Holier than Thou  

berrigal2 60F
283 posts
7/16/2005 3:55 pm

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Holier than Thou

I am so fed up with some of the opinions of people on this site that think if you are married you have no business here. WARNING am going to vent. If it offends anyone....don't read past this sentence.

I have explained my reasons for being here many times in many different groups and get the same slamming emails or reply posts from each group.

I don't know why we should be shunned. It's called AdultFriendFinder. If you don't want anything to do with us, ignore the emails you get. Simple. We all have our reasons for being here. Some are looking for sex, some for a friend, or friends. Some of us just like to have fun on the discussion boards or blogs. Please don't judge us all by a few bad ones you have had experiences with.

Just because I wink at you, or send you an email saying I wish you lived closer or comment on your picture does NOT mean I am panting to go to bed with you..gezzz!!! It just means I admire what you have said in your profile or how your pic looks. I don't think I have propositioned anyone in the first email..lmao!!

Married people have as much right to be here as the singles, divorced, widowed. Sometimes even more so, we get lonely too you know!!
As far as the "why don't you keep your vows?" question, I think all of us have wrestled with that question BEFORE we signed up....and it's private. We don't stalk and jump your bones if you don't want us around..and we don't blast you for being single!

Can't we all just be friends and if not interested just look away. I have my own conscience, don't need yours too!

Okay, I feel better now...smile

Please don't send anymore emails telling me I am a cheater, home wrecker, and slut. I might start liking those nicknames...lol

cajunpet 70M
1185 posts
7/17/2005 4:28 am

Hi Berri, I total agree with you. No one has the right to call you names. How you live your sex life is no one else concern. Just ignore these people and block them from sending e-mails and posting comment. If it is harassment report it to the abuse department. Don't let it get you down.

Take care.
Keep On Blogging!!!! Have a great day.

Cajun Pet

PillsburyCodeBoy 60M

7/17/2005 6:01 am

Thank you, Berri. That needed to be said, and you said it very well.

I've seen those discussions on various groups. I've stayed away from them. I'd get involved if I thought I could write something that would make everyone understand, or at least make them think twice about being so judgmental. But I can never think of anything like that, so I just move on to something else.

I'm "attached." That's probably harder to explain than married or separated. It means different things to different people. My reasons for being here are complicated. They've also changed since I first joined. In a nutshell, I'm now looking more for friendship than for sex. Although of course, like everyone, I'd love to have both.

The best friends I've made on here have been married, attached, separated, or very, very sympathetic to those of us who are. That's for the best. They're wonderful friends, and I wouldn't trade them for anything.

I've been lucky. No one has been ugly to me for being attached. The worst that's happened is that I've been ignored.

I do think it's worse for women on this site in that regard. Some of the women I've met on here have been treated vilely just for being here, as much by other women as by men. There's no excuse for the kind of treatment they've received.

There are lots of fish in this sea. Anyone who doesn't like someone's profile is welcome to move past it and look for someone else.

Again, Berri ... thanks.

Proud to call you a friend,

lonlyhubby2004 50M

7/17/2005 7:12 pm

I wish that I had the nerve to say what you did....I think you summed it up pretty well. I think that because I am a male looking, that again, it's sterotyped as just "wanting a piece", which isn't fair either. oh well, i figure that if they don't want to get to know me as a friend, then it isn't worth the worry!
Proud to call you my friend too!

rm_bigguy5910 58M
38 posts
7/18/2005 1:21 pm

Way to go Berri my hat goes off to you...... every body on these sights are on here for the same reason........ they are looking for something, it might be someone to talk to, it could be they are looking for a friend,or someone to lean on and as some would say they could be looking for sex....lol...and if they are its nobodys busniess.....i have been married for 25 years....i love my wife but we dont have a good sex life any more, and im not getting any younger lol..... i some times need someone to talk to........and hope some of you are there for me............for everyone downing married people on here STOP AND THINK you might be walking are shoes one day....EVERYBODY HAVE A NICE DAY .......

CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
7/19/2005 1:38 pm

*Does a little hip movement as i swing my hands this way and that of a dance to show the pleasent shout of your blog*


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