asshole. Any man that asks you to drive to his on the first date is not worth it plus its DANGEROUS!!!!!



enrico180 46M

2/18/2006 9:11 am

I'm sorry to hear that - but I'm even more amazed at the chutzpah of this guy!

He wasn't going to 'pay' for sex.

Christ, doesn't that make you feel dandy? "Hi, I have self-esteem issues, but I'm trying to find my inner asshole. So if you can help me tear off a quick piece of ass while still being able to tell the guys at the gym I did it on the strength of my new house and yacht, I'd really appreciate it."

Yeah. Somehow, if I was going to tell a woman I wanted to see if she was a good lay before I started a relationship, I wouldn't guild the lilly by then insinuating she was a whore who should give me a freebie. Wow.

bigdaddy71365 51M

2/18/2006 9:51 am

Sounds like an asshole to me, But i like to pay for drinks, dinner I gues i'm old fashond, & meeting in public first is a must.

Looking0100 54M

2/18/2006 10:28 am

Sorry broadluvs77,

There are some real losers out there. I am sorry that you wasted your time with this loser. He had no right to treat you the way he did. I am sure you deserved much better.
I think this guy is not only a loser, but also a liar and a player. He should not be in this "game" if he is not willing to "play" fair. I mean he wanted to fuck you and he didn't even want to pay for it.

To me he is dishonest and disrepectful. And to me, that is the WORST kind of person there is. I believe all people should treat each other with kindness, honesty, and respect.

I think it is very wise to meet in a neutral place, any place where both parties feel safe and secure. I think safety and security are important, particularly during a first encounter with someone (no matter how pretty or convincing he/she is).

Again, I am sorry that you lost precious time with this loser, but maybe you learned a lesson. If you want to have a good relationship with someone, keep the conversation away from sex, until you feel comfortable. I know you said this guy kept bringing up this topic. Next time, you might hang up the phone or messenger service when someone talks about a lot of money or seems to suggest paying (or not paying) for sex. This does not mean that you were wrong in any way. In fact, you were right to end this relationship. But every makes mistakes and can learn from them.

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Queenie1970 45F
1512 posts
5/1/2006 3:34 pm

Two things:

1) The guy you were dealing with clearly had the smallest penis in the damn Universe (at least mentally, if not literally). While one does not have to cowtow to social convention (good for you for being ready to pay dutch on the first meeting, btw, keeps it from being a "tit for tat"), if someone ASKS you to meet, it seems like it would be POLITE to pay for one drink. Geesh. The same goes vice versa. If you invited him, I'd say you should be financially responsible for the first drink.

2) I don't understand why people actually want to "date" anyone on this site. It's not a "dating" site. It's a sex and swinger site. Help me understand? I realize that as human beings we are conditioned to look for mates and that it certainly makes sense to look for that person in someone who you already know. However, I don't understand why they are on THIS site? There are so many others...? (scratches her head in a befuddled way)

"Sex is emotion in motion." ~ Mae West

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