I Get the Nicest Emails!  

bipolybabe 55F
10715 posts
8/9/2006 7:46 pm

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I Get the Nicest Emails!

I read the blogs of attractive women on this site about the nasty, scary emails they get, proposing all kinds of violent, aggressive sex, and I wonder “What’s the matter with me?”

Why does no one want to tie me to a tree and fuck me? Then, I remember takethemoneyrun, who suggested that himself in my blog. I also just got an offer saying that since I'm so intelligent the fellow would like to suck my brains through my cunt. That's a new one that made me laugh rather than offending me.

Anyway, I don’t get many nasty emails, a few of the “RU Hot2 Nite?” type that reveal that the man hasn’t bothered to read my profile and some thanking me for my blogs, for which I thank them.

But every once in a while, I do get an email that surprises me. Like this guy, Bob in Santa Barbara, who is 56 and an “attractive, youthful lover of travel ,wine/fine food seeks attractive woman with love for travel” who wrote me to say:

“You sound absolutely terrific! Not what I'm looking for---but I wanted to compliment you nonetheless!”

At first, I think, “Aah, that’s so sweet. Then, I wonder ‘What’s the matter with me? Am I too young for him, too attractive, not attractive enough, too outspoken, too clearly non-monogamous? Did I not mention my love of wine and travel? Is it the herpes thing knocking me out of the ‘competition’ again? What–exactly–is the matter with me?’”

Of course, I merely replied “Thank you for writing. Best wishes in your search,” because apparently he liked something about me. And, the truth is, I probably wouldn’t be interested in him because most men I know who are 56 are on that fast downhill slope sliding into a rocking chair. (He didn’t have a picture posted, so I don’t know if he’s one of the remarkable Sex-Symbol-at-60 guys like Robert Redford, Paul Newman or Clint Eastwood.)

Now, before anyone accuses me of age-ism, I want to say that the real issue for me is not age but vitality. Someone who takes care of him or herself and exercises is going to be a lot more fun for me, since I like to hike, bike, snowboard and fuck. Fuck a lot. Ideally, several times a day. And, ‘cuz I’m a pretty lazy fucker, I prefer that my men have lots and lots and lots of vitality.

So, I’m curious about whether you get nice emails from men (or women) who don’t want to date you? Or do you get the nasty kind? And are people kind in their replies to you?

© 2006 AskAphrodite aka BiPolyBabe


Check out my blog Bi-Poly-Babe for more sensual, sexual pleasure!

JudeL5 46M
1550 posts
8/9/2006 7:58 pm

I have only received nice emails

...but I'm not in the slots! (and don't really care if I am )

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
8/9/2006 8:38 pm

I shut mine off because of the bad emails. Never from bloggers though. But the other ones were violent and involved various forms of "torture" type sex. I shut it down because it just got too depressing

SmartType 52F

8/9/2006 9:10 pm

Hi BiPoly,

I generally get very nice emails, mostly asking if I'm for real (good grief - read my profile/blog, anybody that exhaustingly verbose is most likely 'real'). Occasionally I get a guy who calls me an elitist snob or yuppie - once I refuse their invitation to meet. I try to respond to every solicitation - even when it's apparent a fellow is not even close to a match. I do this very politely (thanking them for reading my profile - even when it's clear they didn't, and then wishing them the best of luck.) That being said - when someone comes back with a super you-are-a-bitch nasty gram, I'll return the same and usually list in detail WHY I'm not interested (my criteria are very specific). It raises a red flag on that individual and then I block them.

BTW - I've enjoyed reading your blog.


TheRealThing655 48F
9558 posts
8/9/2006 9:28 pm

I get mostly nice emails...however, they are usually about a hookup...and I am not into that...I need more than just a fuck. Ones that are blatantly rude I delete, but if I respond, I ususally get a nice reply back.
I am not into writing people back in anger if they are rude...waste of energy and always gets a nasty email back.

Balibabe19 42F

8/9/2006 9:31 pm

Nothing nasty yet!! *knock on wood*

rm_HuggiePuff 44M

8/9/2006 10:27 pm

haven't receive any yet...

rm_Darriko 60M
20 posts
8/10/2006 12:01 am

My emails are nice . . . inbox and, outbox I like to think. Your profile shows you as definitely a fine lady. Writng huh! I do that a lot myself. Your reference to the "fast downhill slope sliding into a rocking chair" is insightful . . . I think I will avoid words like 'downhill', 'sliding' and 'rocking chairs' from now on. Thanks bipolybabe. You are definitely okay X

nightis 53M

8/10/2006 12:17 am

Hi Poly:

As usual, I can't seem to let a day go by without responding to something you wrote.

I receive a few emails. Seldom have I received nasty emails from women telling me what they want to do with me while I was tied to a tree....in fact....well....none. Go figure! A few women and a couple of men have expressed subtle or not so subtle interest in me, but ultimately, I am the hunter.

The worst email I received was a return on a letter that I wrote. She stated that I did not talk about my endowment and therefore probably couldn't satisfy her because what do you know, "size does matter".

Regardless, it is still and adventure to go to the home page and find an email waiting there for you. It is too bad that AdultFriendFinder is sending out all of their promos these days, those are really disappointing!

Good evening!

Rideandfun1000 60M

8/10/2006 5:47 am

I get far more of the kind you got than I do of the "you're the man of my dreams!", or "hey baby wanna fuck!"... (actually I can't remember ever getting those kinds... hmmmmmmm)...

However - when women send those kinds of emails, they do it much more nicely. Frankly, I think sending an unsolicated email saying "you're not what I'm looking for" is kinda rude - who asked for that?? But, here's what I mean about a woman sending just a nice email:

"Wanted to say how much I loved your profile too many game players here. I like a man who can speak from his heart and yet be so bold and honest. I know I am not what you are looking for so no need to respond but I read alot of profiles here and yours definitely got my attention. Good luck in your search ........."

Gents - that's how to do it...


wickedeasy 67F  
26840 posts
8/10/2006 7:04 am

taps BPB on the shoulder


i'm 56

D is 61

and well........trust me on this there are some intriguing uses for those rocking chairs.

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

LookandWink 63M

8/10/2006 9:04 am

I get very few emails. I'm sure that none of the men here get the "wanna fuck?" emails that most women get, but I could be wrong. It really irritates me to know that some "boys" think that sending abusive emails to a woman will attract a good response. Idiots!

Still, two wonderful ladies have sent me very nice emails from reading my blog. I think they have become very good, long-distance friends and I cherish hearing from them. As usual, I wish they lived closer, but, such is life.

Since us "standard" guys can't send emails or read profiles, I will use this opportunity to to write what I would have sent you if I could.

Hi BPB! I am amazed at your your blog! I try to read it every day and am constantly amazed at the insights you share about life, love, and sexuality. I must say that you are the most openly sensual and sexual woman I have ever met in real life or on-line. I would love to spend a long evening with you at dinner talking about your experiences and getting to know you as a person. I realize that this could never happen, due to distance and my current situation, but it's a wonderful fantasy to think about. Still, if you ever come to Florida, you have a standing invitation to dinner. Thank you for opening my eyes and sharing your life.

frassy_sass 54F

8/10/2006 9:46 am

"suck my brains through my cunt."
The mental image of that makes me wish I could draw!

Before I had my pic on my profile I would get nasty emails.
One I thought was humorous was from a 65 yr old who said he wanted "to shove his huge cock in my smart aleck mouth."

sailingandsex 54M
7 posts
8/10/2006 11:34 am

I am on the downhill slope, towards a rocking chair thatI can rest in after racing my dinghy, or bringing a yacht back across the channel from mainland europe.

I haven't received any emails at all, perhaps this is because there is a preconception that old and overweight means no stamina and no fun, or that no will power means no staying power!

Oh if only I could find someone (or some people) so that I could follow your example and fuck several times a day...it would be a great way to lose the extra pounds!!!!!

oops I'll climb off my soap box now.....


8/10/2006 11:48 am

I have gotten many many emails. This is a guesstimate.
60 percent never read my profile invites or the like
39.5 per cent warm lovely letters including enticing erotic ones as well as ones from friends.

cruel I know is a broad term but this includes 5 letters that I have got ranging in racist hate mail 2, threat email from a one time poster whose profile disappeared, 1 from a female that didn't like me much but seemed to think she knew me very well and gave me these new names and titles, and one hateful letter about another female and blaming me for his problems with her.

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

LTsGirl915 34F

8/10/2006 12:18 pm

I get both, some just saying "Wow, I just want to say you really are beautiful!", and others like "Hey let's fuck tonight." I respond nicely to those who are polite, and tell off the worst of the worst. The one's that are only moderately ignorant don't get a response, just not worth my time.

deliciousngood 64F
1666 posts
8/10/2006 4:48 pm

I receive many nice complimentary ones from people too far away to ever meet...some I correspond with. I also get creepy oddball one *See my blog

I have written people when I read a well-written profile or see some exemplary photography! I typically do not intend to even meet them!

IamWetFire 52F

8/10/2006 7:15 pm

Long-time fan, second time poster. . .

Sorry. . .I had to get that out of my system.

The nasty far outweigh the nice for me. Same with the last time I was here, but somehow it's skewed even farther toward the ignorant this time. I did a tally today and I've had 3 nice, intelligent emails that intrigued me and I'm corresponding with these sweet gentlemen. One has become a dear friend after we spent 12 hours on YIM a few days ago. And the only time sex came up was as a joke! Shocking isn't it?

I learned my first time here to block the idiots as soon as they send that repulsive stuff. It became necessary again this time when I politely refused someone THREE times and he still didn't get the hint. I have an auto-reply now to try to circumvent a lot of stuff, but I've had some come back on me and bitch me out because my personal wants/needs/desires exclude them. Okay. . .so am I simply to be a brainless hole into which this misogynist pours his frustrations?

Yeah, right.

I was very upset at the mass of raw, ugly emails I got the first couple of days, but now it's hilarious. I post snippets of the most ludicrous on my blog now just for the humor of it; sort of "and today's top loser is.' If I took their BS seriously, I would've dropped my membership again that first day I came back!

Thanks, BiPolyBabe! I adore your blog! You're brilliant!

bipolybabe replies on 8/10/2006 7:38 pm:
Thank you SOOOO much, IAmWetFire! You've given me an ego boost when I really needed it.

BTW, I have handle envy. IAmWetFire is so totally hot, it's cool!


IamWetFire 52F

8/10/2006 7:17 pm

Oops. . .sorry, nightis. Forgot to mention the thoughtful email you sent admiring my profile! That was both thoughtful and sweet! So, make that FOUR very nice emails from gentlemen.

freebreeze_0 64M
40 posts
8/13/2006 8:12 pm

Women get all the emails. Me I think I have gotten 1, and that was a reply to my eamil.

getenpersinal 36M
1421 posts
11/27/2006 8:18 am

I like that comment about taking care of themselves - it's not just exercising the body, which they can do on their own!

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