Burnin' The Man  

bipolybabe 54F
10715 posts
9/8/2006 2:03 pm

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Burnin' The Man

For the previous segments in this series about Burning Man, an alternative culture and art event held over Labor Day Weekend out in the northern Nevada desert, see

Fear No Penis...at Burning Man .

and Riding the Orgasma-Tron...at Burning Man

I am an entrepreneur, both by virtue of being raised by parents who owned a small business and because I'm too stubborn to work for anyone else. Oh, I've put in short stints working in social services, for the university and an occasional restaurant gig to raise extra money for travels, but, for the most part, I avoid working for "The Man."

I told my mom when I graduated from college, "I'm never getting a job where I have to be there 9-5 or wear nylons." And I've stayed true to that. I've never worked in a corporate environment, and I have a lot of friends who have and who complain endlessly about their lack of autonomy, lack of respect and overwork. I think Enron's Ken Lay should have been publicly pilloried for the crimes he committed against his employees and stockholders.

With this philosophical bent, I thought Burning Man was about disdain for "The Man," particularly because Burning Man prohibits commerce inside the gates and encourages a "gifting economy" where you freely give someone a gift or give something they need if you feel like it. One night I was walking along in the dark, and a cute 20-something guy on a bike gave me a neon bracelet to keep other bikers from running me over. I was walking out in the desert one hot afternoon, making my pilgrimage in the shimmering heat to the art installations, and a guy about my age gave me an ice-cold Corona. I thanked him profusely, gave him a handful of condoms and wished him some good, safe fun.

Anyway, I went to the last couple of days of Burning Man thinking that watching the burn is a center point of the event (and I chose to stay only a couple days because I hate dirty fingernails from camping).

And the burn does serve as a center point, but not for the reason I imagined. Burning the Man is a spectacle, a huge party with fire dancers ringing the man, performing for the audience and then a huge dramatic bonfire that generates incredible energy and a big party afterward.

But, all that has NOTHING to do with evil corporate greed. It's about participation in art, participation in life. When I got home, I read about the history of Burning Man and discovered that the founder, Larry Harvey, started in 1986 on Baker Beach in San Francisco burning the man in reaction to a romantic breakup. He and his ex-girlfriend used to write their names in the sand on the beach and then light them on fire. So, he said to his friend, as a way to create a new ritual to exorcise the demons of his pain, "Dude, let's build a man and burn 'im."

So, he gathered some friends to build a wooden man and burn him. The second time around, they attracted a crowd of several hundred people who, when the cops wouldn't allow the burning, started to riot and shout, "Burn him. Burn the fucker. Fuckin' burn 'im." The organizers realized they'd given no thought to communicating the message behind the burning because THERE WAS NO MESSAGE. It was about participation. (As the crowds grew, they moved to the current location in the desert.)

By only staying for a couple days for the party part of Burning Man, I remained an observer, watching and waiting for the event to prove itself to me, instead of being an active participant in creating my own event. So, I missed a huge part of the event. It's a sort of metaphor for the other struggles in my life. (See Gettin' Over My Own Damn Self and Get Me Out of Here!.)

I've been waiting for life to prove to me it's worth living, rather than making my life worth living through my own effort.

But, I'm no dummy. Next year, I'm making my own sexy theme camp and creating exactly what I want. My friend, The Queen of All Sexual Knowledge, and I talked about creating a Dude-House, rather than a whorehouse, so horny women could come get their rocks off. Sounds like fun. I will still probably only stay for a couple days because I still hate dirty fingernails (Did I mention stubborn? ) --but I'll be there at the beginning next time--and I'll invent my own event.

Now, as to other aspects that you fellow pervs may want to know about...There are camps on every theme imaginable from the KAOS (Kick Ass Oral Sex) Camp which held a public competition, to the Human Carcass Wash at Poly Paradise (for polyamorous couples and "poly friendly" singles) which was one of the only ways to get a shower at the event to the [blog expatbrit] imitators with their Orgasmic Carrot Camp (pictured).

So, the down low is go early, cum often and participate in your own damn life. And Burning Man is something everyone should experience at least once.

Any camp ideas you'd like to put together for next year?

(c) 2006 AskAphrodite aka BiPolyBabe


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buzzdb 60M

9/8/2006 3:06 pm

Thanks for the inside on Burning Man, Had heard about it and googled it, but never heard from anyone that had actually been there.

I will say this of you , You stand on your owne two feet,(fuck em if they don't like it) with ex,or anyone, My hat is off to you.

I enjoy your attitude, and writing, and will follow your adventures as you pen them. Smiles to you BP

pictureunaked 56M

9/8/2006 4:05 pm

I like the Dude-house idea and think you should include g-spot massage, oral services and an Orgasma-Tron on your menu. When will you begin taking applications for the staff?

bipolybabe replies on 9/8/2006 4:56 pm:
My friend, The Queen of All Sexual Knowledge, and I thought we'd take apps and conduct interviews for the next year.

You know, of course, that you need to prove your merit, right?


spacecadet561 59M

9/8/2006 4:14 pm

You get the points for being more adventuresome than me. Then again, the mini-ranch here has turned into much more of a money pit than I'd anticipated when I bought it 4 years ago.


AndyUnique 68M

9/8/2006 6:12 pm

Jackin' World....masturbation tools, toys, techniques, visual and/or auditory aids, lubes, whatever. Competitions(who can change hands without missing a stroke or, something), bondage and wacking...all sexes and orientations invited; can show each other how we pleasure ourselves and others. The possibilities are endless.

gooodloven2 63M
366 posts
9/8/2006 11:02 pm

i was shure you would have a great time at the man.You are right it's not all about the man it's about you and your interaction with every one and every thing around you in a place removed from the rest of the world( you all make a new world of your owne free from all the bull of this one)it only last a short time but the real interesting thing is it will continue on in you and everyone who was there for years to come.It changed your life it was a mile stone for you and your fellow travelers.

warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
9/9/2006 5:20 am

We have a number of truly ancient and pagan festivals here in England and the Burning Man reminds me so much of them. We have giants, green men, hobby horses, maypoles, carts piled thirty feet high with rushes with a man sitting astride (wielding a large tankard of ale .... of course) and lots of morris dancers. Usually they mark the seasons and are awesome to be at. Usually too much beer is drunk and a great time is had by all. Glastonbury is the nearest we get to a fusion of ancient and more modern, and where more "hippie" influences appear.

I have seen The Burning Man on TV and read about the festival. Yes, it would appeal a lot.

warm xx

cobra70118 105M

9/11/2006 6:04 pm

Man I am soo jealous I wasn't there. Every year I want to go but something major comes up... like committments.

There ought to be a Burning Woman... fear no pussy!

bipolybabe replies on 9/14/2006 9:30 am:
Are men ever afraid of pussy? Good blog topic.


rm_sexxikritter 52F
2715 posts
9/11/2006 6:40 pm

I like AndyUnique's Jackin' World idea. And how about one for the ladies? Various toys and antibacterial wipes for cleaning them after the play.
What about a camp for picture taking? Those who, for some reason, are unable to take their own erotic photos come to you. They pose, play, you photograph, play.....the possibilities are endless. You can show them exactly how those self timers work.


bipolybabe replies on 9/14/2006 9:29 am:
Hey, great ideas! Since pictureunaked is a photog and has volunteered for being a member of the Dude-House for workin' the ladies, we can also offer an erotic photo booth! I like the erotic photo booth a lot. I mean, most of us need some hot photos of ourselves now, don't we?


rm_B_O_H_I_C_A 53M
342 posts
9/18/2006 10:26 pm

And just where would one need to go to "apply" for any of these positions?

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