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Pearls of wisdom
Pearls of wisdom
I don't have children yet, but I was thinking about my legacy and what I have learned in life that I could pass down, a few pearls of wisdom on the subject of sex and personal freedom. Perhaps others among you can add to this.
A Few Words of Advice to My Daughter:
You are judged by your looks, but that doesn’t mean you have to accept it.
Be proud of your body. If you gain a few pounds, it’s no big deal.
You are every bit as capable and important as a man.
Try talking to the sweet, shy man in the corner.
Your sexuality is not currency. You cannot be bought and sold, nor should your desires.
Feel free to explore your sexuality, no matter what anyone else says, just be safe.
Never spend more money on clothes and hair than you do on improving your life.
Flatter the men in your life, but leave plenty of room for yourself.
You are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness except your own.
It is your body ‒ it is your right.
A Few Words of Advice to My Son:
When meeting a woman, it helps to smile and say “hello” first.
Bathe, dress well, shave, wear some good cologne, and brush your teeth. Sometimes the little things matter the most.
You have no control over the size of your penis ‒ learn to use it well.
Nothing is ever free. You will pay for nearly every small piece of pleasure in your life.
Money and good looks will get you far in life, but neither will make you truly happy.
Make love to the entire woman, not just her tender parts.
Turn a woman on with her mind and her body will follow.
Don’t fall into the trap that you have nothing to offer a beautiful woman.
The woman is in charge. Get used to it.
10/7/2005 3:11 am
I like all you wrote, but have a problem with the very last sentence.|
Many people (man AND women), when they assume they are in charge dispense with respect, empathy, humility and fairness in their dealings with their partners.
This attitude creates an self-perpetuating spiral of gender-based abuse.
Please, if you do have children, regardless of their gender, guide them into seeing their relevence in a relationship as one part of a partnership where all interests and needs are addressed equally. Equality, BTW, is not the same as 'the same'...
10/7/2005 11:29 am
That last bit was intended to be a bit facetious and tongue-in-cheek. I'm not actually implying that one gender is superior or less relevant than another, although I do believe there is a power dynamic in most relationships in which one partner (male or female) is naturally dominant while the other is submissive. Both partners can still be equal in every way but each adds his or her own unique qualities to the relationship.|
10/12/2005 10:39 am
I love the advice lines. Your advice to your daughter is wonderful. It shows just how thoughtful you are. Things that I know about you, but that most would not unless they too were to spend time with you as I have. The advice to your son however is incredible. I wish that I had thought of some of those things when I looked I my boys. Perhaps as they grow, I will borrow some of those pearls to pass on to them. And I know you well enough to understand the full meaning of that last line...
Take care sweetie...
10/12/2005 1:02 pm
Nice post and sound advice, bedroomice, I like your thoughts and care. Having an adult daughter my advice never came as a list, but from a discourse that arose from trust and has gone on for years. Only by being an active and engaged parent will children adopt those things you hold dear. warm xx|
10/13/2005 4:30 am
Thanks for your comments, Warm. The list is not actually something I plan to present my son or daughter when I do have children, since a list is hardly an intimate way to approach such topics. Rather, they're just talking points, my way of thinking aloud the ideals I hope to pass on. I'm sure the list will grow when I finally do have children, once I have a relationship with them.|
Angel, I have no doubt your boys will become wonderful, respectful gentlemen that any man would envy and any woman would be proud to be with. They have you to guide them!
As for the last line, it's really just common sense, isn't it?
11/17/2005 9:34 am
your wisdom is so real...great post....|