What is Taboo for You?  

bipolybabe 54F
10715 posts
7/12/2006 11:15 am

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What is Taboo for You?

I logged into alt.com to look at the fetish list. It’s fascinating what gives people sexual pleasure. I had no idea of the range of activities! Are there fetishes you’re curious about or things that are off-limits for you? Would you try or would you watch?

To get you started, here’s the list:[/tr]
24/7 (Total Power Exchange for subs and dom(me)s
Age Play with older or younger
Anal Sex
Arse (Ass Play)
Asphyxiaphilia (Breath Play)
Blood (drawing blood or having blood drawn)
Body Hair (having it or wanting it)
Breast/Nipple Torture,Clamps, etc.
Candle Wax
Chastity Devices
Chinese Balls/Ben Wa Balls/Anal Beads
Cling Film (a la The Total Woman)
Cock and Ball Torture, Clamps, etc.
Collar and Lead/Leash
Coprophilia (Shit Play)/Scat
Cross Dressing
Cupping (Suction of the skin)
Dacryphilia (Arousal from Tears)
Dildos (Handheld & Strap-ons)
Doctor/Nurse Fetish
Exhibitionism/Sex in Public
Fire Play
Food Play
Hair Pulling
High Heels
Klismaphilia (Douching/Enema)

Knife/Needle Play
Making Home “Movies”
Mutual Masturbation
Oral Fixation
Oral Sex
Participation in Erotic Photography
Play Piercing
Podophilia (Foot play)
Power Exchange
The Rack/Medieval Devices
Religious (Nunplay, Priestplay)
Retifism (Shoes or boots)
Role Playing
Sensory Deprivation
Sex During Menstruation
Talking Dirty
Tongue Fetish
Urolagnia (Water Sports/Urine)
Voyeurism (Watching, being watched)

Interestingly, Tantric sex, bisexuality, threesomes, sex parties and swinging don’t make the alt list, maybe because they’re more common here on AdultFriendFinder, but I’ve added them to my own list.

There are only a couple things that are truly off-limits for me:

--Sneaking around with people who are not in open relationships
--Sex with minors

Looking at the list, I realized that my sexual preferences are rather vanilla. I’ve got nothing against what others choose to do for their own pleasure, but there’s a lot that just doesn’t interest me. My responses inside.

So, what attracts you? What would you never do?

(c) 2006 AskAphrodite aka BiPolyBabe


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bipolybabe 54F

7/12/2006 11:20 am

My take on fetishes & sex activities that attract & repel:

Denim & Leather--Guess I’ll cop to that one as I’m the ultimate boots & jeans-wearing gal! And, I adore cowboys!
Food Play--Does that include liking picnics in bed and eating food from the fingers of one’s lovers? Yeah, then I like that one. Have never tried food as dildo, though, ExpatBrit.
Scent–Yeah, I really like sniffing my lover’s crotch & armpits, not so keen on sniffing the asshole. Hate bad breath! Mine or his.
Anal Play, Anal Fucking, Rimming, Anal Beads–Yeah, touch my ass right & I’m yours.
Masturbation & Mutual Masturbation–It’s taken me a long time to get over my inhibition about my lover watching me masturbate, but now that I’m there, it’s great. It’s the best way to learn what the other really likes.
Oral sex–“Yes! Yes! Yes!” she exclaimed.
Pantyhose/Stocking–Fine if you want to wear them. They make me itch.
High Heels–Only when I’m flat on my back! You may wear them as often as you’d like, though. I love the idea of my man taking those mincing little steps and how his calves contract so sexily!
Submission/Domination–Probably my interest qualifies more as role play of pretending I don’t want you to fuck my brains out! Right now! See [post 407086] But, I’d like to watch some experienced practitioners and learn about What It Is That We Do. See nightguy_1961’s BDSM - What It Is That We Do for a great intro to the topic.
Handcuffs/Shackles–I love my blue fur-lined cuffs and being powerless to resist the pleasure you’re about to unleash on my vulnerable body!
Making Home Movies and Erotic Photography–Right after I lose 20 pounds and work out regularly.
Pinching/Biting/Spanking/Pain–Just a slight edge of pain with a high dose of arousal is superfun.
Collar/Leash/Lead–I’ve got one that says “BiPolyBabe’s Fuck Toy.” Wanna wear it? I could never get my ex to wear it in public, but he loved being forced to give me pleasure in private. Currently, my LIP, Live-In Penis, is [post 388505].
Age Play–Not really interested in being a MILF (mother I’d like to fuck) or being with Daddy. Prefer people with a similar amount of life history.
Role Play/Nurse/Doctor/Priest/Nun–I’m a lousy actress, but if it’s important to you and you’ve got the great costume that makes me look totally hot, you’re on!
Chastity Devices–That’s what children are for, right? See [post 410584].
Talking Dirty–Fuck yeah! Tell me what a slut I am.
Fisting/Dildos/Strap-Ons/Sex Toys–Why not?
Voyeurism/Sex Parties–I’ve enjoyed watching others at sex parties, but I don’t particularly want to be watched. And, I find that one-on-one sex is more intensely pleasurable than group events for me.
Gangbangs–Tried it. Not bad, but it would be great once to be totally fucked out. I wonder if I could arrange a day where I fucked one guy after another just not with the whole public scene like a gangbang. See [post 304290].
Swinging/Swapping Partners–Not of much interest because I wanna fuck who I wanna fuck, not just whomever happens to be the male half of a couple. I’d consider it if I liked both people, as in we were friends already, and both parties were equally interested in it.
Tantric Sex–Obviously, I’m interested in it. See the Tantra-Slut Lessons throughout this blog. I particularly like playing with breathing together and consciously moving energy back and forth between partners.
Threesomes–I think three is the loneliest number. I’d love to try being the meat in a mfm sandwich and have two (or more) men lavish attention on me. Plus, the idea of watching two men explore one another is exciting. But, it’s tricky to find two guys I like who are not homophobic. Erections are temperamental. A friend of mine says, “If there’s more than one dick in a room. They’re limp.” And, the fmf thing doesn’t work well unless both women are equally bisexual as they otherwise end up sharing one guy, and it feels like not enough.
Bisexuality–Total advocate for trying it. Having a relationship with a woman allowed me to explore and learn lots more about my own pleasure as a woman. What I discovered is that there’s more electricity, more charge, for me in sex with a man.


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rm_putt675 50M
1118 posts
7/12/2006 12:06 pm

What have you got against miners? They work hard in the coal/gold/silver mines and deserve some loving too. And with the danger of...........



Oh, minors.......underage. Never mind.


bipolybabe replies on 7/13/2006 12:56 pm:
Do miners have dirty fingers?


jst4fun915 34F

7/12/2006 12:30 pm

Well, your 2, cheaters and minors, are off limits. Watersports, scat, enemas... there are quite a few on that list that are no-go, and more that I wouldn't necessarily say NEVER, but not likely to happen.

bipolybabe replies on 7/13/2006 12:57 pm:
Yeah, it's interesting what people will focus on for revving up sexual desire, isn't it?

I think along the lines of my friend The Queen of All Sexual Knowledge who says, "I want fucking with my BDSM."


rm_sexxikritter 52F
2715 posts
7/12/2006 1:33 pm

24/7 (Total Power Exchange for subs and dom(me)s NO
Age Play with older or younger does this mean acting like a kid or a senior citizen?
Anal Sex Hell ya!
Arse (Ass Play) Hell ya again!
Asphyxiaphilia (Breath Play) hack cough NO
Biting I've thought about vampirism..neck biting...maybe someday
Blindfolds Oh yes, as long as feathers, etc are involved
Blood (drawing blood or having blood drawn) NO
Body Hair (having it or wanting it) Long hair on a man is a huge turn on and a good amount of bosy hair also...no sasquatch tho
Bondage silk scarves only please
Branding HELL NO!
Breast/Nipple Torture,Clamps, etc. Clamps are a yes.
Candle Wax On the nips or clit when the candle is held up high.
Chains Probably not
Chastity Devices naw
Chinese Balls/Ben Wa Balls/Anal Beads Please
Cling Film (a la The Total Woman) Lawd no, I sweat too much as it is.
Cock and Ball Torture, Clamps, etc. If he wants clamps, I'll oblige.
Collar and Lead/Leash No, I'm not an animal.
Confinement/Caging See above ^^^
Coprophilia (Shit Play)/Scat Oh HELL NO!
Cross Dressing Could be interesting.
Cupping (Suction of the skin) My nips and clit maybe.
Dacryphilia (Arousal from Tears) Hmmmm, I do think a man who isn't afraid to show emotion is sexy.Denim
Depilation/shaving I could wield the razor on him and let him do me.
Dildos (Handheld & Strap-ons) YES YES YES
Doctor/Nurse Fetish Could be fun, I suppose.
Domination I would llike to explore this, both being dominated and domming.Ears
ElectroTorture NO NO NO
Exhibitionism/Sex in Public Been there, done that, may again some day.
Feathers As long as it's JUST the feather and not the bird it came from.Fire Play
Fisting Hoping to explore this very soon. Not the violent sort I've seen on sites and vids. I just want him to slowly put his fist in and then soft, steady pumps while he's flicking my clit with his tongue.
Food Play Yummy!
Gangbangs I think 2 men is my limit.
Hair Pulling Especially while getting it doggy...mmmm baby!
Handcuffs/Shackles NO
High Heels If you can get turned on through laughing at watching me try to walk in them...ok...I'm not stepping on any body parts with them though.
Humiliation Not for me at all...I have a hard time believing that this "play" could stay only in the bedroom and not transcend into every day life.
Infantilism/Diapers Oh HELL NO
Klismaphilia (Douching/Enema) HELL NO once again.
Knife/Needle Play Nope, no pain for me or administered by me.
Lace/Lingerie Only if I'm the one wearing it.
Lactation Baby making days are over for me...and along with that goes the nursing.
Latex Nope, I have a latex sensitivity.
Leather MMMMM, wear a leather coat to bed and see if I let you take it off!
Making Home “Movies” Haven't yet....perhaps with the right partner and if I had the ONLY copy under lock and key.Masks NO
Masochism No
Massage Both giving and receiving
Master/Slave Role playing, sure...not a lifestyle tho
Masturbation Every day
Mutual Masturbation uh huh, I have a problem with being able to just watch tho...I wanna help out.
Nipples I have them and prefer he does also.
Oral Fixation Is this like getting turned on by people brushing their teeth?
Oral Sex Yes, please, more, more, more!
Pain Only to that very fine line between pain and pleasure, I don't want to cross it.
Pantyhose/Stockings For an evening out, yes...during sex...NO
Participation in Erotic Photography Done it...was hot to look at the pics later.Piercings
Pinching Only my nips and occassionally my clit just as I'm about to cum.
Play Piercing Don't think so.
Podophilia (Foot play) A foot massage can be a very sensual turn on. And I do love men's feet, well, most of them...but don't bring them near my coochie.Power Exchange
The Rack/Medieval Devices Doesn't do a thing for me.
Religious (Nunplay, Priestplay) No taboo for me since I'm not Catholic.
Retifism (Shoes or boots) Naw
Rimming Oh yes, fresh from a bath...love it..giving and receiving.
Role Playing Sure, within reason...nothing concerning minors though.
Rubber Only for my dildoes, please.
Sadism No
Scent Well, who doesn't get turned on by a good smelling man, other then lesbians.
Sensory Deprivation Blindfolds are cool.
Sex During Menstruation As long as there are towels to protect bedding and running water nearby, absolutely.
Spanking/Paddling Not so much spanking, but a well placed smack or two on the ass during doggy is great.
Talking Dirty Fuck YA, lick that clit baby...make me squirt on your face!
Tickling As long as it doesn't lead to peeing my pants.
Tongue Fetish I only want a man who has a tongue. LOL
Toys yes oh yes
Transvestism NO
Urolagnia (Water Sports/Urine) HELL NO!
Voyeurism (Watching, being watched) I like to watch a cam show now and again but you aren't gonna catch me on one.
Whips For teasing only, no pain.

I'm surprised smoking isn't on their list. This is a fetish I've only recently heard of and saw a video trailer of it. The chick was seductively dragging no her cig. I suppose I could do that for a guy...if I could keep from cracking up while I was doing it.

bipolybabe replies on 7/13/2006 12:58 pm:
You are one sexy critter!

And, if you need some coaching to enjoy the fisting experience, feel free to contact me,


expatbrit49 62M

7/12/2006 1:34 pm

There is some strange stuff on that list... but I guess whatever turn your crank

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

bipolybabe replies on 7/13/2006 1:00 pm:
I'd think you'd be very accepting of whatever turns people's crank.

I realized my tastes are rather vanilla, and I'll have to get an expert, um, expat to teach me the beauty of a veggie fetish.


wickedeasy 66F  
25415 posts
7/12/2006 1:48 pm

smiles and ignores the list -

hi friend - how's it going?

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

bipolybabe replies on 7/12/2006 9:17 pm:
It's up and down. Same as for you. Same as for all of us.

This is life. We try stuff. We love. We hurt. We go on.

Thanks for asking,


spacecadet561 59M

7/12/2006 2:47 pm

Most of the items on the long list are things I've never considered, and probably never will. A few get yes votes from experience, a few others are "in my dreams" or in cyber.


bipolybabe replies on 7/13/2006 1:07 pm:
Your dreams must be a great place to live, Space Cadet!


florallei 99F

7/12/2006 7:39 pm


Am I weird or something?...some of that stuff just scares me...I don't mind some hard sex but I have no desire to do 90% of the things on the list...just me I guess...like to try anal someday...I have never heard of some these things LOL...but wanted to say hello to you as well.

bipolybabe replies on 7/13/2006 1:16 pm:
You're not weird.

It is interesting, though, to look occasionally at what frightens us and figure out why it's scary.

I've realized that there's just a lot of stuff that, apparently, gives pleasure to others that leaves me cold.

Nothing wrong with me. Nothing wrong with them. We just get off on different stuff,

Thanks for coming by,


frangipanigal 44F
10406 posts
7/12/2006 10:56 pm

I too remember looking at that list and wondering....

I thought I was fairly liberal in my thoughts in regards to sex and related topics,but some of that just make me go errggh!! Oh well, it takes all sorts to make the world go round I guess...

Frangi x

bipolybabe replies on 7/13/2006 1:21 pm:
I look at the list of fetishes and think

Not me
Not me
Not me
Hmmm...interesting, never considered that
Not me
Not me
Yeah, baby!

So, it does take all kinds. And, it's interesting to know what others think is pleasurable, isn't it?


PurplePeach72 44F  
9199 posts
7/13/2006 5:24 am

Funny how vanilla or wild we are in comparison to others. I won't bother to go through the list but anything to do with my ass is off-limits, same with excrement/scat/water sports, pain (although I intend to test that limit, a bit soon, but with a tremendous amount of pleasure involved), but absolutley no needles, walking on me, biting to draw blood (well at least until the vampires from the romance/erotic novels I read show up...haha), but I totally respect what other people desire and their freedom to do as they wish, as long as it is all with consenting adults.


bipolybabe replies on 7/13/2006 1:18 pm:
While shit play frankly sounds gross, learning to appreciate my asshole as an erogenous zone has been amazingly freeing.

Anal play should only be pleasurable.

Perhaps a trip to CA is in order? I understand it's beastly hot out there, and it's lovely here by the coast as we rub, rub, rub all the right ways!


toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
7/13/2006 1:48 pm

i read your list, and our likes are almost identical. i must admit i am a bit surprised. our main difference is that i'm not interested in exploring bisexuality, and while a fmf trio is a lot of fun, i'm rather apathetic to the sight of 2 women making out.
as for my favorites, i'd say i'm deeply orally oriented.
where do i draw the line? i won't play water sports [other than swimming, water polo etc., lol...], and i will NOT do anything scat.
great post bpb, thanks.

bipolybabe replies on 7/17/2006 7:46 pm:
"Oral...yes, yes, yes," she exclaimed.


PurplePeach72 44F  
9199 posts
7/13/2006 5:17 pm

Hey BPB,
I am so very flattered, and would love a trip to beautiful sunny Cal. I have visited your home town before and even swam with sea otters at the local beach. I love it there and if we ever get the $ and time you will be our first stop for some of that rub, rub rubbing in all the right spots!


bipolybabe replies on 7/17/2006 7:46 pm:
Rub a dub dub, three pervs in a tub...


spacecadet561 59M

7/13/2006 7:06 pm

    Quoting spacecadet561:
    Most of the items on the long list are things I've never considered, and probably never will. A few get yes votes from experience, a few others are "in my dreams" or in cyber.
My daydreams are interesting. Some of my night dreams are scary.


deliciousngood 64F
1665 posts
7/13/2006 8:35 pm

Since when is MASSAGE a fetish?

bipolybabe replies on 7/17/2006 7:47 pm:
Massage is good healthy fun. I suppose it could be a fetish if you were only interested in massage.

And, maybe depending on what you massage someone with...


barbiebunny 36F
5597 posts
7/15/2006 1:24 am

As a member of the alternative community the three u mentioned that werent there is honestly, how do I put this... not very relevant to the bdsm fetish world... apples and oranges dollie.

If I can be of help explaining things further, please let me know. A lot of unknowns baffle the vanilla community when it just hasnt been explained.


Its good to be...ME

bipolybabe replies on 7/15/2006 4:43 pm:
I know bisexuality, Tantra and sex parties aren't "fetishes." I see them as alternatives to conventional male-female one-to-one sex.

And, I'm definitely interested in learning more about BDSM from someone who knows and appreciates its power!


libgemOH 56M/52F

7/15/2006 5:46 am

My list is everchanging these days as my quest is to explore the limits of my sexuality!!! I'll let you know in 20-30 years!! -B

bipolybabe replies on 7/17/2006 7:49 pm:
Yeah, I imagine that all of our sexual tastes will shift over time.

Pretty soon we'll think that gazing deeply into our Beloved's eyes is a fetish because that's all our 90-year-old bodies can do!


VenusDiaries 62M
867 posts
7/15/2006 11:36 am

Damn big list with a lot of activities that I am sure that I wouldn't participate in or consider documenting as a photographer always looking for something a little edgy.

bipolybabe replies on 7/17/2006 7:51 pm:
Well, then, join alt.com as one of their fetishes is photography and making movies!

I'm sure you'll find a great many there who are playing on that edge.

There's a lot that just doesn't appeal to me, but I find all the ways humans seek pleasure pretty fascinating.


docdirk 47M

7/15/2006 11:17 pm

What would you never do?

Unprotected sex with an electrical outlet!

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

bipolybabe replies on 7/17/2006 7:51 pm:
Good choice!

I punished my parents when I was six by putting a bobby pin into an electrical outlet.

Little did I know...


ArtisticTwist75 41F
2505 posts
7/16/2006 12:32 am

Ok... I guess I have to agree... some of the stuff on that list scares me... I'm just getting comfortable with anal and I like it... but scat ugh... I don't think I could open up to that one.


bipolybabe replies on 7/17/2006 7:52 pm:
Yeah, as a mother who put a clothes pin on her nose to change my twins' diapers, scat wouldn't do it for me either.

Thanks for linking!


ArtisticTwist75 41F
2505 posts
7/16/2006 1:38 am

I linked to this post... hope that's okay.


warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
7/16/2006 2:11 pm

Artistic sent me here.....

There are some things that are off-limits. Sex with anyone who is unable to be fully consensual is a no-go as far as I'm concerned, and I can't get my head around stuff like scat or diapers.

I guess none of us is going to cover the whole list, and I guess if it floats someone's boat and causes no real harm ........ I mean there is variety in every other mode of behavious so why not sexuality?

warm xx

bipolybabe replies on 7/17/2006 7:53 pm:
I've always wondered what kinda sexy things you do with that gee-tar!


HBowt2 58F

7/17/2006 2:53 pm

Aint no way your getting me in a diaper...

bipolybabe replies on 7/17/2006 8:01 pm:
Hey, baby, if we live long enough, we're going back to that baby stage so we might as well enjoy it!


evil_lolita 34F

7/18/2006 3:50 pm

I've tried, and enjoyed, the majority of things on this list. Or at least fantasized and talked with my Love about doing it. The stuff I haven't tried or fantasized about - just bores me.

Come to the edge, he said. They said: We are afraid. Come to the edge, he said. They came. He pushed them and they flew.

Guillaume Apollinaire

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gloriousjourney 39M
62 posts
7/23/2006 9:16 pm

great post. i think the more people that see that there is no such thing as normal, the better. on that note, i will prod you a little further and ask:
when you refer to minors, are you referring to the usa, where the laws vary by state , or maybe to spain, where the legal age is 13, or maybe even to madagascar, where you cannot legally have sex until 21?
(google "world age of consent laws", visit first result)

bipolybabe replies on 7/24/2006 11:25 am:
I'm thinking mostly about the illegality of sex with minors. I don't draw morality lines when it comes to sex because values differ between cultures as you point out. And even my own sexual tastes have expanded a lot over the years.

I just know that there's some sex stuff that doesn't interest me much.

And, one of the things that doesn't interest me much is being a MILF. (Kids under legal age are an extension of that, plus I don't like the idea of being a sexual predator and using my power over someone else who is too young to consent.) I prefer guys closer to my own age and life experience, but the younger guy thing is not something about which I'd say, "I'd never..."


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