Sex Lies and Videotape?  

bi1curiousgrrrl 49F
42 posts
5/9/2006 1:52 pm

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Sex Lies and Videotape?

I've been out of touch for a while so I've had some time to think.

And what I think: You know what??? Lying is absolutely the worst thing ever. Especially lying to someone you're having sex with or married to or dating.

I say this because it's happened to me but also because I see it happening to a lot of people I know. I know a couple who use this website to try to meet new people and spice up their love life but are lied to all the time. What's up with lying?

Is it because of the "game" people play about sex? Sex should be fun but it shouldn't be treated like it's nothing. It's one thing to have an open attitude and share a lot with many but even when I do that, I'm still honest. I can't understand someone who would lie about themselves... hell you're going to find out that I have a scar! Why should I lie? You'd find out that I'm not a Pam Anderson clone, why should I lie?

Maybe I'm honest to a fault. I know I've hurt some of my friends by telling them the bold truth. I try to be tactful but sometimes it's just got to be done. I'd much rather my friends tell me that I shouldn't wear yellow than for them to say that the shirt doesn't flatter.

And really... lying is so NOT sexy. I'd much rather know the truth than suffer through trying to read between the lines. So... if you're sitting there trying to remember the rule about calling someone 3 days after you went out with them or how you're supposed to not talk about someone/something until the 3rd meeting or whatever crazy rules that someone on "Friends" came up with.... you're lying to yourself.

Whoever said that relationships are a game is lying as well. They're not. Say what you mean, mean what you say and stop the bullshit in between.

Come on!!! You either like each other or you don't. You either want to screw each other's brains out and disappear or you don't. But make sure you're both thinking with the same side of your horny ass. Be clear. Be truthful and most of all, stop blowing smoke up my ass.

rm_smosmof2 67M
3240 posts
5/9/2006 2:58 pm

personally, I've always found lying to be a non-survival policy. The truth always comes out, and then the liar is in deeper shit than ever. That doesn't stop most people, because they think they're getting away with it 'til the world caves in, and then it's too late to do anything about it.....

Serves 'em right.

puntachueca 105M

5/10/2006 6:12 pm

One reaches a certain age and lying just isn't worth all the trouble. First, it's too hard to remember the lie. Second, lies always hurt. Third, treat everyone like you want to be treated. Fourth, fear of telling the truth is the real problem. the other person doesn't like the truth. It is real, however. But if caught in a lie to avoid the consequence of the truth, not only does one still have to deal with the reaction to the truth, they also have to deal with the loss of trust caused by the lie...which is ultimately fatal to any relationship.
You are right on!!!!

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