Faith and Trust  

berrigal2 60F
283 posts
10/13/2005 6:09 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Faith and Trust

Two small words that pack a powerful meaning in our lives.
I looked up the definition of the two words because someone close asked me to exhibit them in our friendship. And I wondered why I have such a hard time in doing so.

Faith =
1. confident belief in the truth, value, or trustworthiness of a person, an idea, or a thing.

2. belief that does not rest on logical proof or material evidence.

3. loyalty or allegiance to a person or thing; esp. fidelity to a promise.

Trust =
1. indicates a depth and a sense of assurance that is based on strong but not logically-conclusive evidence, or based on the character, ability, or truth that someone or something has shown over time or across situations.

2. Trust makes for a sense of being safe or of being free of fear, enough so that one's focus can be on other matters because that matter is taken care of.

3. Trust is a risk. We leave ourselves open for loss. Betrayal of trust hurts so much because the lost sense of security multiplies the damage.

I thought about the enormity of what this person had asked of me. I thought of the enormity of what I had asked of other people throughout my life when I sometimes said "Just trust me, have a little faith please".

I don't believe that these two should be taken lightly. I don't think I ever believed that that they should, but society has a way of "brainwashing" us to think that if we don't trust or have faith, we ourselves are lacking or falling short. I always feel guilty if I can't trust someone. GEZZZ..that's messed up...LOL

I also began reading about these two subjects and came up with certain "keys" all the writers seemed to have in common relating to their advice on Trust:

Some keys to building trust :

1. Communicate. Say accurately what you are doing, and don't assume others 'just know'. Also helpful : suggest some way they can help out.

2. Do what you've communicated. Nothing is more important to building trust than actions that match the words, non-verbal cues, and stated reasons. (I mean, actions that don't have to have 'spin' to make them seem like they match.)

3. No scorekeeping. Tit-for-tat is a game that does not help create a sense of trust. Quit reminding others of what they did wrong in the past. Focus on what's happening now.

4. Look in the mirror. Are you giving others reason to distrust you? Were you acting the same way in a past instance that you were shown untrustworthy?

5. Repetition. Each time you act in a trustworthy manner, you earn more trust. After a while, the trust starts adding up. Be thorough about it : build trust in every matter, big or small.

6. Show trust. People who are trusted are more likely to trust. Most people actually are trustworthy in most matters most of the time. Trust them, and the trust may spread. (That doesn't mean blind trust, which is a way to become an untrustworthy person's enabler.)

I like that last sentence, blind trust is what I think I have shown in the past and the reason I have such a hard time trusting now. Once trust is betrayed, or I begin to doubt a person, I find it so hard to ever trust again. Is anyone else like that????

Seems as though Peter Pan might have tried to teach us that with a little faith, trust, and pixie dust we could leave our cares behind. Wish I had a bag of that pixie dust since I lack the other two in some instances.

I really don't know why I am sharing my lessons on faith and trust we can all learn from them.

If not, we can always read another blog and forget about this one....

guynamedjim 58M
728 posts
10/13/2005 12:17 pm bout applying them! Actually GREAT post. Think one be surprised how much these values applied! What I'm really surprised is being able to read this coming for a woman. Why is this? Because women have seemed to be swept away by this desperate womens movement! The women of faith are silent here. Think both men and women care truely being careful of not commiting sexual suicide.
Alone here, but rocking on! By golly...inspight of frustration and setbacks there is HOPE! But hey! thats truely another topic worthy of discussion. I remember more than than I seem to want to forget.
KEEP BLOGGING now ya here!

guynamedjim 58M
728 posts
10/14/2005 12:18 am

It's the beat, NO wait it's the rythym seen in the waves that carries on, and on into the future tense when expections fail and or are actually lived trusting. Weathering the storms of life. Ya-ya thats the ticket.

berrigal2 60F

10/14/2005 2:37 pm

Sexual suicide...hmmm. Heck I probably committed that and didn't even know

Sex is good...but learning to live with your choices is better I am finding. Thanks for reading and posting guy!!

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