AFF 101 for Standard members & Others  

bigredeatsbush 51M/50F
305 posts
8/6/2005 11:03 am

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AFF 101 for Standard members & Others

AdultFriendFinder 101 for the Standard Member - This is how to get to know people here while you are deciding if you want to spend the money. If you are already a "Premium Member, some of this might be helpful as well.

Welcome to AdultFriendFinder, the most conveluted way to meet someone. Don't get it wrong, it's still a good way to meet people with common interests without having to sift through a bunch of people who will get offended. I don't think many people would feel comfortable with you asking if they want to sleep with your wife, and even more don't want you offering to sleep with theirs. As a couple, we have decided we don't want to change any of our existing friendships by trying to proposition them. People who are serious and at AdultFriendFinder are here because they want to meet other people and have fun; but also be a little discriminating. But, not everyone at AdultFriendFinder is serious.

OK, so how do you use this webcite to get the most out of it?

1) You need to find REAL people with your interests:

Look in the groups and blogs and read what people are saying!! You should be able to
tell quickly who is taking time and investing themself seriously.
A - If you want people in your area, click "GET LOCAL" at the top of your webpage.
B - If being local isn't important (i.e. you just want to chat or swap pictures); go to groups or blogs at the top of your screen

2) Don't know what you want - Read stuff until you get a "flavor" for what trips your trigger - There's lots of reading material on AdultFriendFinder. then it's time to JUMP IN

OK, as a standard member you are limited on contacting members. SO don't waste your time writing e-mails to people you hardly know, use the discussion groups and reply to blogs. You can write as much as you want there, and everyone can read it and decide where a "match" exists. If you feel a synergy (I just love using that word), then try to write them directly.

Other Pointers:
In the groups, you can see what discussions other people are posting in by clicking on the blue number next to the word posts under their picture in the discussion of groups

If you go to your home page, there's a blue link titled "who's Veiwing Us"" (or me). I almost always look there and add people looking at us to our hotlist. That way I can keep track of "real" people who are actively looking for other people.

HOTLIST - When you add people to your hotlist, it will show that person that you have when they go to look at "Who's Veiwing Us" by default. You can change that in your profile settings but I recommend you leave it on so other people know you are looking.

POINTS - You can build up points and use them to contact other members!! Go to your home page and in the upper right corner there is a "You Have XXX Points. Click on it for more information

JOINING GROUPS - In order to make a reply or start a discussion, you must join a group You can read all you want without joining, so do that first. Once you join a group, you can link directly there from you home page, so It is easy to catch up on recent postings in that group.

OK, that's about all We know. Feel free to ask questions by commenting here, or tell Us how you are sifting out the trash here on AdultFriendFinder

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

8/6/2005 12:24 pm

you hit it right Mr&Ms Red.

the one will want to seek someone(s) for real will write blogs, read material, and do alot more than send a "wanna fuck" email. SHowing personality is always a good thing!
Off to stalk innocent people!

bigredeatsbush 51M/50F

8/6/2005 3:55 pm

Off to stalk innocent people? I don't see any innocent people around here! I only stalk the guilty, that way I'm in good company!

rockwriter58 56M
1389 posts
8/7/2005 8:15 am

I can see that the system is difficult in different ways for everyone but it obviously isn't too difficult to attract the numbers who stick around.

My take as a married male on the site isn't too different from what I see here. I actually put up a series of humorous posts on this in mid-July in my blog called "The Stages of Man." If you look for them you'll see they are delineate all the newbie mistakes.


bigredeatsbush 51M/50F

8/8/2005 8:21 am

Rockwriter - For a much more humourous look at life on AdultFriendFinder without the "how-to" stuff, I recommend rockwriters blog, the link is right above this post.

rockwriter58 56M
1389 posts
8/8/2005 3:54 pm

I wish the new linking feature had been in place when I posted. I hope you don’t mind, but I’m posting again with the direct coordinates so folks don’t have to hunt around. Try these entries: The Early Stages of Man on AFF (Redux) and The Middle Stages of Man on AFF. Thanks!


bigredeatsbush 51M/50F

8/9/2005 12:22 pm

Never a problem, I enjoyed your post. I like it best when us bloggers tie them together so it is easier to read related stuff

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