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Squirting - What it is, and how to make it happen...
Squirting - What it is, and how to make it happen...
Some women ejaculate during orgasm like men do. It's a natural action, but there's a lot of misunderstanding about it. When it happens, It's often a surprise to both parties, and an embarassment to the woman. Shouldn't be. It's a natural occurrence. I understand some tribes in Africa teach their young women how to do it as a part of their pre marital training.
Here's an article I copied from the Hotmatch magazine. I think it's great, and I've tried to spread it around as much as possible. Feel free to copy and place it in your blog, or send to your friends.
If you were to refer to literature over the last 50 years
you would be lead to believe that females have only been
able to ejaculate since about 1980. Of course this is absurd,
and just shows how "the experts" can be wrong
for decades on just about anything. Many knew the experts
were wrong, but had little success in convincing anyone.
Needless to say this lead to many problems, needless surgery
(to fix the poor women who would ejaculate), expensive
counseling (got to find out what happened when they were
children to cause this "problem"), and in some
cases divorce. "The G Spot" by Alice Kahn Ladas,
Beverly Whipple, and John D. Perry, has dozens of letters
from women who went though various personal tragedies
because they would ejaculate during lovemaking. Doctors,
gynecologists, and psychiatrists invariably told them
they were peeing and needed either surgery or psychotherapy.
Newsweek published an article entitled "Just How
the Sexes Differ" in May of 1981. One of the major difference
was listed was that men ejaculate, but women do not. However,
Aristotle wrote about female ejaculation, and Galen knew
about it in the second century. The female prostate, which
generates the fluid which is ejaculated, was described
in some detail by De Graaf in his "New Treatise Concerning
the Generative Organs of Women". (1) "... During
the sexual act it discharges to lubricate the tract so copiously
that it even flows outside the pudenda. This is the matter
which may have been taken to be actual female semen."
He describes the fluid as "rushing out" with
"impetus" and "in one gush." (2)
The medical community was finally awakened in 1980 when
Perry and Whipple showed a film of a female ejaculating
to the SSSS (Society for the Scientific Study of Sex). Martin
Weisberg, M.D., a gynecologist at Thomas Jefferson University
Hospital in Philadelphia responded, "Bull ... I
spend half my waking hours examining, cutting apart, putting
together, removing, or rearranging female reproductive
organs. There is no female prostrate, and women don't
Yet after seeing the film and witnessing the event in person
he changed his tune: "The vulva and vagina were normal
with no abnormal masses or spots. The urethra was normal.
Everything was normal. She then had her partner stimulate
her by inserting two fingers into the vagina and stroking
along the urethra lengthwise. To our amazement, the area
began to swell. It eventually became a firm one by two cm
oval area distinctly different from the rest of the vagina.
In a few moments the subject seemed to perform a Valsalva
maneuver (bearing down as if starting to defecate) and
seconds later several cc's of milky fluid shot out
the urethra. The material analysis described in the paper
(Perry & Whipple's) is correct, its composition
was closest to prostatic fluid".
The ejaculate is very much like prostrate fluid. It is usually
clear, or milky and as thin as water. It does not have the
look, smell or taste of urine. It is almost odorless. The
taste varies, depending on the time of the month and diet,
and possibly other factors, such as amount of stimulation
received prior to ejaculating or time since the last ejaculation.
It can vary from an almost honey sweet, sour, bitter, or
a combination of these tastes.
Even though it is ejaculated from the urethra, it is most
definitely not urine. It is absolutely impossible to pee
during a orgasm unless there is a weak pubococcygeus muscle.
This is very important, and it is important for the female
and her partner to both understand this. The pubococcygeus
muscle contracts when terminating a stream of urine, and
is the muscle which contracts during orgasm. This contraction
helps prevent retrograde ejaculation (ejaculation back
into the bladder), and of course prevents the bladder from
draining during orgasm.
Problems Women have Ejaculating
I think there are two major problems women face that prevents
them from the immensely enjoyable experience of ejaculation.
They are the female's mental attitude, and their partners
inability or unwillingness to spend the time and effort
during lovemaking and to learn the necessary techniques.
We will address both of these problems and the solutions
The ejaculation is done through the urethra. This is the
same tube that is used for urination. It is located outside
the vagina, between it and the clitoris. The fluid is water
like, and non- lubricating. In no way does ejaculation
improve the chances of conceiving, it offers no lubrication,
and is dumped outside of the vagina. The only conceivable
purpose of female ejaculation is for pleasure. And the
pleasure is intense, in many cases far surpassing the best
orgasm's. Often ejaculation takes place during both
a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm (yes there are two type of
orgasms, clitoral and vaginal, but often orgasm is a combination
of the two), giving the female extreme pleasure, sort of
a triple whammy. Sometimes after ejaculation the female
will virtually pass out from the intense feelings.
It can be argued that since the only reason that females
can and do ejaculate is for pleasure, then there should
be no reason for them to not do so, and as often as they please.
It is one of the safer sex acts, since in most cases it can
be triggered with fingers alone. Ejaculating from intercourse
is more difficult, especially when performed from the
missionary position, but still possible.
Preparation Recommendations for the Woman's Partner
Wash hands well. Trim fingernails. Make sure that the thumb,
and first two finger nails do not extend past the fingertips.
Trimming them as far back as possible would be best. Make
sure that there is no dirt or crud under the fingernails.
Place a towel on the bed. A surprising amount of fluid can
be released during female ejaculation. Compared to a male
it can be like a water cannon instead of a water pistol.
Have some K&Y Jelly handy. At some point additional
lubrication may be necessary, even if she is having heavy
orgasms and climaxes.
Set aside enough time. The first successful ejaculation
may take from 10 minutes to over an hour.
It may be wise to exercise your hands, fingers, and arm for
several days prior to this exercise. The motions necessary
can become quite tiring after a while if you are not in good
Before beginning the first time, discuss it. Let her know
that you are striving to give her an ejaculation. That female
ejaculation is perfectly normal, and a wonderful experience
for both of you. Convince her that there is nothing to be
embarrassed about or ashamed of. Explain that just prior
to ejaculation, she most likely will feel like she is about
to pee. This is a difficult point for many women, as they
will immediately draw back. Convince her that it is normally
impossible to pee during an orgasm, and that the feeling
is simply the first sign she is about to ejaculate.
Since the movement of the fluid through the urethra will
initially feel exactly like when she starts to pee, this
is very important. The reflex to stop peeing will immediately
abort the ejaculation, so she needs to be told to relax,
and allow the fluid to pass. In other words when she feels
like she is about to pee, she should go ahead and pee. Only
it really won't be pee, it will be an ejaculation, and
within a couple of seconds it will be very obvious to her
that this is something quite different. Once she knows
the feeling, she will be able to push it out once it starts,
with astounding results. It is best for the partner to be
sitting between her legs at this time, else she may overshoot
the towel or even wet the far wall.
Once she has ejaculated, rejoice with her. Don't make
fun, or a joke. If you do it may be the last time she will be
able to ejaculate, at least in your presence. Unlike a man,
this is not the end. You can continue, and she may well have
multiple orgasms and ejaculations with further stimulation.
Start slow. Use typical foreplay. You may want to start
with her on her back. Stimulate the clitoris. This can be
done with a moist finger, or with your tongue. Performing
cunnilingus while rubbing her breasts with your hands
can be quite stimulating for her. At any rate, continue
clitoral stimulation until she is lubricated. At this
point slide two fingers into her vagina. Allow them to move
along the front wall of the vagina. You should encounter
an area about 2 inches in, which should be somewhat enlarged.
This is the G spot. It lies directly along the urethra, and
is located almost directly behind the clitoris. Slowly
stroke this area. It should start becoming more enlarged.
Ejaculation is almost always triggered by stimulating
the G spot. Clitoral stimulation can often assist in helping
her reach an ejaculation, and also can make it more intense.
But stimulating the G spot is usually necessary at least
initially. Once she starts ejaculating easily, she may
find that clitoral stimulation alone is sufficient.
Stroking can be done a number of ways. The two fingers can
rub the area as a unit, or they can take opposite strides,
similar to walking. A third method involved sliding the
two finders out a fraction of an inch, and pushing them back
in, similar to the in- out motion of intercourse, but with
smaller strokes. Initially pace the stimulation somewhat
slow. Alternate with clitoral stimulation either with
the thumb, other hand, or mouth/tongue. Also try simultaneous
stimulation of the clitoris and G spot. Watch her reactions.
Simultaneous may be too intense for some but necessary
for ejaculation for others. Take your cues from her. When
she starts bearing down, and you feel the vagina contract,
begin pumping rapidly. When she is in the middle of an orgasm,
stimulate the clitoris at the same time, and pump the G spot
gently, but very rapidly. Talk to her. Say, "your
getting it, go for it, don't worry, relax and let it
come" or other similar words. She may need reassurance
that if she drenches you, you will not be upset. Tell her
how erotic you find it for her to ejaculate. Make her comfortable
with both you, and the idea of ejaculation.
This actually is not the best position. If she does not succeed
after a short time, have her roll over on her stomach, and
get up on her knees. You will find stimulating the G spot
much easier in this position, and she will most likely respond
much better. With the two fingers turned down, slide your
two fingers back into her vagina. Find the G spot and continue
stimulating the G spot. You may use the other hand to stimulate
the clitoris. If after a couple of orgasms, using rapid
pumping on the G spot during orgasm, she still has not ejaculated,
then turn the hand around, putting the thumb into the vagina.
The thumb will likely not reach the G spot, but don't
worry, it should come up to meet the thumb during orgasm.
Take the two fingers and lay them down on the clit. Allow
the entire curve between the thumb and forefinger to lie
along her from the vagina to her clitoris, and begin pumping
with the thumb, and rubbing the clit at the same time. When
she starts an orgasm, start pumping the entire hand rapidly.
At this point she will most likely ejaculate. The trick
is to massage the area where the urethra comes out, while
stimulating the clitoris and G spot. This will help to override
the feeling she is about to pee, and allow her to let it pass.
Be aware that the female is not only capable of multiple
orgasms, but also multiple ejaculations. It is not unusual
for her to have from 3 to 5 ejaculations before depleting
her supply of cum. Once she has ejaculated one or more times,
you can continue with intercourse. Entering from behind
will stimulate the G-spot more easily than missionary
style, and often additional ejaculations will occur during
intercourse. Even if they don't, she will be highly
excited, and very sensitive. The final result will most
likely be the most intense and pleasurable sex she has ever