Not getting any sex and getting to the point where I am loosing it.  

bicuriousfem256 36F
32 posts
11/6/2005 11:27 am

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Not getting any sex and getting to the point where I am loosing it.

Today I sit here still confused, horny and fucking fustrated! Tell me what is a girl to do when the guy she dates is the best thing that has happened to here in awhile!? But the problem with this guy is a major one for the relationship to progress and maybe grom into something more. See unfortunately the guy I am dating is not well equipped where he should be and since he is not we don't and can't have sex.

So now it's been 8mths of us dating, but it's been 1yr and 3mths of no sex for me and i am starting to bounce off the fucking walls. And see he knows everything, he knows i come on here and that I have many offers from men, couples, and some woman but I can't help but feel bad for him. Because he wants to have sex just can't and i honestly don't know how much longer I can go without being f_cked!!

But how do i go about that without feeling guilty and hurting him?? He said he doesn't mind to go and have my fun and get it out of my system so we can be together and that he will deal with it but I am not sure what do to, he is a good guy that doesn't deserve to be hurt. So my dilema is should I have sex or not? What would anyone do in my dilema? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated thank you.

rm_MRLUVA7332 43M

11/6/2005 4:37 pm

If he's telling you it's okay to go have your fun, he is probably saying that because he knows you need to.Believe me, no man wants to see(know) his woman is with another man.But, he must really care to want to make the sacrifice.My advice would be to take a vacation to michigan, hit me up so I can take of that for you and you can return to your relationship at ease. ther's gonna be some guilt, so you all have to decide what you can and can't live with.Even without the trip to see me(as I can be a smartass sometimes)I really feel for you.Life is full of decisions isn't it?

bicuriousfem256 36F
11 posts
11/7/2005 9:53 am

Hey hun thank you for your reply and I know your right and even yesterday I had discussed it with him and he told me once again he wants to make me happy and he wants me to get it out of my system so we can go on into building something more between us. But here is another question what happens if i like it and want more, what then do i do? And as for you I would love to get to know you more you seem nice not like most of the guys i have met on here. So hit me back up talk to you soon bye sweetie.

rm_txscorpion 42M
206 posts
11/10/2005 11:06 am

You bring out an interesting situation and, unfortunately, you are not alone instruggling with this issue. There are others that struggle with this problem/issue on a daily basis. I agree w/ MRLUVA that your man must love and care for you to make that kind of sacrifice. It will be difficult for him, regardless of the decision that you make. One good thing is the communication that the two of you have in trying to find a solution to this issue. Continue to keep the lines of communication open. If need be, maybe you may have an unbiased. open-minded 3rd party to talk with to help. It's difficult no matter which way you slice it. I wish you the best for you and your man. Hopefully the decision that you make will be beneficial for both parties.

~The Scorpion King~

bicuriousfem256 36F
11 posts
11/10/2005 9:00 pm

hey hun thank you so much for your comment and advice it is highly appreciated and both of you are right it's just at times i can't help feeling guilty and that is what is holding me back at the moment. I mean he tells me it will hurt him but he will get past it and will allow me to do it and get it out of my system. I don't think I could of asked for anyone better.

lickeymickey3 62M

1/9/2006 5:59 am

This is a serious problem you have. The thing is do you think you would get it out of your system. I beleive it would keep coming back and you would have to revisit it every so often. How would your partner feel then. Is there no treatment he is willing to have. If I cared about you it would drive me mad to think of you with other men and I would do everything in my power to find varying ways of satisfying you to keep you with me. Its a huge part of the relationship which could go so wrong if you went with others. You should get him to do everything possible. Sexless relationships do not seem to work when one partner has a high sex drive.

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