Please help me find a new name for my, um, Lover  

bipolybabe 54F
10715 posts
8/2/2006 11:16 am

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Please help me find a new name for my, um, Lover

Some of you may have guessed the identity of my LIP, Live-In Penis, but I request that you not reveal how incredibly smart you are. It’s not his name or AdultFriendFinder “handle” I’m looking for.

I’d like to come up with a term, rather than LIP, that doesn't require an asterisk explaining that I don't mean to demean men in general or him in particular. And since discerning readers have asked, no, he does not really like being called a LIP, though he does enjoy providing LIP Service and the benefits of being [post 388505].

I'd love your help in coming up with a new term to refer to my LIP. It needs to be short, to the point, preferably humorous, describing both the nature of our relationship and how we feel about one another, which can change from day to day as you see in Confession Time Again: What are your worst traits? when I was ready to go on safari in search of new dick to replace the LIP.

Anyway, “Boyfriend" seems too young in my opinion. We're both in our 40s.

"My Lovah" tends to imply only one lover whereas we have an open relationship. So, when I create my bi-polyamorous ideal life, will I have Lover #1, Lover #2, Lover #3? Plus, Lover sounds just a little too soft-focus French film to me.

We are Roommates (actually housemates as we each have our own bedrooms) with (sexual) Benefits who happen to like one another, may even be willing to admit to "love" on a good day, and who are open to seeing what may develop between us, knowing that each of us has a lot of baggage at 40-something and that we have obligations that may draw us apart. That's pretty long, which is how I came up with...

LIP (Live-In Penis), because the primary reason we decided to live together was to experiment with an open relationship with a commitment to a 15-minute daily Tantric sexual connection. Living together, since we both needed to move at the same point, made sense.

So, what say you? What would be a better name for my LIP?

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rm_dosrev 38M
2091 posts
8/2/2006 11:46 am

Fuckmate comes to mind, but sounds both a bit crass and also isn't very short.

Boytoy suffers from the same problem as boyfriend in the young aspect.

Sexual release partner, SRP, that might do it, but doesn't capture the live in aspect.

Maybe you just need to modify the current term? LIL - live in lover?

LotH - Lover of the house? - that kinda implies that hes your lover, but only the one of the house, that there are others outside?

I dunno, LIP works for me personally.

"Enough of this palaver, lets get the show on the road!"
"The best thing about a day like that is that it can't get any worse. It was a bad day AND a Monday. The rest of the week has to be better." - Hotandsteamygirl

TheRealThing655 48F
9558 posts
8/2/2006 12:45 pm

How about SPARE?


heavenlylove105 54F

8/2/2006 1:04 pm

T - Trantic sex.
O - Oh my your penis is big.
N - No commitment.
Y - Yes I get sex anytime I want.

I say call him Tony~

AndyUnique 68M

8/2/2006 1:15 pm

"FWB Johnson".... or simply "Dick" or "Peter" or combinations to indicate the "friend with benefits" relationship and the male member.

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
8/2/2006 1:22 pm

HWB? housemate-with-benefits... no label is EVER gonna be perfect, cos people don't fit well in boxes...

[blog freelove999]


8/2/2006 2:02 pm

I call mine SO becasue he is the most Significant Other in my life! {=} but my friends just call him by his name

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

PlaynAgain 54F

8/2/2006 3:07 pm

I started to think up something cute, but realized there is a somewhat serious side to the question since LIP actually met all your qualifications and was only a problem to him. My suggestion? Ask him what HE wants to to call him in your blog...

"Attitude is everything. Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle. Live simply, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly. Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, It's about learning to dance in the rain."

twoofusincbus 53M/50F
75 posts
8/2/2006 4:20 pm

Not terribly original, but I like Significant Other, which could just as easily become Significant Others. (As in "one of my SOs.")

Intensity4U 52M
7432 posts
8/3/2006 8:20 am

Hey BPBabe TRT's suggestion is pretty good. 'SPARE' is kind of amusing with a significant meaning behind it. I think the 'LIL - live in lover' is another good suggestion. Those both show some respect and acknowledge you have feelings for him. Just wondering... How do you get to Lover#2, if you can't admit to Lover#1?

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
8/3/2006 1:41 pm

your blog seems to have disappeared from the A-list, so i came in via the back door (an old link from my own blog)... in case you get chance for a cyberfix soon, i just wanted to invite u to A baby blog party!!. would love to see u there!

[blog freelove999]

rm_1hotwahine 62F
21091 posts
8/3/2006 3:22 pm

In my world, in the unlikely event that I'd find myself in this situation, the word would be friend.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

spacecadet561 59M

8/3/2006 6:26 pm

Russell Baker, the columnist, had a good one that might be worth considering: POSSLQ: Person of Opposite Sex Sharing Living Quarters.


Lovin_U_4_Fun 54F

8/3/2006 6:35 pm

I was going to say, "friend," but I like a few of the answers posted. I like GUS, SO and PlayNAgain's suggestion.

deliciousngood 64F
1665 posts
8/3/2006 7:48 pm

I always liked pleasure partner...when I had one

gooodloven2 63M
366 posts
8/3/2006 7:56 pm

just call him yours . you can say hay i got mine do you have yours.the rest of us will just call him lucky.

florallei 99F

8/3/2006 10:44 pm

Crime P I C

barbiebunny 36F
5597 posts
8/4/2006 1:04 am

cabana boys always worked for me

Its good to be...ME

FrankPicasso 52M

8/4/2006 4:01 pm

Hi, BPB. You know, I thought LIP was pretty clever. However, another term for "Live-In Penis" could be "Domestic Cock." Shorten that (not literally of course - ouch) to simply "DOC." Why you could even have little signals and catch-phrases for initiating sex. Like, "Hey! What's up DOC?" or "Is the DOC on call right now?" or he could say, "The DOC is in the house." ...

... or not.


bipolybabe replies on 8/5/2006 8:23 pm:
TY. I like that. Is there a DOC in the house now?'


ncfantasyseeker 46F
22 posts
8/5/2006 11:31 am

Man of the Moment is my personal favorite..... I always have a Main Man of the Moment and a couple on the back burner waiting to step in when the Man leaves town for business...falls asleep or just doesn't "hit" the spot well enough that week!

rm_galileopan 60M
45 posts
8/5/2006 12:09 pm

From Wikipedia:
POSSLQ is abbreviation (or acronym) for "Persons of Opposite Sex Sharing Living Quarters," a term coined in the late 1970s by the United States Census Bureau as part of an effort to more accurately gauge the prevalence of cohabitation in American households.
After the 1980 census, against all odds, the term (pronounced "poss-el-cue") gained currency in the wider culture for a time, with CBS commentator Charles Osgood memorably composing a verse which began


There's nothing that I wouldn't do
If you would be my POSSLQ
You live with me and I with you,
And you will be my POSSLQ.
I'll be your friend and so much more;
That's what a POSSLQ is for.

By the 1990s, the term had fallen out of general usage, and returned to being a specialized term for demographers.

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