What A "Dating Professional" Told Me To Do  

bmoviejunkie2 50M
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8/2/2005 9:55 am

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What A "Dating Professional" Told Me To Do

I have a friend who was recently hired to be a "relationship expert" for a major dating service in my area. She has always been sort of mystified as to why I have been single for so long, so she offered to do a "dating analysis" on me which is an evaluation process they do for every one of their clients for free. This is a fairly pricey analysis, and I decided what the heck and went through the process.

It was a fairly detailed process with literally hundreds of questions on the kind of person I am, the kind of person I am looking for, my living traits, hobbies, and assorted other questions that have something to do with love, sex, and relationships. This thing took me a couple hours! However, it was very detailed and I figured that this might give me some major insight as to why my relationships are fairly short and why I have stayed single for the huge majority of my divorce nine years back.

Well, I received the test results back a week or so later, and I have to admit that I was interested to read the results. I figured that this might give me some major insight into my relationship woes. I figured that my weight may have something to do with it, since I am not the epitome of good physical condition. Maybe my aggressive nature may come up, since I have a tendency to dominate a conversation if I am not careful. Maybe the fact that I am very casual person had something to do with it.

None of those even registered on the Richter scale.

Their #1 recommendation was very simple and in my opinion about as stupid as I have ever heard: buy a sports car.

I could not believe that something as superficial as the vehicle I drove would be my #1 problem in finding women. "It makes them look twice," the report stated. Maybe I am not that bright and maybe I am ignorant on the ways of women, but I find it very hard to believe that women are so superficial that the car I drive makes me a better man. Would driving a Trans-Am make me a better boyfriend? Does owning a Corvette make a guy a better catch, a better person, a better man?

I have always driven a low budget beater of a car, but I find it hard to believe that has been the problem in my dating relationships. I have a hard time believing that women would be so shallow to judge a guy based on his wheels. I have dated too many women where my car had nothing to do with the relationship to believe that the entire dating world is as mentally deep as a small puddle.

I am in the process of replacing my car as I write this and I have no intentions of changing my car buying habits. However, there has to be a 92 Duster out there somewhere...

rm_Screw696969 40M/37F

8/2/2005 11:04 am

That is the most obsurd thing that I've ever heard. I for one could care less about the car a man drives. As a matter of fact, my BF of 6 yrs. just bought the first car he's owned in 9 years about 2or3 weeks ago. While I don't doubt that there are those women out there that are actually materialistic enough to judge on things like that, I don't believe that there are many. I would say leave that advice in the dust. I mean think about it, do you really want to be dating a woman who judges you by what type of car you drive anyway?

mcsusieg 49F
56 posts
8/2/2005 11:50 am

Oh funny - cars matter !!!!! Ok, so I am an outdoor chick ‒ in Colorado (and love to toodle to Wyoming and Utah for outdoor fun). when I am cruzin’ to work, oh the traffic….‒ I am always checkin’ out the men around me...If I see a vehicle, age, size, and tires similar to mine…I always peak over, tilt head and see if I can spot that left hand ‒ then I SCREAM really, really loud ‒ “HEY I AM SINGLE< FUNNY< SMART AND HORNY ALL THE TIME!!” WANNA’ HAVE A COFFEE BEFORE WORK (ok so I scream it in my mind, but loudly, they might hear.)

Maybe you should purchase the type of vehicle that your potential mate(s) would drive …


phangasm2003 106M

8/3/2005 1:39 pm

If you want to get attention, why not get a '74 Vega and get it all tricked out with the pimp wheels and whatnot. A fortyish guy driving that would get a lot more attention than just another guy with a midlife crisis.

DirtyLilSecret61 55F

8/4/2005 9:57 am

Wow, I drive an 86 Buick LeSabre so what does that say about me? The guy at the local body shop says he refuses to fix things on it anymore, that I should get a new car but for cryin out loud I bet I'm his best customer!

I look at cars and the guys driving them. Would I jump to go out with a guy who's driving a 63 Vette or a 68 Camaro? Nah, probably not - they spend more time worrying about something happening to the car.

I agree with sakrilej - I think the sportscar was trying to bolster your self-image. Screw that ... be glad you're a person with morals.

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