Do You Prefer To Sleep Alone?  

bipolybabe 54F
10715 posts
6/21/2006 8:09 am

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6/25/2006 8:31 pm

Do You Prefer To Sleep Alone?

I'm NOT asking would you rather have sex or not have sex. That answer is clear. Duh. You're on a sex site! Me, too.

No, the question is...let's say you've had sex and you have the choice between sleeping together afterward or not.

Let's say either choice is really okay with your partner.

Which do you prefer--to sleep with your sex partner or to sleep alone? And how closely do you want to cuddle? Why or why not?
I'm a vampire so sleep is not an issue.
I prefer to sleep alone ALL the time.
I prefer to sleep alone MOST of the time.
I prefer to sleep next to my sex partner(s) some of the time.
I always prefer to sleep next to my sex partner(s).
I prefer to sleep curled into a ball with my partner's body covering mine.
I prefer to sleep with my body wrapped around my sex partner(s).
It depends on how I feel about my sex partner(s).
It depends on my own sleep habits or something else.
I never sleep next to sex partners. Neither do my partners. He he.


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6/21/2006 9:22 am

Up until I met my man I liked to have sex and then be done with it. I now like to kiss, cuddle, and spoon a bit with pillow talk but then...I want my own home. I know I am horrible, I am just not ready yet for a ball and chain.

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

bipolybabe replies on 6/24/2006 12:29 am:
That's why I recommend a Live-In Penis in poly relationship. I hope to get all the benefits, including bedtime snuggling from time to time, without the ball and chain. We'll see how it actually works out.


LIBlonde97 40F
1028 posts
6/21/2006 10:17 am

It depends on how I feel about someone

With someone random, it wasn't important to me. (That was fun, now fuck off and let me sleep.)

But with someone I really love, we like to fall asleep tangled up together, then I usually eventually roll over and give him a little space to sleep... but usually we always at least have our backs touching, or legs or something to make sure each other is still there.


bipolybabe replies on 6/24/2006 12:30 am:
Yep, there've been some I didn't want to see in the morning, but, mostly, I like the contact.


jst4fun915 34F

6/21/2006 10:22 am

It depends on the person, and my mood. Usually at home, with my husband (we have a rule about other people in our bed, it's not allowed) I prefer to sleep without being touched. I tend to thrash and kick in my sleep, and I hate feet, so if his feet accidentally touch me, I freak.
With most hookups, I don't sleep over, because I have a family. The exception is usually Jersey, because we'll leave the bar/club after midnight, and head back to his place. I usually end up falling asleep with him holding me, until I jolt awake and realize I have to make the drive home. I hate that drive home when I'm sleepy, and coming through the checkpoints at 4am is the ultimate "walk of shame".

bipolybabe replies on 6/24/2006 12:30 am:
Checkpoints? As in military? Ooh, baby, how they must look at you making that walk of shame!


Mermaidslut 49F

6/21/2006 12:52 pm

I voted that "it depends on how I feel about my sex partner". I think sleeping next to a sex partner makes you more vulnerable to them, so it is better only if you want to be emotional with them.

Sleeping next to someone, I feel more vulnerable then when I am just having sex. Some sex, you might not feel safe during, and that is part of it if you just met someone. Once you start cuddling, it is no longer sex, you are bonding on a different level. I have to get past that level of fear to sleep near someone, because I am a sound sleeper and would be afraid of what might happen when I let go control of being concious (awake) so I would really need to feel safe before I could even sleep. However, I really do prefer sleeping with someone because I love waking up and having sex half asleep. I could never feel comfortable with that with someone I did not trust.

In the way distant past, I have met people whom I would never have slept with even though we had just fucked. I did not want to feel them snuggle up to me, or wake up near them at all. I think because of how once they were inside me, I sensed something about them I really did not like and just wanted it to be done with even though I had been willing at first. Maybe just cause they were selfish in bed and put thier needs first. I think if I stayed in bed after it was over, then it would have been hard for me to "fake" cuddling with them to show them how much they had made me purrrr.... so I wanted them away from me as fast as possible

bipolybabe replies on 6/24/2006 12:31 am:
Yeah, it's easier to fake an orgasm than to fake cuddling.


crazygurl2xx 56F

6/21/2006 1:38 pm

for the first time in my life i actually prefer my lover to sleep with me and to hold me or to be touching during the night which is a complete 180 degree turnaround from anything i have ever liked or done or tolerated...

bipolybabe replies on 6/24/2006 12:32 am:
Aaah...that's so sweet. I hope it stays like that forever and ever.

I may often sound cynical, but I'm truly a romantic at heart. No amount of failed romance can cure me of it.

You go, girl!


goodatpoetry2 66M
12399 posts
6/21/2006 2:12 pm

I prefer to sleep alone.
But after sex, I DO like to cuddle-up...and sleep together.

bipolybabe replies on 6/24/2006 12:33 am:
yep, me too. sleep alone and cuddle up and sleep together. all at the same time.


Iwakura16Eyes 37F

6/21/2006 5:25 pm

I REALLY miss curling up in bed with someone... whether in general--or after sex...

bipolybabe replies on 6/24/2006 12:27 am:
What about the MENSA dude? Not the curling up type?


wickedeasy 66F  
25463 posts
6/21/2006 5:27 pm


i am sort of on the lam

but i voted and for me: drool, snoring, morning breath and the fact that he steals all the damn covers - sleeping i like to do alone

but i love to sleep with my friend weezer - she makes these cute little kitten sounds and sleeps with her head under the covers

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

bipolybabe replies on 6/24/2006 12:27 am:
So, are you gonna sorta get caught?


ProtonicMan 47M

6/21/2006 6:39 pm

Snuggling after sex is a wonderful bonus. I would prefer to spoon and fall asleep, but I usually get too hot and have to pull away.


bipolybabe replies on 6/24/2006 12:26 am:
Yep, I want it all. Closeness and space. I highly recommend a Live-In Penis for that. Or, in your case, a Live-In a multi-bedroom house so you can each have your own space.


rm_sex_adDICKED 34F
4 posts
6/22/2006 4:36 pm

I voted that "it depends on how I feel about my sex partner" too. I was married for awhile and love sleeping next to my man. Took me a very longtime to get used to sleeping alone, Now that I am, I am very selective about who I let sleep in my bed. Some guys I never want to leave could stay cuddle up to all night. other can't make them leave soon enough. Guess it all depends on the guy I'm with, what he is like,how he makes me feel and that why I voted "it depends on how I feel about my sex partner" Just really depends...

bipolybabe replies on 6/24/2006 12:25 am:
Yep, me too. Sometimes it's just too much to see the face and the dick in the bright light of day.


rm_Mmmm1284 29M
6 posts
6/22/2006 7:56 pm

well it would really depend on how you feel, if you both have the understanding sex and nothin more then sleeping together may incure some kinda of feeling towards that person and if the other person doesnt aquire the same feelings then everything ends up getting ruin

bipolybabe replies on 6/24/2006 12:23 am:
I think sleeping together is more intimate than fucking...sometimes.


rm_Nubad53 63M
19 posts
6/22/2006 9:13 pm

I'm cat people in this regard. If I feel it, I love to sleep with the person close, cuddling and later touching backs or tangling legs. I like spooning, especially with my dick sandwiched between her cheeks or lips. Otherwise I either go home or sleep with a little space between us.

bipolybabe replies on 6/24/2006 12:22 am:
My ex-boyfriend always had his leg over me, and he made me too hot.

I'm quite happy that my Live-In Penis, aka LIP, has his own bed.


IviesBidesJuste 55M
3658 posts
6/22/2006 11:27 pm

Usually after sex, They will be tired out and I go ahead and let them sleep for awhile while I get up and watch a movie or listen to music, but when they awake, I usually have something for them to eat and to make sure they can drive themselves home if we had gone through some wine or booze.

I tried the bit of letting them stay over night, but lose sleep myself when they start snoring. *s*

bipolybabe replies on 6/24/2006 12:21 am:
yeah, snorers are a snore. or they don't let you or something.


rm_RoboKock70 46M

6/23/2006 6:16 pm

nothing beats sleeping on your own, but life aint that simple lol

bipolybabe replies on 6/24/2006 12:20 am:
Um, yeah, nice cock.

What was I saying? Oh, yeah, um, yeah, sleep alone if you like.

Did I mention you have a beautiful, um, aura about you?


rm_ChatterGlass 41M

6/24/2006 1:09 am

Interesting question. Actually if you had asked me a couple years ago, I would have quickly responded that I prefer to sleep alone. But nowadays, I love to sleep with someone. Its a nice, safe feeling and having someone to hug to sleep is a great thing.

aligaga 59M
318 posts
6/24/2006 6:36 am

My answer: I prefer to sleep with my body wrapped around my sex partner. Even leaving things put together.

rm_2U4U2 56F
8 posts
6/24/2006 10:38 am

I have always had repeats when the fuck dates come in and as to sleeping alone or with them, its better to sleep with them. The fucking gets really intense, more relaxed and then when its over, u both go your seperate ways.

Whey even ask that question at all? Go with your heart or r u afraid of getting use to him/them at night?


hippyrob 39M

6/24/2006 6:26 pm

Yea, sometimes it's nice to sleep with the lady that just rocked my world... as long as neither of us have anything to do the next day... or if someone might wonder where she is. I dont mind cuddleing.
Besides, there's alot to be said for wake me up sex!!!

sassyandsexysue 45F

6/24/2006 9:19 pm

I think their should be a happy medium. Its nice to be alone.

truelover1956 60M

6/25/2006 2:06 am

I voted sometimes It's always nice to wake up with her laying in your arms but I don't want it to always feel like a ball and chain thing.

63 posts
6/25/2006 3:26 am

I prefer to sleep alone.


IJ7502 57F
2 posts
6/25/2006 10:49 am

prefer to sleep wound around whoever is in my bed. you will note I said my bed.

tagme414 51M

6/25/2006 2:17 pm

well usually if its a new partner there is not much sleeping going on anyways...its more like passing out from exhaustion I love to cuddle, spoon, and touch my partner. However when I am asleep I get even warmer (Italian blood i guess) and i need to move away even turn a fan on to cool down. Even at seven spring (ski lodge) in the dead of winter I need space some times. So this can be a double bladed type of question. you wont ever freeze next to me

BloatJurorZippy 48M/45F

6/25/2006 7:34 pm

After we do the deed,we kiss roll over on are sides ,we dont like being all bunched up post396987

tnk14 45M

6/26/2006 1:52 pm

I prefer to sleep next to a nice warm body.

bemyparamour2 51F
1 post
6/26/2006 8:35 pm

I'm with you BPB..... umm.... what was the question???
Oh, and by the way, mister, it looks like you may need a little help with that........ nice aura is correct! Oh my!

L3174 42M

6/27/2006 2:00 am

It depends on who they are.

rm_buford544 58M
1 post
6/27/2006 5:29 pm

It realy depend's if it's a weekend and i don't have to get up real early then I love to sleep with sex partner. afetr we get up we can shower and if my partner want's to we can go out and get breakfast and do some shopping or just spend the day togeather doing what ever she want's to do.

rm_whiteeyes5 55M

6/28/2006 6:15 am

I dont like having sex with someone i have no feelings towards. I always want to sleep next to and wrapped around my sex partner

TummyChuckKinky 41M
12 posts
6/28/2006 9:57 pm

I love to spoon and hold and touch my partner. However, I am very warm blooded, so I need to have some space and keep a fan on to stay comfortable. So if the conditions are right, I am all about cuddling. But even when not touching, it can still be nice to just have the other person there, and hear their breathing, and maybe a soft caress every so often to keep the connection strong.

MoonDancer2006 72F
6 posts
6/28/2006 10:49 pm

If I didn't feel comfortable sleeping with him, I sure as hell wouldn't be haven sex with him.

I LOVE sex in the mornings, and cuddling close to my partner, either him holding me, or my holding him, love spoonen, when we both are satiated, then a bit of sleep, and more in the morning before he/I depart.

brawny405 105M

7/1/2006 7:01 am

I enjoy sleeping next to my lover.. I like to be able to touch her whenever.

rm_nudist42633 54M

7/1/2006 4:56 pm

I would like to sleep with a naked girl!!!!

dickseasoning 46F

7/1/2006 6:10 pm

I like to sleep with someone 3-4 times per year. Maybe on a vacation or wake up at 4am and go home. Having someone in my bed is a problem with me if I have to wake up and clean up behind them. I like for my room to smell fresh, so it means I have to wash the sheetswhen they leave, open the windows, spray the room and keep them from wanting berakfast. Too much trouble. Because I like to sleep nude or partially, it means people think that means sex and I don't want it every night. I like older men and since they aren't good for the long haul, I don't want it 10 minutes every night. Waste of good laundry time.

marathonman45202 53M
6640 posts
7/1/2006 10:03 pm

It depends - sometimes I am cuddled and wrapped, other times I don't want to have any contact. I guess it just depends on the person I am with and what kind of mood I have at the time.

rm_euridiocy 61M
638 posts
7/2/2006 3:15 am

It depends on the partner:
Do they want me to stay?
Do I want them to stay?
Do they steal the sheets, hog the bed, smother-cuddle, ensure I don't get sleep?

Sometimes the post-coital snuggle is too much of a problem; sometimes sex is the "price" paid for the intimacy of a snuggle.

spinne38 52F

7/2/2006 8:28 am

It always depends, how much I'm involved in that situation or the relationship, even, when it is only a friendship with a little bit of sex.
The last two lovers I have already had one respectively two nights with them, sleeping curled one into the other. It was very nice and the next morning I know, how I can wake up one of both. It is much softer, than he gets woken up by his wife. She gives him a hard clap in his face, I use my lips!

rm_patti1970 46F

7/2/2006 10:27 am

Hate being alone but dont want to be touched either lol ... that is when I'm sleeping

rm_simon2525 40M
1 post
7/2/2006 5:59 pm

I like to end up entwined with lovers after sex, it should be a nice bonding and closeness with sex for me. Guess thats partly why I'm still friends with quite a few of my ex-lovers.
However I'd have to really love someone to live with them, staying over is great tho.

lightswitch1963 68M/53F

7/2/2006 8:26 pm

Having been married for 10 years, I find it hard to sleep if he isn't in the bed.

We'll leave the light on for you.

kaczor16 39M

7/2/2006 9:48 pm


sylvester316 42M

7/3/2006 3:05 am

if it's just sleep well yes I rather sleep alone

luvtolick64154 62M

7/3/2006 4:05 am

I love the feeling of my partner cuddling next to me, but like most tend to move apart after failing a sleep, to much body heat.

rm_bigCRod7 39M
4 posts
7/3/2006 7:10 am

sleep next to her so she is there for more fun when we wake up. not to close though... maybe legs intertwined.

rm_xmasbabe35 45F
3 posts
7/3/2006 8:14 am

    Quoting tagme414:
    well usually if its a new partner there is not much sleeping going on anyways...its more like passing out from exhaustion I love to cuddle, spoon, and touch my partner. However when I am asleep I get even warmer (Italian blood i guess) and i need to move away even turn a fan on to cool down. Even at seven spring (ski lodge) in the dead of winter I need space some times. So this can be a double bladed type of question. you wont ever freeze next to me
If you get hot in your sleep then it tends to be the Italian blood. Italians are naturally hot blood but that is what makes them great lovers. Turn the fans up.

cowboy132343 50M
2 posts
7/4/2006 1:44 am

i like to sheep alone especially when you partner snores

hotwitch2 41T
128 posts
7/4/2006 8:39 am

it depends on the partner. but as habit has it. after we go to sleep. i tend to seperate from the men and cuddle with my female partners. blessed be

good sex is good sex. it doesn't matter where it comes from.[/COLOR

7 posts
7/4/2006 1:39 pm

After the sex, the most repectful thing you can do is snuggle next to the person you just made love to. Sex to me is sacred.

rm_seniorwalter 71M

7/4/2006 9:02 pm

so use to sleeping with some one, sleeping alone makes sleeping very hard.

rm_wetndeep205 33M/33F

7/7/2006 10:25 am

sleep is nessasary after weather your alone or by yourself

risingphoenix21 32M
2 posts
7/20/2006 5:41 pm

I would perfer to sleep the night with my partners but I find that I usually loose sleep when someone else is in the bed, whether we fucked or not.

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