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bootielover3 55M
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12/21/2005 6:52 pm

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Asked by many answered by next to none.

I have read in many women's blogs that they answer email. If so I dont know whose they answer
I just read a blog 10 million men to 10 women and the author asserted that a friend of his sent
50 emails for one reply. I myself have written
45, I have 4 auto (same as no) replies, 4 written (2 from one couple, second being blow off).

I do have 15 people who have accepted invites to
my network. I have one response from a person who
is there.

Now for the questions
1. For the women who may view this, how long have you been on this site and how many emails have you answered?

2. For everyone, how long should you wait to send a second email to someone who hasn't replied?

I really dont want to be viewed as pushy but if there is no response I have no idea if my attentions are not desired


12/21/2005 7:22 pm

After two days I usually figure there will be no response but sometimes I'm wrong.

Personally I prefer no response to a rejection letter but that's just me.

most wmoen who have a reasonably attractive photo up are thoroughly inundated with emails so it makes sense to me that they'ed not take the time to answer every one. Particularly the ones they have no real interest in.

I've now gotten so that I only respond to women who contact me through reading my blog. It cuts out on the "riff raff" factor to quite a huge degree. Most of the women I know around here are now also doing something similar.

For whatecver thats worth,


Kimmers777 106F

12/21/2005 7:25 pm

I have been here 17 days. I have received just over 350 messages, and have sent out just under 150 responses. (About 20% of those were quick responses to men without photos and outside of my age and distance preferences, or just too dam vulgar to warrant a written response.)

From there, I have gone on to share e-mail outside of the site with seven men and three women, with three of those men being potential dating material, and the rest being genuinely fun people to chat with.

But having talked to (and read blogs by) many women here, I understand that a certain level of frustration sets in, and many end up filtering their messages and responding to almost no one they don't already know through blogs. I suppose I too will hit that point one day, as the crass messages from bruised egos takes it's toll on my patience.

In that regard, the response ratio is not just a reflection of the ratio of men to women, but the vulgarity and lack of respect so many men show when sending an initial message. For the lack of responses, you may just have to look around at the men you share company with here. Me reading 100 messages to find two people who don't make me laugh or gag is no more productive than you writing 100 messages and hoping to get two responses.

Good luck in the future!

Theflinkychick 105F

12/22/2005 9:29 am

Standard members can only answer a few emails a day. Keep sending polite hellos if you want an answer. If she has gotten a ton of emails that second one might be the one she has the ability/desire to answer.

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