He's Just Not That Into ME!  

blackstiletto 33F
122 posts
4/12/2006 2:40 am

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7/18/2006 11:27 am

He's Just Not That Into ME!

What an amazing time it has been. It's been quite a rollercoaster of sorts. Made new friends, rekindled old ones, had the opportunity to work on my second fashion show while the third one is just around the corner... I'm happier though not necessarily in biblical joy.

I've come to accept that the man I've been rambling about (read 'Poor Little Pathetic Girl') is just not that into me anymore. There are a few things that I definitely know about myself and one of those things is that I am NOT one of those girls who just CAN'T get a clue.

If he doesn't call, it means he's just not that into you.

If he doesn't look at you or into your eyes when you're talking, it means he's just not that into you.

If he has a sudden behaviour change after a few dates, it means he's just not that into you.

And lastly (I swear over this one, girls),

If he doesn't kiss you at the end of the date, HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU, GODDAMIT!


Tip: Guys, if you ever drop any of the above hints on me, I WILL take it as you're not into me anymore. Greg Behrendt din't write the book just to look cute.

But it wasn't about the book really. I've always been mindful of such hints. The biggest spiller is really the last one. So I guess it IS in his kiss after all. Here's what happened: We went out for a drink one night and at the end of it, when I leaned over to kiss him, he dodged and smooched me on the cheek instead. I mean, COME ON! We've been canoodling for months now, boinking each other like rabbits any chance we get and NOW he wants to be all polite with me? I didn't say anything to him. It was like a silent goodbye. Clear, precise and somewhat cruel. But he really didn't HAVE to say anything. Because I get it. I just smiled and walked away from what could've been.

And I was right. It's been a couple of weeks now and he hasn't called since. I'm glad that I caught the hint but I'd be lying if I said I haven't been thinking about him. I wonder if he's thinking about me? DOH! There I go again! *slaps forehead* *lol*

But enough about him.

In other news...

Two of my guy friends have been listed as one of CLEO's 50 Most Eligible Bachelors 2006. Ironically, one of them happens to be gay. *lmao*

Earlier in the headlines...

I popped into my e-mail and I had 69 unread messages. Real cute.

Do stay tuned because after this...

The season premiere of... 'Win A Date With BlackStiletto'!


Brianfindfun 37M

4/12/2006 3:11 am


birchingphobia 40M

4/12/2006 11:25 pm

Win a date with Black? Hmmm... That's interesting. So can we know the prize list? Anyway, good to hear you're back.

lithiumrose 37F

4/13/2006 1:58 am

poor thing. Hugs. I would be devastated if a guy gives me a peck on the cheeks instead after all those months of bonkings and the likes. But we move on. We learnt our lessons Hugs

rm_tocho81 35M
6 posts
4/13/2006 10:19 am

When I read your line about a guy not kissing a girl at the end of a date being a sign he's not interested..well I was surprised, Malaysians are rather conservative after all. But after you wrote that you moved in to kiss him and that the two of you have been canoodling for months ..and he got all polite..ouch! That does hurt I hope you don't experience something like this for a loooong time.

P.S. I agree with you on the first three signs you mentioned; not calling, no eye contact and a behaviour change are definite signs for both guys and girls (well I think it applies to girls too, don't you?)


rm_1reddrik 44M
175 posts
4/13/2006 5:39 pm

Wow you gal are really a tempterous.... i am in KL for a few Days ... hope to meet you up for a swing .. it can be lonely alone in abig city.... lets have some fun together waking up in the morning alone makes my dildlo swollen like hell... drop me a mail i am near medan mara - jln raja laut...
Cheers happy holiday...
Ps: Male malay average dildlo... why not?

blackstiletto 33F

4/15/2006 11:28 am

Brianfindfun - Sorry, dear? What was that? :S

birchingphobia - You work just around the corner, sayang! You don't NEED to win a date with me. *lol* Sate, shall we?

lithiumrose - *hugs you back* Aaaaah... thanks. Nothing like a good big hug from a girl friend to get your mind off guy issues.

tocho81 - Yeah, it applies both ways really. It really didn't hurt as much because I was prepared for it. In some ways, I kinda expected it. What was REALLY going through my head when he kissed me on the cheek was: "Oh, he must've met someone new" because he didn't seem to be enjoying my company as much now. The reason being: it wasn't just about the kiss, the entire night just felt wrong. There were other signs besides the missing kiss that I didn't write down here. There's only so much I allow myself to write here.

1reddrik - I really should've mentioned this in my profile but I'm currently on hiatus. For how long, I'm not too sure. *Does her best telephone operator impersonation* Please try again later. The number you have dialled... *lol*

rm_boogieass 46M
23 posts
4/24/2006 5:00 am

I'm sorry, I was rooting for you (I'm a romantic f***er at heart) but having said that, after boinking you for months, he should at least have the decency to break off with an explanation instead of the silent treatment... godammit, he owes it to you, girl!!

blackstiletto 33F

5/4/2006 1:30 am

boogieass - I am woman, hear me roar! *laughs hysterically into the night*

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