What Do I Hope to Gain from a Site like AFF?  

blkm6ft4in 49M
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9/16/2005 2:18 pm

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What Do I Hope to Gain from a Site like AFF?

There are many reasons why people sign up for a site like this. Some come here to exercise a little fantasy, others for purely sex. Some come to meet or chat with other like minded individuals and some come looking for long term monogamous relationships. My reason is introductions. In nine years of doing this, the one thing I have discovered is that it is impossible to predict where meeting someone this way will lead.

For me sites like this are way to reach out to like minded women who I might not have normally had the opportunity to connect with in my usual comings and goings in an environment where they are looking to connect with someone. It is also convenient for me since my work and some of my hobbies keep me on or near a computer.

Even though there is a lot of funny business that goes on at a site like this with fake ads, the ridiculous ratio of men to women, dishonest people, etc., etc., I still prefer trying to meet someone from a site like this as opposed to one of the more vanilla because I'm more likely to meet someone here who is of the same mindset sexually than at a vanilla site. Although I have met women from the vanilla sites who have been far more open than some women I have met here.

One thing that has been consistent with both types of sites is that you never know where a connection will lead. I've gotten into long term relationships with women that I connected with by sheer chance. I've also had failed chemistry with women that I'd spent hours chatting with on the phone and online only to fizzle when meeting face to face when we both thought for sure there would be something there.

Fact of the matter is the only way to get to know someone is to spend time doing things with them. All of the chat, e-mail and phone conversations in the world is not going to guarantee that the same spark will be there after you start spending time with each other.

One day I would like to meet someone that I can get into a long term fulfilling relationship with. I don't know that I will meet them through this site or just bump into them one day at a coffee shop. What I do know is that sites like these help create the introductions that could one day make that a reality.

rm_ladyBgood46 61F
65 posts
10/8/2005 1:57 pm

I've had very similar experiences with regard to AdultFriendFinder vs. vanilla sites. What a treat you must be! Appreciatively, LadyBGood46

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