bellabelissima 52F
16 posts
1/25/2006 1:55 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


Would love some tips from you all. What on earth do you talk about on a first date?

Yeah I know, some of you will advice me not to talk at all on a first date, just listen, hum and go with the flow.

But, sorry... that just does not work for me.

I have to feel some 'other connection', to go anywhere or 'somewhere' with a guy, no matter how 'horny or sexual' I am in general, or feel at that moment.

So, what does one say? What are the 'hot topics to avoid and what are the topics to go for'?

Just came back from a 'monsterous' date where he kept telling me how wonderful I looked and how wonderful he thought I was. He probably thought he had it all together, but in reality, he sounded like a bad old recording, continously repeating himself...I felt like shoving my napkin down his throat... just to see if it had made any difference...

GuyWhoListens2u 56M
325 posts
1/25/2006 9:52 pm

I agree with you about there needing to be a deeper connection before anything physical happens. Without that anything else that happens is pretty empty.

When I first meet someone, I want to see how they talk about former relationships and about thier kids and parents. Is there anything that they are emotional about? What do they spend thier time doing when they are not dating?

Everyone has likes and dislikes, hobbies, fears and desires.. talking about those is something anyone can do.

I would agree.. just talking about your looks is pretty lame. It shows quickly that his attention was on the outside only.

rm_masterchaz30 48M
79 posts
1/26/2006 1:46 pm

Sounds like you have been away from the dating scene awhile. That's kool. When I lost my wife, it was hard for me too. I compared other people and experiences to what was familiar. But, that didn't work. There were things that were unfamiliar before that now drive me wild. I stick to them.

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