Tantra-Slut Lesson #6 : Oral Sex for Her aka Cunnilingus  

bipolybabe 54F
10715 posts
4/27/2006 10:36 pm

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Tantra-Slut Lesson #6 : Oral Sex for Her aka Cunnilingus


This is the sixth in a six-session series of classes on Tantric Sex. (For more on Tantra, see Tantra-Slut Reveals All, Tantra-Slut Lesson #1: Starting in "Yabyum", Tantra-Slut Lesson #2: Sound Builds Sexual Energy, Tantra-Slut Lesson #3: G-spot Massage, Tantra-Slut Lesson #4: The Value of Ritual, Tantra-Slut Lesson #5: Anal Play).

The topic of this evening, ORAL SEX, how to give cunnilingus or fellatio.

To create a Tantric relationship, a couple needs to commit to daily sexual practices, a "daily devotional," sort of like going to church because Tantra is a union of sexuality and spirituality. One of those practices could be oral sex since seeing, smelling, feeling and tasting the genitals of one's "Beloved" starts the day with a bang.

Here are some ways to make cunninglingus, going down on her, work best. (I will say that, personally, my favorite oral sex has always been talking about sex. But, if I experienced some of these techniques, I might have a different response to oral sex.)

Ahem. Regarding muff diving, first, let us dispel the notion of the hard tongue flicking the clit. That works only under a state of HIGH arousal and, for some women, not even then. It is a fake move effective for porn videos, not necessarily for real women. And, secondly, it is a VERY unusual woman who comes after 10 minutes of oral sex. Keep her if she's not faking it to please you. Most women take 20 to 60 (Yes, SIXTY) minutes of oral stimulation to make them come. So, get your tongue in training!

Position is essential. Put a hard pillow under her lower back to save your neck. Prop up with pillows or hold her her legs so she doesn't have to do anything besides lie back and enjoy. You might try having her scoot her yoni to the edge of the bed. Or, best option...sex swing! That way you can lower her yoni right down to your face while you sit comfortably in your favorite chair and enjoy an hour-long lunch.

Tell her you find her yoni (pussy) to be exciting, beautiful, pretty and totally hot.

Use a wide flat tongue slower than you ever thought possible. Ask her, "On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being highest, how would you rate my speed? And, what speed do you want it?" Then, slow the heck down especially at the start, slower than you could imagine possible. Lick the whole enchilada without separating the sides of the taco.

Lick up one side and down the other, teasing the clit by ignoring it. Watch for the signs of her starting to push her pussy into your face. That means she likes it. Watch for tensing of her thighs. That means she doesn't like what you're doing right now. Listen for her moans. Moan back so she knows you're enjoying yourself and not just "performing."

Try moving off to her side rather than going straight up the turnpike. Gently squeeze her labia (inner and other lips) together with your hand to form a burger. Put your lips on that burger and play it like it's a harmonica. Flick the labia with your tongue.

Cover as much of her clit and labia with your lips as possible and suck gently. Return to licking, change it up. Suck some more. Put a knuckle into the entrance of her yoni. Wait til she pushes against it to give her more penetration with your fingers. Then, combine sucking on her clit with G-spot massage. (When I find the man who can do this, I'll never move my yoni from being attached to his face!)

Then, try holding her legs and rocking her backwards so that you can lick from yoni to anus and back again.

Unfortunately for you, yonis are very finicky. They don't all like the same things. You need to be very sensitive to give her yoni exactly what it likes. It's a tough job, and you are just the man for it. The upside is, women are very appreciative of good attempts, and if you give her permission to give you feedback, she probably will.

Good luck, my friends. Best of blow jobs to come soon. Once I get my jaw unstuck.

(c) 2006 AskAphrodite aka BiPolyBabe

BPB

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rm_gerson42 52M
2419 posts
4/27/2006 10:56 pm

I for one am willing to try.
Although, I think a large poster with steps and large images over the headboard would be helpful. That and the feedback.


libgemOH 56M/52F

4/28/2006 11:50 am

You said, "When I find the man who can do this, I'll never move my yoni from being attached to his face!"

I have one that has this down pat!!! And he LOVES practicing, too!!! And the best part, he's taught me and judging from the reactions I've gotten, I have it down and I LOVE getting that practice as well!!! -B


pictureunaked 56M

4/28/2006 5:57 pm

I've been with at least a couple of women that like it pretty hard-- at least when they're about to cum. They've mashed my face against their clits--grinding so hard that I've felt like my nose was about to bleed! (I love it!)

Of course, it doesn't start out like this. For the best effect I usually don't even begin licking her until I'm sure she's already getting wet. Sometimes just kissing and grinding against my thigh-- sometimes a good back massage that works down to the thighs and butt. Kissing, licking, rubbing and biting her hips, butt and inner thighs... even her feet... basically working every other volume knob until she's about half-way there.

And yeah... the finger inside rubbing the g-spot definitely brings it home-- but I don't give it to her until she's been pulling at my hand for a while. I know she wants it, but I'm enjoying making her wait. There's no hurry, after all, and a bit of anticipation only builds the intensity.

I also find that a finger on, or barely inside, her anus gives me some incredible feedback. It can be tricky, though, because some women are inhibited when it comes to their anuses, and it becomes a distraction. But when they really start to lose control, I think it adds to her overall intensity, and it feels like someone's trying to milk my fingertip as the contractions ripple back and forth throughout her loins.


ProtonicMan 47M

4/28/2006 7:33 pm

I second Gerson's request for a poster!

Thank you, thank you, thank you! I always like learning new things about pleasuring women. Now I just need to find someone to practice with!

TJ


bipolybabe 54F

5/2/2006 3:57 am

I got an email from a reader who said that in his experience, women come with more intense stimulation of the clit.

One clarification: Go slow and softer at the start. Once a woman is really aroused, that would be the time for much more intense stimulation, including the stiff tongue famous in porn films.

And, be sure to ask her. Most women won't give direction or "feedback" unless you give her permission to do so. She'll just tense up in the moment and not pick up the phone when you call her.

BPB

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cookiequeen1000 53F

5/3/2006 5:01 am

Great info bipolybabe. I have a friend who does a fabulous job at cunnilingus and rarely touches my clit until well after I'm ready and begging for it, and even then he makes me wait. I love that. Drives me over the edge again and again and again. I've learned more about what I like and want done to me from him than from all my other experiences and lovers combined. I use what he does to instruct others. Being with him is, and always will be, foreplay for the next time.

Keep up the good work pictureunaked. Its nice to hear that there are other highly skilled and attentive lovers out there. Too bad you're so far away. Great photograph - classy, tasteful, good use of light and shadow, sensual and graphic without being pornographic.


tongueFunNgames 55M  
490 posts
7/24/2006 1:55 am

you just described my favorite way to eat pussy. it took me years to perfect that technique on my own without classes. However, it is always nice to change styles from time to time and ever woman likes it a little different. You can always tell if you ate her right by hw relaxed her pussy muscles get after great cums. I have eaten women for hours and stil didnt eat enough to fulfill my taste.


dudeabouttown13 62M

8/5/2006 2:40 pm

I also like to put my fore head on the yoni, let the heat escaping from it warm the sweet pussy before I make love to it with my mouth and soul, I really like giving oral stimulation and 60 minutes is no problem, I love giving oral sex and it produces bigger and more productive orgasms from me. I love this site


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