What's Offensive? What's Censorship?  

bipolybabe 54F
10715 posts
7/14/2006 5:00 pm

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What's Offensive? What's Censorship?

Apparently, I have offended a dying woman. I'm sorry she's dying. I don't know why dying gives her the right to be more self-righteous than anyone else. I don't even understand why she's so upset, and she's forbidden me to return and ask questions on her blog (something I will respect because her heading says she's dying):

[post 426883]

sensuallykatey says that Adult FriendFinders Terms of Use (TOU) prohibit the kind of activity she finds offensive. I read through the TOU and didn't find that it says we can't play blogging games or "pimp" our own blogs. My reading of the TOU leads me to believe we can't play contests or introduce schemes that involve money.

So, while I agree it may be in poor taste for some of my favorite bloggers




to pimp their blogs in Katey's sensitive, poetic forum, there's nothing that makes it immoral or against the rules to do so.

In fact, Take wrote about [post 426533] and

Amber was pimping our joint brothel [post 418796] for a silly bloggers' game.

My point is: Blogging is a diversion. It's not brain surgery, which truly is life or death. It's where we all let off a little steam. I like blogging here where it's the Wild West of Words.

I don't want "standards" that make people behave in only politically correct ways. What about you?

And, feel free to disagree! Because a forum that does not allow for different viewpoints is not one I'd want to be part of.

(c) 2006 AskAphrodite aka BiPolyBabe


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Twister2bed 47M
617 posts
7/14/2006 5:07 pm

I offend people on a daily basis, And who cares if they are dying that doesn't make them special. We all die. Politically people really chaff my ass.

People are over sensative these days, my answer to them is KMA

If this offends anyone read the above line.

jst4fun915 34F

7/14/2006 6:13 pm

Um, did she forget to take her crazy pills today? I read her post, none of it made any ddamn sense, and I read your comment, which was not even offensive or self-serving. She just totally flipped her lid on anyone who DARED comment about anything other than HER HER HER! I probably just got myself banned by my comment, but oh well... that is one woman who is too damn high strung for her own good!!! Maybe she should embrace your blog, and get off once in a while, might be good for her. **ugh** Stupid cattiness.

OboesHonedIambs 62F

7/15/2006 12:34 am

Well, I think some of us do think of our blogs as an extension of our home. I know I do, and for civility sake, there is a minimum standard I ask people who visit to practice back in my first or second post. I've seen that some people's some blogs are more casual than others; some invite the games and others don't.

To be honest, from what all I've read, I haven't observed much in Katey's blog that "invites" the games, so if I were participating in one, I'd bypass hers simply on the assumptions formed by WHAT I read there, that it just wouldn't be The Thing To Do. To me, it's a no-harm, no foul thing, and I can drop a polite howdy in passing by on my way to find others to play with. And she can happily write her poetry and whatever and enjoy the interactions with people who respond to her at the levels she identifies with.

Just seems to me that sometimes, even at the same party place, people's milieus don't always mix together.

just my .02

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smirkingdevil 48M
237 posts
7/15/2006 1:29 am

A famous journalist knew that the US government is not allowed to impede on someone's right to free speech, since it is guaranteed in the US Constitution.

However, that same journalist discovered his news organization could fire him with no problem after he wrote an op-ed highlighting some "negative behaviour" he noticed from his colleagues (liberal leaning reporting).

Censorship within companies is common practice. AdultFriendFinder is just following it's best interest by allowing it's members to censor their own blogs and those that comment on it. Don't let what the other person wrote bother you. You have some great posts here and they are appreciated. This isn't exactly a popularity contest...

barbiebunny 36F
5597 posts
7/15/2006 1:40 am

Ok I read Kateys comments.

As one that has been here a LOOONG time, seen things all come and go I will share the typical tides/patterns/courtesies of bloglanders.

Straight pimping ones own blog on anothers blog isnt a good idea and ill tell ya why. BLogging to a lot of people here, it is a valve and very personal to people. Hence, it is a sacred space. But in turn each one of us has the delete button and ban poster option. It needs to be used more!

So to blatently pimp your blog for selfish reasons stepping on someones sacred place like a big rhino at feeding time isnt acceptable. Common courtesy has to prevail here and does go a looong way. Now if u do truly comment on someones blog with true interest, naturally people will be curious to find out who the hell you are anyways in a subtler way.

Now ive watched Abercrombie and quite frankly, she gets so much traffic, I dont really see her posting on kateys blog to "get over"

Now what gets hairy sometimes, is the spakker guys. These are the guys that have the female blog favorites and wreak havoc in a rude way on behalf of the girl they adore. Which works AGAINST them in the long run.

Disputes always have always worked itself out here in blogland, Katey is a raw nerve for a while now..some are more delicate than others here, and we should remember that. For we are only as strong as the weakest link.

Take it from me, the one amd only bad girl to have one of my names permanently retired from this place..and with its general apathy, that says a lot..LMFAO.

basically, be good respect others, and a lot of times these things emotions run high because this medium is horrible at judging intentions.

AS far as the games... mail travelingintexas... i think he got reprimanded for doing a blog tag thing by ol luvpumpers..so Check on it.


Its good to be...ME

wickedeasy 66F  
25462 posts
7/15/2006 5:22 am

ah the sturm and drang

perhaps NOT writing about it would have been a better choice

just a thought

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

bipolybabe replies on 7/15/2006 9:57 am:
Point taken.


libgemOH 56M/52F

7/15/2006 5:53 am

Thinking I'm agreeing with Wickedeasy on this one....

Going back to the recent garbage of the man who died and his lover getting blasted, some things are better left unsaid. In this particular case, her post did not need to be posted, a simple email to the offending parties would have sufficed. Your response could have been handled with another simple email, or just letting it go!

Things like this tend to cause a lot of unnecessary drama....

Merely, my opinion -B

libgemOH 56M/52F

7/15/2006 6:18 am

And speaking of blog whoring , today is firestarter665 29th birthday!!

Come wish her a Happy Birthday Horny Housewives style!!! [post 427238] -B

rm_Kissmystuff 61F
1435 posts
7/15/2006 9:28 am

No matter what you say or do..there is always someone..somewhere..who will somehow be offended.

There may be times..when a topic is particularly hurtful to someone. It may be best to try to explain your purpose or rationale to them..if they care to listen. But..you also can't walk on egg shells to please everybody all the time.

If you're honest..and reasonably sensitive to others..that's all that can be expected. There are also some who want you to toe their line..I think they are sadly misguided.

Just observing this place and what goes on..I find that people behave here..much as they do in real life. You get the same kind of emotions..schisms..and outbursts.

True..there are rules of the site that you have to blog by..and as long as you do..well.

I say..BLOG ON!



bipolybabe replies on 7/15/2006 10:01 am:
Interesting that you say that about how we show up exactly the same here as in real life.

I recognize my own inability to just let go of stuff without getting the last word.

It's kind of embarassing to see stuff like that so clearly.

Blog on,


VenusDiaries 62M
867 posts
7/15/2006 11:09 am

I tend to offend. Freedim of speech, no standards,thisis the wild west and anything goes. I tend to ask for an obit as an excused absence.

2375 posts
7/15/2006 12:03 pm

I read the Asswipes post and your replies. I think you were right to say what you did. I have had Take's blog pimping posted as a reply on my own blog and was certainly not offended by it. I thought it was fun and chose to take it that way. And as far as Amber goes, that girl has a heart of gold, I can't see her doing anything that she thought would offend someone. I actually LIKE when I get a link to blog contests because I may have missed them otherwise. If I choose not to participate, I just ignore it. I like the fact that I can express myself here in a way I can't in my "real" life. I hope everybody just lets this go and moves forward with our blogs cause I LOVE reading them, and would miss you guys if you quit blogging or even censored your blogs. I want real blogs, not people mindful of stepping on toes or only blogging what is PC. Blog on!

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
7/15/2006 1:20 pm

i do think there are some around here going around setting etiquette norms for the rest of us -- part of why i wrote about my refusal to assimilated a week or so ago. i don't know why anyone thinks they have the authority to set norms and standards for others around here. i have also noted, that frequently those who make such statements, are hardly the most well-adjusted individuals themselves... let each one decide for themselves what is appropriate and not presume to set norms for others... anyone who doesn't like particular comments on my blog can delete them.

for myself, i deleted takethemoneyandrun's comment because i am not interested in following the link and he is not really someone who has engaged with the material in my blog ... in your case, i have not had time to do so, and have way too much juggling going on right now to engage in a game ... i would rather just read your blog. however, i didn't delete your comment, in case anyone else on my blog wants to follow your link there. (i don't have time for every single diversion propogated in blogland )

[blog freelove999]

crazygurl2xx 56F

7/15/2006 4:58 pm

well, let's see, i am dying and am i worrying about what goes on in blogville? HELL NO. i barely give a rat's ass what goes on in the physical world around me outside of my small circle of affectionate responsibility, and dying would focus me more there to where the people who matter reside...

blog on.


7/15/2006 6:46 pm

Its all good hun ..just don't know what to say.. well i do but.. i'll shud up for once.. all is good.. got ten fingers.. ten toes.. yep .. all is good....

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We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat

docdirk 47M

7/15/2006 11:15 pm

Standards? In blogging? What's next, a time limit on how many pages I'm allowed to read while in the bathroom? Rules are for real-life. This is... something else.

And, when I'm lying on my death bed, I will gladly invite one-and-all to attend and speak what's on their minds. God knows I will be!!!

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

BuxomFrau 44

7/16/2006 9:25 pm

A bit off the topic, but address the idea that these blogs are some kind of free-for-all where you can say anything you want:

Here's the thing. AdultFriendFinder blogs is not the "wild west." You better believe that Various, Inc. (the owners of this site and a few others like it, Nerve.com personals is one) are keeping a very, very close eye on what is said here and what it will allow. If things were so "free" then why can't you post a link to another site on the internet from here? Please let me know if that's changed, as I haven't blogged in a while. AdultFriendFinder also has rules on what it allows in blog content and what it doesn't. Is says right on the main blog page that blogs that are simply personal ads are not allowed.

My point is simply this: AdultFriendFinder blogs are in a well-contained, well-regulated bubble. Freedom of speech does not live here.

That being said, I'm surprised that such a stink was made over these people leaving comments for their game or whatever. Personally, I would have just deleted them. If they kept doing it, then keep deleting with a note to them and AdultFriendFinder about it. But getting my pretty pink panties into a ruffle enough to post on it? Hmm...not so much.

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