The "Friend Zone"  

NyxisGhoulVitro 48M
35 posts
9/28/2005 6:32 pm

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7/12/2006 10:47 pm

The "Friend Zone"

The subtle hints aren't as subtle anymore. They are laden with innuendo, or dare I say brazen at times. Knowing her as long as I have, I remember her being interested in me early on. This new found aggressive nature of hers is a surprise, and I don't know that I am ready for it.

You see, when she and I met, I was already seeing someone. Everything she hates about "my type of woman" personified, and I never heard the end of it. As we started to get to know each other more, she became angry and at one point we had a fairly significant falling out. This was revealed months later as frustration brought on by a crush, something I was clueless to at the time.

Ultimately, I was the bigger person, and told her that our friendship was more important to me that any animosity she may hold toward me or girlfriend at the time. We became vast friends after that, my relationship failed, and I have been single since that moment.

So this new behavior has me concerned. We've grown this close as friends, but that whole "sexual" side never manifested itself. Even though I am single (and have been habitually for over a year now), I am not interested in pursuing any sort of intimate relationship with her. This has me asking myself several questions.

How do we end up in the "friend zone"? Why is it so difficult to get out of it? Why am I not attracted to her sexually, even though she is sexy as hell? What am I afraid of here, and is it really fear that keeps me from "going there"?

Part of me feels that this is just her hormones going a little wild, the consequence of spending a week in a bikini on a beautiful beach during her vacation. The other part of me sees this as an unstable trend in her nature. She always ebbs and flows in her sexuality. More often than not, she has her pick of boys who attend to her needs, and then she's off to repent for her sins until her mood swings again. It just so happens that in this instance, her focus has shifted toward me.

fantasia_shares 47M/43F
4164 posts
7/12/2006 11:12 am

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