Not Intending to Offend  

bigredeatsbush 51M/50F
305 posts
8/2/2005 3:35 pm

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Not Intending to Offend

How does it happen? We are kidding with someone and we say something that the other person does not like. We have then offended the other person! Now sometimes, we don't even know that this has happened; perhaps they are too quiet to say anything. The fact is it is easy to be kidding around in an environment like AdultFriendFinder and say things that someone takes offense to. How does one find that perfect place between kidding around and going too far? I don't know. Since we are in a "text" environment I think it is even easier for this to happen because body language is so important to people for effective communication. So, all I can say is this:
1)try to not offend - Be over-careful; apologize if there is anyway that what you are typing can be misunderstood; read and re-read what is being said so that you do not misinterpret the conversation.
2)try no to get offended - be aware that this is a site where people make light of many things. If someone has truly made a statement that has offended you, make sure that you peacefully explain your position; let them know that you did not enjoy their remark. I suspect that most people here are willing to make amends for anything they might say that could be taken pooly. Most of my reading and discussions here lead me to think that MOST people have a really loose sense of humor here and are also quite friendly.
FYI - I haven't been offended by anyone here. It just that sometimes I feel like the "conversation killer"; I make a comment in a discussion, and suddenly the conversation DIES. I'm really saying if what I write is a problem - LET ME KNOW because I am only joking around!
I am always interested in feedback, I'm a people pleaser at heart...

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

8/2/2005 9:30 pm

Yes do try and be clear in communication.

But also if they are offended, maybe they are not your type of person. Some do look fro any excuse to be offended.

Your advice is very good thanks

bigredeatsbush 51M/50F

8/4/2005 12:04 pm

Yes, I agree with you P&P I just wanted to emphasize the topic to avoid any future misunderstandings. It's such a shame when something is ruined by two people not understanding each other.

rm_kinkicupl 33M/33F

8/4/2005 4:26 pm

Sometimes I wonder how people get so out of whack about things... we're extremely easy going and don't get offended easily!

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