Pull my strings  

blondie41499 40F  
193 posts
5/18/2006 10:22 am

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Pull my strings

I see the phrase "No strings attached" all over the place on this site. I'm really confused as to what exactly it means. Or maybe it just means something different to everyone. Some people say they want "no strings" because they are already in a relationship and they want to keep things on the DL. Some, I think, use the term as a kind of pre-blow off. They say it in the begining, so you're not shocked when they dissapear after hooking up with you once. (a twisted form of common courtesy perhaps? ~lol) Many people, I believe, simply mean that they aren't looking for anything serious and just want a casual relationship.
I, personally, don't like what the term "no strings attached" implies. I think , if you get to the point where you have a sexual encounter with another person (be it one time or on a regular basis) there has to be , at the very least, some kind of mutual respect and understanding. I mean, those are "strings" right? There are always going to be some kind of strings. If you don't want a serious realtionship, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, but I still think one must have respect and courtesy for their sexual partner.

Any opinions?



Loosetooth 41M
1146 posts
5/18/2006 11:11 am

You are correct.


pmaster71 45M

5/19/2006 1:32 am

"No Strings Attached" means "No Hidden Requirements"

However, the phrase comes from fabric. A tiny string would indicate to a tailor where a flaw was so he could cut around it. Cloth with "no strings attached" is flawless.

After reading your post I wondered where the hell that phrase
came from so I googled it and that's what I got.

When I read and re-read your post the words "Mutual Respect"
and "Understanding" made perfect sense to me. Then I tried
to rephrase them here to show that I agreed with you and
right there my mind went blank!

I'm thinking "Shit! I know what that means don't I?" Why can't
I put it into other words? Then a thought...I am contemplating
this far to much...LOL...it's 4:00 in the morning.

My stance on the issue...agreed there are always strings, at least
with me, but I never look for just sex anyway. I wanna know
who I am bump-in uglies with. Knowing someones personality is as
important as knowing how their plumbing works.

There is a happy medium between Casual Sex and Full Blown
relationship isn't there? Some point in the grey area in between
where two people can get to know one another on an intimate
level and become sexually involved but decide not to add more
strings (read commitments) to each other?

I just prefer to be a little more intimate with my sexual partners.
Having the ability to be friends is important to me. Don't need
to know all the deep dark secrets intimacy but sharing openly
about likes/dislikes, needs/wants, desires/fantasy, get to know
each other kind.

I am curious as to where you stand on the scale Blondie.

What level of intimacy would be ideal for you?

How many strings or commitments do you need?


Catdoc2000 56M

6/1/2006 3:16 am

"There is a happy medium between Casual Sex and Full Blown
relationship isn't there? Some point in the grey area in between
where two people can get to know one another on an intimate
level and become sexually involved but decide not to add more
strings (read commitments) to each other?"

I hope there is but it's so hard to find and to make matters worse nearly all of us have outside lives that for various reasons take up our time attention and energy leaving a very difficult path to finding that special someone....


ErredMayorSpool 54M
2 posts
8/22/2006 3:07 pm

Strings are no more than an invisible fence cosmetic to look good around the borders and still feel that security.. Protection from rejection... If things dont go well you save face now this doesn't mean its right or wrong just keeping face, so don't take it to heart you can still open up and handle things as an adult there's nothing wrong with that, and it doesn't mean that this person isn't genuine either, but trying to stay ahead of the game. Take care
T.J.


rm_lovinit217 39M

12/13/2006 4:37 pm

I definitely agree. Love the thigh highs.


rm_stubs1770
195 posts
2/28/2007 10:36 am

I think "No Strings Attached" means that you fuck or whatever and never see each other again. I don't really like that idea, though. Any guy who will just have sex with a woman and leave her is missing out on some of the best parts of being around a woman, in my opinion. Women are fun to be around, and have a relationship with even if you are not having sex with them. When you have a relationship with a woman, the sex is far more powerful, because there is an emotional connection. This doesn't mean, of course, that you are going to divorce/dump your spouse/significant other and marry them or anything. It just means that it is better to be friends.


blondie41499 40F  
151 posts
3/2/2007 8:16 am

    Quoting pmaster71:
    "No Strings Attached" means "No Hidden Requirements"

    However, the phrase comes from fabric. A tiny string would indicate to a tailor where a flaw was so he could cut around it. Cloth with "no strings attached" is flawless.

    After reading your post I wondered where the hell that phrase
    came from so I googled it and that's what I got.

    When I read and re-read your post the words "Mutual Respect"
    and "Understanding" made perfect sense to me. Then I tried
    to rephrase them here to show that I agreed with you and
    right there my mind went blank!

    I'm thinking "Shit! I know what that means don't I?" Why can't
    I put it into other words? Then a thought...I am contemplating
    this far to much...LOL...it's 4:00 in the morning.

    My stance on the issue...agreed there are always strings, at least
    with me, but I never look for just sex anyway. I wanna know
    who I am bump-in uglies with. Knowing someones personality is as
    important as knowing how their plumbing works.

    There is a happy medium between Casual Sex and Full Blown
    relationship isn't there? Some point in the grey area in between
    where two people can get to know one another on an intimate
    level and become sexually involved but decide not to add more
    strings (read commitments) to each other?

    I just prefer to be a little more intimate with my sexual partners.
    Having the ability to be friends is important to me. Don't need
    to know all the deep dark secrets intimacy but sharing openly
    about likes/dislikes, needs/wants, desires/fantasy, get to know
    each other kind.

    I am curious as to where you stand on the scale Blondie.

    What level of intimacy would be ideal for you?

    How many strings or commitments do you need?
Are you still around? I enjoy your thoughts.


blondie41499 40F  
151 posts
3/2/2007 8:21 am

    Quoting rm_stubs1770:
    I think "No Strings Attached" means that you fuck or whatever and never see each other again. I don't really like that idea, though. Any guy who will just have sex with a woman and leave her is missing out on some of the best parts of being around a woman, in my opinion. Women are fun to be around, and have a relationship with even if you are not having sex with them. When you have a relationship with a woman, the sex is far more powerful, because there is an emotional connection. This doesn't mean, of course, that you are going to divorce/dump your spouse/significant other and marry them or anything. It just means that it is better to be friends.
Agreed. I think "no strings" is a cop out to one's responsibility. Entering into a any kind of realtionship, whether it be just sexual or more, requires you show respect for the person. I'm not talking a engagement ring here just some simple respect.


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