Out Of The Mouths Of Babes  

ben_jamin007 42M
5 posts
2/26/2006 10:26 am

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Out Of The Mouths Of Babes

"Where ya goin Daddy?" my daughter asked me. I was frustrated with almost every aspect of my life. "Crazy!!" I sort of snapped back at her as I filled my pockets with the necessities (wallet, keys, phone, etc...) to go for a drive to clear my head. "Can I come too?" she innocently asked. I stopped......... Out of the mouths of babes! Do I really think that I'm the only one with problems? Can I not see the feelings/mood I instill in others? WOW!! Many times I recollect this short, conscious epiphany.

If you change your attitude, you can change your point of view. If you change your point of view, you can change the world. It all starts with attitude!!

I challenged myself to make a few changes this year, yes, attitude is one of them. I try to reminisce to a point in my life when I considered myself to be "happy", when I felt everything was going my way, when I felt content with my employment, my life, my family, my education. I come to terms with the fact that I don't think I've ever been happy. I mean for an extended period of time, that is. I realize my priorities are a little askew. A wise Chinese proverb says "If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always gotten" . How profound. How insightful. How obvious. I NEED TO CHANGE!!! Change is difficult. I thought I'd start small.

I know attitude is a pretty big step, but I'm not going to change everything about my attitude. There are a lot of good attributes to my attitude, ones that I revel in. I'll take those and expound on them. For instance, people think I'm a nice guy. That's not necessarily a bad thing. I've always felt that nice guys finish last, but now I realize its not entirely true. When the nice guy sees the "woman of his dreams" riding away on the back of the "bad boy's" motorbike, while still holding the flowers he bought her, the feelings of inadequacy come into play. "Why does this always happen to me?" he asks himself. "What did I do wrong?" I've come to grips.... Nothing! He did nothing wrong! The woman wasn't right for him. A friend told me "things happen for a reason". I now am trying to keep the nice guy attitude. I'm working on being nice to everyone, or at least cordial for that matter. The people I've held a grudge against (because of who they associate with or who their brothers are), the people I don't associate with myself, the people who occasionally show the less than intelligent side of their personality, the people who have "rubbed me wrong" because of what "my friends" said they did, I now extend a hand of professionalism towards. Yes I'm aware that if I try to please everyone, I'll either get walked on or hated by everyone. But honestly, that's not what I'm going for. By being cordial to all (not pleasing everyone), I give no reason for hatred and I release my own animosity. Thus I can forgive, myself as well as others. So far I've been a lot happier with the results

Always be true to yourself, life will follow, eventually happiness will ensue.

LustyTaurus 48M  
21253 posts
2/26/2006 11:10 am

Good Post ben!! I know how you feel...and stay the course!

I wrote a post in my blog a while back when I was feeling sorta crappy, like you describe... Change the world , and I felt better!

Good luck to you!


rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
2/26/2006 12:27 pm

Very good post. Keep em coming...

Purry {=}


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