Love and do what thou wilt.  

bobbydazzler69x 47M
27 posts
12/1/2005 9:50 am

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Love and do what thou wilt.

I read a friend's Blog the other day (Silky)and she mused on a lover who didn't return, without any further explanation. I thought I'd post my comments on my own Blog.

When the emotions of adults get driven by nature and sexuality towards each other, it is generally a powerful interaction of all our childlike vulnerabilities and adult defences. Sexuality and its urge towards ultimate physical exposure to another can feel like gaining or losing one's entire self- the whole self's exposure to Freud's eros and thanatos: the life instinct and the death instinct, as the naked child knew that survival depended on another. At the root of the seducer is the conscious desire not to lose oneself, by being guarded enough to play the odds against lasting love shrewdly. The seducer of either sex is like the bookmaker, the owner of the casino, laughing to themselves at the dreams of all the losers. But even in their own stunted selves the stirrings of love always seek to overcome the odds against. The lesson is this, I think: a failed relationship can so destroy trust, hope and love in one's self that one must realise that such spiritual values are your own to nurture, and can't be allowed to depend on someone else's rejection or acceptance. Love and then do what thou wilt (St. Augustine).

rm_rsp54 58F
531 posts
12/1/2005 10:32 am

How very correct you are! Rejection in any for is sometimes hard to deal with. Love of self, and a confidence, only attained when self worth is realized, is the only salvation when facing rejection. As I aged, I got much better with age. If others didn't realize, it is their loss. I know my worth....It has been a difficult journey, but well worth it. xo rose

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