I hate Valentine's Day  

bigandtallreturn 37M
1538 posts
2/8/2006 8:53 pm

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I hate Valentine's Day


Yes, I know this is a little early, but I feel I have to get this off my chest now.

In general, I like holidays. Or at least I can tolerate a good majority of them. A lot of them have meaning: Christmas is to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ; New Years' Day is essentially a fresh start for you, being the birth of a new year and all; Fourth of July celebrates the United States' independence from Great Britain, etc, etc.

Then we have Valentine's Day.

Did you know Valentine's Day originally has not a damn thing to do with love? It's true, the connection between St. Valentine and romantic love is not mentioned in any early histories and is regarded by historians as purely a matter of legend. Hell, the Catholic church (one I'm very familiar with) doesn't even recognize it as a holiday. Initially, it came about in the 14th century in England and France because February 14th was traditionally the day where birds paired off to mate. I couldn't make that up if I tried.

Of course, we Americans have taken Valentine's Day to the extreme, so that now, every time it rolls around, we're saturated with commercials, reminders at the supermarket about all the chocolates and such (because really, nothing says love like a fucking 8-foot tall chocolate rabbit, right?), and annoying advertising from Hallmark, Kay's Jewelers and others that you really need to remind your mate that you love and care for them, or else they might see the light and dump your ass.

Well diamonds are forever, but so is my hatred for this day. Do you really need a day to remind that special someone that you care for them? Shouldn't you be doing that every day anyway? I struggle to get, keep and maintain a relationship that, if I'm lucky, lasts a month and yet those who are in long-term relationships take it for granted and don't pay attention to the little things until it's too late. And they still get a day out of it, because God forbid we have to celebrate the notion of a romantic couple and their contribution to society. And yet, looking at the divorce rate in this country, we don't really care all that much for our partners, do we? "Irreconcible differences" may be the most popular excuse for divorces, but I'll bet the real reason is "Because he (or she) didn't seem to care anymore."

And what about those who aren't loved, at least not on the romantic level? Valentine's Day, in essence, is saying "Fuck you" to unattached singles everywhere. If you don't have that special someone, you're left out. This is different from, say, Mother's Day or Father's Day. Moms and dads deserve a day for all they do. But what do couples do that's so great that they get a day out of it? If you can tell me, you're a better person than I am. And yet we have to put up with couples who decide to play along and celebrate this bullshit excuse of a holiday, probably because they have nothing better to do. Forget getting a decent table at a restaurant, because the couples have snatched them.

Do I let this day bother me? Guilty as charged, but it's hard not to. At this time of the month, you're constantly being reminded of the impending Valentine's Day forthcoming, like a hurricane. Hurricane Valentine, and its destruction will be disgustingly lovey-dovey couples all over the place, like cicadas in the summertime. And since my Adult Friend will be busy on that day, here comes another Valentine's Day spent Eric Carmen-style: All By Myself. But this year, I'm not letting it bother me. I'll paraphrase a quote from Rocky: to you, it's Valentine's Day. To me, it's Tuesday. I'll ignore the hearts and the candy and the bullshit and just treat it as another day. Instead, I think I'll laugh at couples and say "It won't last!" just to be an asshole. But at least I'm honest about it.

Have I mentioned I hate Valentine's Day?

Now where's that giant bunny?

"Today may be the first day of the rest of your life, unless you live on the other side of the International Date Line, then yesterday was the first day of the rest of your life."- Larry Andersen


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
2/10/2006 1:42 am

Let's have an Anti-Valentine's Day chat Tuesday!

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


bigandtallreturn 37M

2/10/2006 5:22 am

I'm there. Where at?

"Today may be the first day of the rest of your life, unless you live on the other side of the International Date Line, then yesterday was the first day of the rest of your life."- Larry Andersen


PassionKisses4Me 44F

2/10/2006 7:55 am

Wow...Pretty clear what you think about the day...The day may be way over commericalized for couples, but I choose to spend the day thinking of all the love I do have in my live...love from my wonderful parents, 3 beautiful boys, whose love is the greatest I can ever have, and the love of my friends...love comes in so many shapes and forms...and I choose to embrace that love

And I am sure you AF has a very good reason for being busy...which might just be a good thing with all your hatred for the day LOL

Kisses,
Becky

~Becky~


rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
2/11/2006 5:54 am

Awwww, I just wrote a post about this very thing and am gonna mix it up this year!

Purry {=}

Purry


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
2/11/2006 3:22 pm

In my Group's chat room, you're invited to PrincessKarma's Book Palace.

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


bigandtallreturn 37M

2/11/2006 7:35 pm

To quote that great philosopher Wayne Campbell: "I'm there."

"Today may be the first day of the rest of your life, unless you live on the other side of the International Date Line, then yesterday was the first day of the rest of your life."- Larry Andersen


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