How to be noticed on AFF  

beigewalls 41M
10 posts
6/15/2006 11:49 am

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How to be noticed on AFF

Isn't that what we all want? I mean, that's why we're all here, right? To be noticed? To maybe hide from the visible world that we all want sex, intimacy, a lover? So we hang out here for a time hoping to find it?

So what do you have to do to be noticed? How does a man meet a woman from AdultFriendFinder? How does a woman meet a man? Does it ever actually happen in this place?

It seems the women get their pick. All you have to do is open an account on here as a female - I imagine you don't even have to write anything about yourself or post a picture. Within 24 hours I think most women probably are propositioned by a dozen guys... "Hey baby, I saw that you have a vagina. How 'bout I stuff my 13" of manhood up in you?" I think it's that easy.

Maybe that's it though, maybe women on AdultFriendFinder don't want to be propositioned? They want to find a genuine friend? Most women don't want to just be, and excuse the crudeness, but most women probably don't want to just be "fucked". They want gentleness, kindness, intelligence, handsomeness. They want all the things that they would typically look for in a boyfriend, but on AdultFriendFinder they are inundated with requests for sex from a dozen guys daily. Why don't guys have that kind of problem?

Our problem, it seems, is that we are desperate. I doubt we are picky with whom the eventual partner is, we would be happy just to have a partner. And a dozen propositions? Maybe in a year... and that's with a sexy pic and witty writing - you have to win the women over. An impossible task for some, statistically there are just too many guys on here for the women available.

So how do you set yourself apart? How do I go from eagerly checking my inbox every morning, wondering if today will be the day that some woman responds favorably to me, or even... propositions me? Tell me what you're looking for, please. What is it that is most attractive?

A hot body?
A fantasy of someone older or younger?
Convenience of geography?
Availability during the day?
Unmarried/married?
Cute smile?
Able to write a complete sentence?
Similar situation in life?

How do I bridge from Blogville to the genuine physicality of a bedroom? How do I connect with you? How do I make you want to touch me? How do I make you desire my skin on your skin? To hear each other breath, to pant, to gasp? To taste the sweat? How do I do this?

I need to do something to be noticed. I'd put up a naked picture of me, actually me, but I think that's kind of been over done - it doesn't get much attention on here anyway. If I did that on other blogs I think it would work, but AdultFriendFinder is like a virtual nudist colony - everyone is naked, so what's the use.

I'll think about this while I masturbate to someone's AdultFriendFinder pic within my beige walls.


willudomeharder 39F
85 posts
6/15/2006 12:40 pm

Well...I certainly noticed you. You must be doing something right.


sexygrandma1947 69F

6/15/2006 9:10 pm

My photos did the trick for me......over 300 emails in less than 5 days.
Of course, you need to filter through them.
A lot of them don't even bother to read your profile, or they wouldn't ask what they do.


rm_blan71 41M/35F

6/21/2006 7:29 pm

Yea, sometimes it's just cool to find some new friends to hang out with, but then again, it's hot to find another woman or couple too.


ilovelegs000099 36M

7/11/2006 7:00 pm

I have noticed you! Would love to have you notice me!


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